xpaperxcutx Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 New Years has been kind to me. I recently met a guy ( coincidentally on the subway) and while introductions were lukewarm at best, we finally struck it off last night ( on NYE) and went on our first " date" ( his word; not mine) tonight. First things that struck me about him- cute and gorgeous. A Russian immigrant, he's working in Real Estate, but also making a little cash on the side by dancing on weekends. He is incredibly articulate despite a hint of an accent, and he had no problem speaking his mind ( in fact, we even talked about the subject of marriage and family). Cons- he's too smooth in terms of impressions. He certainly didn't feel like he had anything to hide and when I asked him about his past girlfriends, he remarked they were mostly Asians. He also symbolized the total count of his relationships with an infinity sign, which set off an alarm in my head about him jumping from girls to girls to girls. He's clearly interested in me, but I'm a little on alert about his need to constantly stare at my face and compliment me about having a "beautiful face "( again his words; not mine). He didn't really have much else to compliment about me, but did make remarks about my eyes ( because I wear contacts) or about my hair ( which is dyed). He has said he would love to see me again and we can go out dancing and I love the idea, but, is he worth dating long term or can we simply label him a short term fling?
northern_sky Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 New Years has been kind to me. I recently met a guy ( coincidentally on the subway) and while introductions were lukewarm at best, we finally struck it off last night ( on NYE) and went on our first " date" ( his word; not mine) tonight. First things that struck me about him- cute and gorgeous. A Russian immigrant, he's working in Real Estate, but also making a little cash on the side by dancing on weekends. He is incredibly articulate despite a hint of an accent, and he had no problem speaking his mind ( in fact, we even talked about the subject of marriage and family). Dancing? I hope you don't mean of the exotic variety... Cons- he's too smooth in terms of impressions. He certainly didn't feel like he had anything to hide and when I asked him about his past girlfriends, he remarked they were mostly Asians. He also symbolized the total count of his relationships with an infinity sign, which set off an alarm in my head about him jumping from girls to girls to girls. He's clearly interested in me, but I'm a little on alert about his need to constantly stare at my face and compliment me about having a "beautiful face "( again his words; not mine). He didn't really have much else to compliment about me, but did make remarks about my eyes ( because I wear contacts) or about my hair ( which is dyed). He has said he would love to see me again and we can go out dancing and I love the idea, but, is he worth dating long term or can we simply label him a short term fling? If you want my honest opinion, he sounds sleazy based on your description. Red flags: Asian fetish, infinity sign crap, focus on the superficial. Sounds like he objectifies women. Short term material only. And use protection!
USMCHokie Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 If you want my honest opinion, he sounds sleazy based on your description. Red flags: Asian fetish, infinity sign crap, focus on the superficial. Sounds like he objectifies women. Short term material only. And use protection! This. .....
northern_sky Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 When I read the OP I thought of Vlad from the movie "Happiness".
runner Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 sounds a bit of a player (and no i'm not hating ). yea, short term variety- at least until he proves you wrong.
ivalm Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 I would think infinity sign is a red flag. Also, he dances on weekends for extra cash? Could be a red flag..
Author xpaperxcutx Posted January 2, 2011 Author Posted January 2, 2011 Dancing? I hope you don't mean of the exotic variety... Yes, unfortunately he's a straight man dancing at a gay night club. If you want my honest opinion, he sounds sleazy based on your description. Red flags: Asian fetish, infinity sign crap, focus on the superficial. Sounds like he objectifies women. Short term material only. And use protection!Okay, yes, I'm incredibly turned off by his need to emphasize his attractions towards Asian woman, it makes me feel like I'm someone he only likes because I fit a certain mold. Also, the infinity sign whether a joke or a not, raised severe red flags that dictate that he dates a lot of woman. You are right, he's completely superficial. Well then back to the drawing board... and no I did not have sex with him.
northern_sky Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 Yes, unfortunately he's a straight man dancing at a gay night club. Okay, yes, I'm incredibly turned off by his need to emphasize his attractions towards Asian woman, it makes me feel like I'm someone he only likes because I fit a certain mold. Also, the infinity sign whether a joke or a not, raised severe red flags that dictate that he dates a lot of woman. You are right, he's completely superficial. Well then back to the drawing board... and no I did not have sex with him. I agree. The guys I've known who had Asian fetishes were invariably superficial in how they treated and responded to women. Also, he may be bisexual for all you know. It's hard for me to imagine a totally straight guy being comfortable stripping at a gay club. Personally, I don't date bi guys so that would be a deal-breaker.
ivalm Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 Yes, unfortunately he's a straight man dancing at a gay night club. And yet there was ever a question? Holly crap sometimes girls surprise me.
zengirl Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 New Years has been kind to me. I recently met a guy ( coincidentally on the subway) and while introductions were lukewarm at best, we finally struck it off last night ( on NYE) and went on our first " date" ( his word; not mine) tonight. First things that struck me about him- cute and gorgeous. A Russian immigrant, he's working in Real Estate, but also making a little cash on the side by dancing on weekends. He is incredibly articulate despite a hint of an accent, and he had no problem speaking his mind ( in fact, we even talked about the subject of marriage and family). Cons- he's too smooth in terms of impressions. He certainly didn't feel like he had anything to hide and when I asked him about his past girlfriends, he remarked they were mostly Asians. He also symbolized the total count of his relationships with an infinity sign, which set off an alarm in my head about him jumping from girls to girls to girls. He's clearly interested in me, but I'm a little on alert about his need to constantly stare at my face and compliment me about having a "beautiful face "( again his words; not mine). He didn't really have much else to compliment about me, but did make remarks about my eyes ( because I wear contacts) or about my hair ( which is dyed). He has said he would love to see me again and we can go out dancing and I love the idea, but, is he worth dating long term or can we simply label him a short term fling? He sounds slimey to me, but I'm more straight-laced, I guess. I definitely don't dig guys with ethnic fetishes. I'm half-Asian, and that stuff freaks me out. It feels very generic and impersonal.
paleblue Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 Sounds short term at best. I could be wrong, but doubt it.
Green Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 is he worth dating long term or can we simply label him a short term fling? I don't think dating him long term is an option. A short term fling sounds pointless. He's not worth anything. You have bad taste in men, lucky for you some guy will eventualy have good taste in you and make it happen. He sounds slimey to me, but I'm more straight-laced, I guess. I definitely don't dig guys with ethnic fetishes. I'm half-Asian, and that stuff freaks me out. It feels very generic and impersonal. whats your other half? You should put a picture of urself in an album on LS for those of us curious to see what you look like.
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