WIguy Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 Hey, second post here! Full time single college student who works part time. So heres the somewhat depressing story. I was shopping for clothes at a department store one day and this cute girl who works there commented on me looking at jeans. Well we ended up having an awesome conversation for 20 minutes, I mean like we clicked like no other. Needless to say I got her number. I sent her a text later that night that it was nice talking to her and we should hang out soon. She sent one back saying that we definately should, and that she was nervous around me because of how cute and nice I was. She texted me everyday until I saw her again, I came to visit her at work before I went to class about 5 days after meeting her. Good time, we definately were going somewhere. So we decided to hang out the next day, 6 days after we first met. I took her out for ice cream and then for a ride down to the beach to hang out. It was an awesome time, as she explained it. When I dropped her off at house we very affectionately hugged, and kissed. It was the best date I had ever been on. And apparently her too. So she texts me like every day and what not, I respond but try to keep things on track i.e when were going to hang out next. As far as I could tell she was really into me, she never met a guy like me or went out on a date like that, she repeatedly told me I was awesome etc... Well, 4 days after our date I am expecting her to call or text when she gets her work schedule so we can hang out again sometime. Instead I get a text that she is not over the guy who she recently broke up with and that she wants to stay single for a while. I was dumbfounded, after thinking about it I sent a response that okay..... let me know when you want to date again and if I'm also single at the time we can give it a shot. Well......she continued to text me everyday..... I like hearing from her no-doubt she is an awesome girl. Yet I don't like to be led on by someone who is unavailable. So 5 days of texting since she told me she is not over the other guy, i'm like screw it why not hangout again and see where it goes from there, she is single after all and we could probobly have a good time. She responds that she is back with her boyfriend and he is being "nice" now..... I'm like okay well maybe we should take a break from talking to each other. I let her know I think she is awesome and that when she is single we should definately hang out. I told her that maybe time will bring us together again someday when we both are single. She seemed to like that idea.... I'm single now but who knows who I may meet. Theres my sad story, I met a beautiful awesome girl with mutual attraction. We could say anything and everything to each other and feel comfortable. It just didn't work out at the present time. Yes it saddens me, but I'm not one to reflect on what could have been...... Maybe someday she'll call, maybe she wont. All I hope is I find another girl like her who is available sometime soon. Thanks for reading and comments are welcome. Happy New Years all!
january2010 Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 My gut reaction is that you were her back-up in case a reconciliation with her ex didn't happen. I'm sorry, that's probably not what you wanted to hear. To be honest, I don't really believe in the "wrong time" excuse. I think it's something with which we use to delude ourselves when things don't work out. But it's okay, sometimes we don't necessarily have to know the true reason for a breakup. Sometimes even the dumper doesn't really know themselves. Ultimately, the reason is irrelevant. All relationships end. You seem like a pretty positive guy and not really hung up on what happened - that's a good position to be in.
catgotyourtongue Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 DITTO what January said! And you seem like a thoughtful guy who can appreciate a decent woman, and I am sure you will find a good one, who is available to enjoy you and not be tied into someone else. You are better off for now not being caught up in a messy thing with someone who is hung up on ex. That's never good. I am sorry it did not work out, and that she played with your head, that's not good. you are young and obviously cute (isnt that what she said) and you seem cool, so I hope the available girls will be lining up to have dates with you. Keep a chin up My gut reaction is that you were her back-up in case a reconciliation with her ex didn't happen. I'm sorry, that's probably not what you wanted to hear. To be honest, I don't really believe in the "wrong time" excuse. I think it's something with which we use to delude ourselves when things don't work out. But it's okay, sometimes we don't necessarily have to know the true reason for a breakup. Sometimes even the dumper doesn't really know themselves. Ultimately, the reason is irrelevant. All relationships end. You seem like a pretty positive guy and not really hung up on what happened - that's a good position to be in.
amymarieca Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 I was in an 8 year relationship that ended and I started dating a new guy a week later. It was really soon, but that's how much I liked him. It's never too soon to meet a great person, so she is totally playing games with you. Move on and find someone who deserves a good guy like yourself.
zengirl Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 First of all, I'm going to disagree --- in general --- with the idea that it's "never" the wrong time. I'm not saying that means there's usually waiting for a right time----but timing is a factor. I'm not sure waiting around for it to change ever helps, though. I mean, it depends on the person. Some people can go from relationship to relationship, some even prefer it, and some can't. Me? I generally need downtime after a break-up. There were several times in my life where I needed "Alone Time" but the thing was, I didn't go on dates then. I also had times I needed to wrap up a previous relationship or give it another go. Usually, this wound up being more for me to finish learning the lesson than productive to that relationship, but it was still productive to me. I think where it gets muddled is when people don't really know what they need, they aren't in a good place, and they just do things. . . which it seems is where this girl is coming from. Being as young as she is, I wouldn't consider that a crime, but it does make her a bit "dangerous" to you, I'd say. It sounds like you've cut off contact, which is the right way to go here. You can't change timing, so don't bother thinking about it.
Author WIguy Posted January 2, 2011 Author Posted January 2, 2011 Thanks for the input all, yeah I just got back into dating over the past year after a bit of self improvement which included losing 1/3 my body weight and now I'm looking great. Not too successfull dating yet lol, but theres alott of girls out there and I am learning and getting better. I tend to keep my head up. I'm an open honest outgoing guy, kind of can't wait for the next semester of school to start! Plus I'm moving into my own apartment so I like to think I got alott going for me.
Author WIguy Posted January 4, 2011 Author Posted January 4, 2011 Well...... last night she texted me twice. 4 days after I told her we shouldn't comunicate until were both single again, because obviously she has to get her **** together. First text I got last night was "heyy, how was your new years?" Then after that "Sorry couldn't help but try n talk to u. u have that affect lol. Butttt have a GN I'll ttyl." WTF? ^ Wow my emotions seem like a big toy to play with. I didn't send her a text back. Should I? What should I say? What I want to say is "when ya dump ur loser ass boyfriend, u can come ova to my place n we can talk about it." I usually like to think for a few hours before I respond to something like this though.
denise_xo Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 WTF? ^ Wow my emotions seem like a big toy to play with. I didn't send her a text back. Should I? What should I say? What I want to say is "when ya dump ur loser ass boyfriend, u can come ova to my place n we can talk about it." I usually like to think for a few hours before I respond to something like this though. Ignore the texts and don't respond. At this point, pretty much any response is engaging in her games.
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