whose stories on LS personally affect you?

[northern_sky]

This isn't a popularity contest, but I'm curious to know which members' stories strike a personal chord with you. Maybe they're LSers who are often thwarted by love, or whose struggles you can relate to in some fashion. For whatever reason, you're really rooting for them. I'll omit my friends on the site, since my interest in their lives go without saying.

 

But these are the users whose struggles I keep revisiting:

 

-sedgwick

-paddington bear

There was this member Trigger who posted a few threads on LS in 2007 that really got to me. I often wonder what happened to her.

[climbergirl]

RecordProducer

Blind_otter

Woggle

 

All struggles I can relate.

[OceanGirl]

Heh apart from the obvious:

 

paddington_bear

spookie

some of johan's "real" threads

panda_girl

love_lace

always_searching

[january2010]

I'm touched by everyone's stories in one way or another. Even newbies with only one post to their name.

 

I do find it frustrating sometimes though when some posters go round and round in circles and never seem to get out of negative cycles. Selfishly perhaps, I like to see people progress. With those posters who don't progress, I'm less interested in looking at new threads (re-visiting) because there's too much re-hashing and it's just not very interesting to see them bringing up the same issues over and over again ad nauseum and completely dismissing any advice that anyone offers.

 

I think that some people just want to vent most of the time and don't really want advice or support. Or perhaps they just want attention and to be indulged. Who knows?

 

Yes, progression is what I like to see. But that's not up to me or within my control.

Edited January 2, 2011 by january2010

[northern_sky]

I'm touched by everyone's stories in one way or another. Even newbies with only one post to their name.

 

I do find it frustrating sometimes though when some posters go round and round in circles and never seem to get out of negative cycles. Selfishly perhaps, I like to see people progress. With those posters who don't progress, I'm less interested in looking at new threads (re-visiting) because there's too much re-hashing and it's just not very interesting to see them bringing up the same issues over and over again ad nauseum and completely dismissing any advice that anyone offers.

 

I think that some people just want to vent most of the time and don't really want advice or support. Or perhaps they just want attention and to be indulged. Who knows?

 

Yes, progression is what I like to see. But that's not up to me or within my control.

 

It's funny, I actually get more disturbed, interested in and personally affected by the users who repeat their cycles, or keep encountering the same rejections over and over, and you can't figure out whether it's because of something about them or other people. But maybe that's just my fascination with pathology coupled with the fact that I struggle breaking my own cycles. The human psyche never fails to amaze me.

Edited January 2, 2011 by northern_sky

[OceanGirl]

It's funny, I actually get more disturbed, interested in and personally affected by the users who repeat their cycles, or keep encountering the same rejections over and over, and you can't figure out whether it's because of something about them or other people. But maybe that's just my fascination with pathology coupled with the fact that I struggle breaking my own cycles. The human psyche never fails to amaze me.

 

Same here. Progression bores me, people that are stuck fascinate me. And I can never really tell if it's really bad luck or more than that. They really make me think.

 

Sedge is also one that I follow but I didn't want to completely copy n_sky She is one of the people that seem most stuck of on LS and she expresses her pain beautifully.

[january2010]

It's funny, I actually get more disturbed, interested in and personally affected by the users who repeat their cycles, or keep encountering the same rejections over and over, and you can't figure out whether it's because of something about them or other people. But maybe that's just my fascination with pathology coupled with the fact that I struggle breaking my own cycles. The human psyche never fails to amaze me.

 

I have a background in psychology and whilst I'm still very interested in the human condition, having read so many inspirational stories about how people have overcome adversity under the most harrowing conditions, it amazes me that seemingly small setbacks can send others spiralling into the abyss again. I have to keep reminding myself that we are individuals and that we all have our own cross to bear.

 

However, I think that boundaries are important, more so online where we tend to be more uninhibited and don't necessarily have the controls we do in real life. Being able to draw the line and maintain it is important in not allowing ourselves to be sucked into the negativity of others. It's draining and you can only do so much before you have to step away and take a break to recharge yourself. And then you step into the fray again to do what you can.

 

Regarding progression, I like to see people get better. I don't like to see them stuck. I feel that it's encouraging them to be unhealthy, whether that's vocalised or not.

Edited January 2, 2011 by january2010

[catgotyourtongue]

Have to agree here with @January2010 statements.

 

 

I am pretty new but have had some good awareness from these posters

 

Surrealist

Carhill

zen_girl

[Star Gazer]

Progression bores me, people that are stuck fascinate me.

 

That explains a lot, OG. Why would you ever want to break your own unhealthy, destructive patterns if you feel this way?

 

I absolutely feel the opposite. I do not like seeing people stuck. It frustrates me and makes me sad. Very little can be learned from stagnation. And after a long enough time, seeing someone repeat the same patterns over and over again becomes really boring.

 

Progress, on the other hand, is exciting to see. I am fascinated by those who not only have a breakthrough, but employ it to actually make positive change in their lives. I find it inspiring.

 

Regarding progression, I like to see people get better. I don't like to see them stuck. I feel that it's encouraging them to be unhealthy, whether that's vocalised or not.

 

I agree with everything you said, January, but particularly this. I couldn't agree more. This is why I've often said I don't think OG and Sky, as much as they like each other, do each other any good.

[TheWatcher]

Woggle

 

I appreciate the bitterness,anger & mistrust expressed in his posts.

 

zengirl

 

I find her to be extremely insightful & intelligent.From

reading her posts,I gather that she is high-quality

woman.

[Yer_Blues]

I don't follow anybody really, but I like reading posts by Tara_Maiden, Surrealist, Feelin Frisky, Paddington Bear, dreamingoftigers, crackerJack, january2010, and zengirl.

 

I really appreciate Hokie's posting style and forward nature, even if I don't always agree with him.

 

Also peek to see if jeanlucsicko has found his normal knowledge yet, despite everybody trying to stop him.

Edited January 2, 2011 by Yer_Blues

[kdark]

I miss Jersey_Shortie. She always had wonderful, argument inspiring posts.

 

And Isolde. She needs to come around more often. She always asks great questions that I wonder about as well.

 

And of course I enjoy, Woggle. And the younger, more militant version of Woggle, musemaji.

Edited January 2, 2011 by kdark

[tinktronik]

Gunny's struggles to garner contact and then bond with his adult children really struck a chord in me as I have both managed to be on the Father/Daughter spectrum side of his situation as well as raising my sons part-time. It has helped to teach me the level I need to be at to not let my own situation to linger too long. I have also learned to keep in touch with my own father and to look beyond what he may say to what he does.

 

I miss reading Outcast's and Merin's replies as well.

[january2010]

I agree with everything you said, January, but particularly this. I couldn't agree more. This is why I've often said I don't think OG and Sky, as much as they like each other, do each other any good.

 

'Misery loves company'. I refer to it as 'collective wallowing'. I don't write that to be provocative. Sometimes it helps to know that someone else feels our pain and that we are not alone. If we recognise that this is a temporary state and that things will get better, then a little self-indulgence now and again is okay. But when we allow that to define us so that it colours everything we do, including who we chose as friends, it's toxic.

 

I guess that given the nature of LS, it can encourage friendships like these to form. Many are at a very vulnerable point in their lives and they're reaching out for comfort and support. If those friendships can move beyond the wallowing, then I don't see that as a bad thing. If they can't...I hope something can be done before there's a huge falling out.

 

Anyway, I think I might be taking this thread into a potentially iffy direction, so apologies, northern_sky.

Edited January 2, 2011 by january2010

[Star Gazer]

'Misery loves company'. I refer to it as 'collective wallowing'. I don't write that to be provocative. Sometimes it helps to know that someone else feels our pain and that we are not alone. If we recognise that this is a temporary state and that things will get better, then a little self-indulgence now and again is okay. But when we allow that to define us so that it colours everything we do, including who we chose as friends, it's toxic.

 

I guess that given the nature of LS, it can encourage friendships like these to form. Many are at a very vulnerable point in their lives and they're reaching out for comfort and support. If those friendships can move beyond the wallowing, then I don't see that as a bad thing. If they can't...I hope something can be done before there's a huge falling out.

 

Again, I agree. However, if both people involved in the friendship enjoy being stuck and are fascinated by their stationary positions, their collective wallowing is unlikely to change, and will, as you so eloquently put it, color everything they do and become toxic to their well-being...if it hasn't already.

[catgotyourtongue]

Gain good insight also from

 

Feelin Frisky

january2010

pandagirl

 

I also get very frustrated watching people do and say same things over and over and play woe is me and have no clue about their own cause in things, it's tough to watch people take up a lot of other peoples time or abuse others kindness just for purely selfish gain all the time, and not try and change their choices, patterns behaviors and blame others for their woes. So I enjoy seing progress and posts where people are giving good advice, or asking the OP good questions or calling people out on their shi* in a healthy way which inspires or hopefully might inspire them to grow, change, explore...and get out of their own way...

 

 

hugs and big LS shout out

[Star Gazer]

And Isolde. She needs to come around more often. She always asks great questions that I wonder about as well.

 

She's around, she just doesn't speak publicly much.

[january2010]

Again, I agree. However, if both people involved in the friendship enjoy being stuck and are fascinated by their stationary positions, their collective wallowing is unlikely to change, and will, as you so eloquently put it, color everything they do and become toxic to their well-being...if it hasn't already.

 

Shall we leave it there, Star Gazer? - Feel that we may have hijacked this thread and gone well beyond it's original remit!

 

Also peek to see if jeanlucsicko has found his normal knowledge yet, despite everybody trying to stop him.

 

PMSL - I was completely drawn in by his conversation with Tara_Maiden on that thread.

[Star Gazer]

I've learned a lot from sunshinegirl, D-Lish and Kamille; they've all made giant leaps from where they were a few years ago.

 

I'm sure there are others, but those are the three that stand out to me.

[january2010]

Shall we leave it there, Star Gazer? - Feel that we may have hijacked this thread and gone well beyond it's original remit!

 

Oops, apologies for the stray apostrophe.

[tigressA]

I'm routinely struck (in a good way) by posts from:

 

--Feelin Frisky

--Elswyth

--Star Gazer

--TBF

--Kamille

--D-Lish

--JustJoe

--Hokie

 

One poster here who makes me really sad to read her threads is GooseChaser. She seems like such a sweetheart, but so hopelessly naive. I just want to give her a big hug...after I figuratively knock some sense into her.

[lovelydemon]

catgotyourtongue

paddington_bear

surrealist

feeling frisky

jersey shortie

zengirl

and a couple more names I can't remember right now.

[sweetjasmine]

And of course I enjoy, Woggle. And the younger, more militant version of Woggle, musemaji.

 

Huh. They strike me as very different people. I like reading Woggle's posts about moving forward and trying to be more positive. It makes me sad to see him "relapse", but I think a lot of us are rooting for him. He seems like a kind person who's just having a hard time battling some big demons. So I guess Woggle's story strikes a chord - not because I can relate but because I empathize. Wogs, you're a cool guy, even though a lot of the stuff you write drives me nuts.

 

The stories from the regulars in the LDR forum also strike a chord, although I don't chime in as much in threads anymore. The best part is when people finally end up together, like Rollercoasterr and her husband and Elswyth and her boyfriend.

[pandagirl]

Oh wow. I'm flattered that some people mentioned me!

 

I enjoy hearing what Kamille, D-Lish and Isolde always have to say, though they're not around that much these days.

 

There are other people I respect and listen to in this site, but I'm tired and can't think of them right now!

[USMCHokie]

oh yeah erikaH or what ever. Seems like USMC and her are real life friends? PM me some one if u want to explain this

 

Yes, we are.

 

And Green, I think you and I would make decent bros in real life.