ecm Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 out of "morbid curiosity"? if you like someone? when would you cancel or hide your profile?
USCGAviator Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 I'm talking to someone right now so It's currently hidden.
Author ecm Posted January 2, 2011 Author Posted January 2, 2011 do you still look? I guess I just don't know if I'm rude for having it up still or if he's rude for having his up still. This is crap. :p
USCGAviator Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 Well I do mine purely out of respect...but don't go judging him on my account. Some guys just forget. You could ask him I guess
USCGAviator Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 Then again I hid it once we I knew I would have her around for awhile.
Keridan Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 I would think it's rude or wrong only if you have hit the exclusivity point. If it's wrong to date other people, it's wrong to be open for others to make a move. Before that, it might just be a sweet gesture to remove it, but it can't really be a fair expectation. Not that you shouldn't be transparent about it. Don't hide it if you are going to have it up there, but you don't have to make an official announcement, either. It's a tough line, but not real different than flirting or being open to being hit on in person. If nothing else, be blunt and ask him what he thinks of it
lois_80 Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 I'd dump my gf if she had an active profile on a dating site. Yep, definitely.
Keridan Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 To those who would dump, are you exclusive? I think it makes a difference.
Author ecm Posted January 3, 2011 Author Posted January 3, 2011 (edited) OMG, if he were my "boyfriend" that would be a different story. He's just been weird, and his profile is still up. AAAAAND, he just added like 6 more pics to it...of his recent world travels. He's kind of being a tool at this point, honestly. But, adding 6 new pics kinda makes him look desperate, to be honest. Just wondering. my profile was still up, but I took my picture down right when we started talking more. I kept the account so I could put it back up (picture and all) if I wanted. I guess I thought I was rude for even still HAVING the account. If I put it back up now, I just look like a child. I don't really care if it's up or not, I just like to ask opinions to see if I'm being overly critical. I haven't SAID anything to him about it recently. I asked him a while back why he still has it and his response was "morbid curiosity." Just creepy. HOWEVER, one of my hotter friends actually tried to contact him (he didn't know her and she didn't know I was talking to him) and he hasn't done much to respond. Tool. Edited January 3, 2011 by ecm
PleasantDeviation Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 It's a red flag. Since he just added more pics it means he has no intentions of closing it. He's still shopping.
Author ecm Posted January 3, 2011 Author Posted January 3, 2011 It's a red flag. Since he just added more pics it means he has no intentions of closing it. He's still shopping. I know. You're right. Sometimes I hate having good gut instincts. I think it would be fun to be dumb and not worry about crap all of the time. Thanks
SmileFace Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 He is your "boyfriend" and he still has an active dating profile? Something is really wrong with this.
colliejoanie Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 The last guy I dated told me after our first date that he was taking his profile off the site where we met. I was a little surprised, but thought it was sweet. I deleted mine a week later. If you're dating him exclusively, I'd try to bring it up and say "oh btw, I'm deleting my profile. No point in muddying the waters". See what he says.
Eeyore79 Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 If I was talking to someone or casually getting to know them, I'd probably keep my dating profile active. When it got a bit more serious, I'd list myself as "seeing someone" on those sites that have such an option. If the relationship became exclusive, and I really wanted to make it work and had stopped shopping around, I'd hide my profile. Imo anyone who doesn't hide/remove their dating profile is still shopping around.
PleasantDeviation Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 I know. You're right. Sometimes I hate having good gut instincts. I think it would be fun to be dumb and not worry about crap all of the time. Thanks I hear you. Trust me, I was dumb and ignored all this crap in my previous relationship. It left me heartbroken.
Author ecm Posted January 3, 2011 Author Posted January 3, 2011 He is your "boyfriend" and he still has an active dating profile? Something is really wrong with this. I would agree with you on that. BUT.... no, no, no....he's NOT my "boyfriend". Please, I wouldn't be able to sit at my computer because my foot would be so far up his rear end.... NOT boyfriend, maybe not even really talking anymore. Just asking
SmileFace Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 Phew, I am like has she lost her mind. lol Anyway sorry can't provide an answer it is something I am still trying to figure out myself.
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