angelj Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 So I started dating someone from my past. We grew up in a small town, knew each other from middle school and high school. he used to terrorize me growing up - teasing me taunting me, all the typical behaviors. well, we lost touch for the last 10 years and we reconnected via facebook. we hit it off, picked up where we left off and discovered that i had a hidden crush and all the years he antagonized me, so did he. We spent a lot of time together the weeks I was in our small town (i live an hour away) I met all of his friends, family. He was so excited to have me in his life as someone to date. his parents had been hearing all about me... i guess my gaurd was also down because he was someone from my past. a little background on him - he drinks. a lot. we are 28. he has been laid off bc a company closed and he now lives at home again. started a company printing tees for surf shops. is an amazing painter. sells artwork. paints surf boards. definitely has some addictions - pretty sure it goes beyond pills. consistently said i was the only good girl he has ever been with. has gone "full throttle" for ten years and i made him re evaluate his lifestyle. all the women he has ever dated he has ended up doing drugs with. and lost his best friend due to a drug overdose. (this sounds a lot worse when i see it in print) i really enjoyed our time. even when i left to head back an hour away, we still talked often. tuesday i called him around 8 pm and he was already drunk with friends. he called me once he was home and then called me several times when he couldn't sleep. made all these plans to visit for the week, dinners, elaborate plans. well, wednesday rolls around and i finally reach him at 6:30 pm. he was caught up in surfboards and painting. i asked if he was coming to visit and he said, "oh i said that when I was drunk I mean I was going to but then we went to lunch... and then I was going to but then we went to the warehouse..." I didn't even respond angry. I laughed and said ahh so you're sellin me out arent ya and he says, "well how am I selling you out? wait is this our first fight babe?" then says he had to call me back - heard a lot of men in the background. Well guess what, he never called. i left him a VM on NYE... its been 3 days since we talked. nothing. from someone who was worshipping the ground I walked on and calling me his gf and the girl he would be stupid to lose... I am lost. um, help?
Surrealist Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 LAUNCH!!!! No seriously, LAUNCH!!!! I love saying that..... LAUNCH!!!! This guy is no good. He is a chronic alcohol and drug user / abuser. He seems like he cannot keep to his word. Big promises, little action. Thumbs down from me.
Author angelj Posted January 2, 2011 Author Posted January 2, 2011 and typically i would run like hell. i dont know why i keep searching for reasons why this is happening. its likely in front of my face. someone with addictions cannot function normally. i guess its the history and the sweet side that blinded me? as i said, totally lost!
Surrealist Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 Well I guess at this tragic point all we can do is refer you to the following thread for an activity in self-reflection.... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t258898/
Author angelj Posted January 2, 2011 Author Posted January 2, 2011 hmm well self reflection is important but i have not developed a pattern in dating men with substance abuse issues. i guess i was trying to discover if there was something else causing this flakiness. it blindsided me because of the way things had been going. 4 days with nc seems to be completely rude when its someone you call your girlfriend.
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