zipperz19 Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 Alright, I'd just like some insight on this girl I met about a month ago. I met her at work....she is pretty new but has a higher position than I do. I don't want to rush into asking her out as it is a bit frowned upon to date highers. We're allowed it just isn't common. I don't want to look like an idiot and get rejected and have the whole work place know about it. There are about 20 of us working...she has an office job while I do odd jobs. She often comes from her office to help me do my work. She tells me about how she is single and her friends can't understand why she is. A few times she has mentioned to me about movies she wants to see. We went out of the province for a week with work and there was a large dinner at the end. I drank a little to much and ended up fooling around with another girl in front of the girl from my work. When the girl went to the washroom the girl from my work came up to me and gave me quite the speech about why I should just go back to my room and not sleep with her. She told me I would regret it in the morning and it seemed to really bother her. I asked her why I shouldn't and she said she "liked" me but I wasn't sure what like she had meant. Now, a few friends of mine have known her for a few months longer than I have and often go drinking with her and her friends. She is constantly introducing them to her friends but never offers me to go to the club or meet her friends. I'm pretty sure my friend likes her as well so I try to hide the fact I like her. I really like her but she really confuses the hell out of me. I haven't had a crush on a girl for a long time and usually I'd just ask her out but due to the work circumstances I'm cautious. I should mention I'm 20 and she is 22. Thoughts?
Surrealist Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 Surrealist looks into his crystal ball and sees a girl who likes a guy 2 years younger than her. She doesn't want to make it too obvious she likes the little guy because she believes that it is the guy's duty to ask the lady on a date. The little guy is perplexed and feeling confused by the seeming ambiguity displayed by this older girl. The little guy seeks some insight and harnesses the information to build the resolve to go and ask the lady on a date. The lady complies, the little guy scores a date with the older girl and the final image in the crystal ball of the boy and girl embraced in one another's arms kissing and smooching fades into a serene blankness.
paddington bear Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 From my female perspective: You had a crush on this girl. She dropped broad hints to you 'I am single' 'I would like to see this movie' You did nothing. Fast forward to the party. Instead of talking and spending time with the girl you actually have a crush on. You fool around with some other girl in full view of the girl you actually do want. Were you trying to make her jealous or something? If this girl from work liked you, and I think she did, you've kind of blown it. What you did was just mean and sent totally mixed signals to her. A similar situation happened to me recently, me being the girl from work in the scenario. And now I'm thinking "he's blown it, could have had me if he wanted me, but he made it clear that wanted the other girl and I don't want to be second best."
Author zipperz19 Posted January 2, 2011 Author Posted January 2, 2011 (edited) I don't think I was trying to make her jealous....honestly I didn't even know she was there watching till she came and talked to me. I drank a little to much...it wasn't the smartest move. I really couldn't tell if she liked me. She is really cute and at work it is 80% males, I really didn't think she had interest in me. I'm kinda clueless sometimes. I do have her number however and will see her at work tomorrow. Maybe it's time I step up and say something. I hate this part, lol. I'm hoping I didn't blow it. I really like her and I'd like to be more than just friends. Should I bring up the party and ask her about it? Or should I try not to bring that up ever again? I'm hoping I can try and explain everything. Edited January 2, 2011 by zipperz19
january2010 Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 I'm hoping I didn't blow it. I really like her and I'd like to be more than just friends. Should I bring up the party and ask her about it? Or should I try not to bring that up ever again? I'm hoping I can try and explain everything. I think you may have. Sorry. I definitely don't think you should bring up what happened at the party. She may just see it as a line. In any case, getting involved with someone at work is inadvisable. Even if your company doesn't have a policy against it, you're likely to be seen as unprofessional and it could hamper your opportunities within that company.
Author zipperz19 Posted January 3, 2011 Author Posted January 3, 2011 Well thanks for the thoughts. I appreciate it.
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