tigressA Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 I love OKC. I've met a lot of people from that site, got a couple of short-term relationships out of it, as well as a very close friendship. I've had only two unsuccessful dates (as in no chemistry/boring, etc) out of the whole lot. I've never tried any other site. I'm female, 23.
irc333 Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 I Find POF to be better than OKC by far....OKC is matching me up with a lot of overweight women as of late, not sure why. (not meaning to be cruel, but they are on obese side) But if you click ona pr ofile, and funny where it says, "Similar users" you can find the more desirable women there. ..go figure. But they are rather limited on their selection, where as on POF, there's plenty to choose from. I only like OKC. I joined POF and got about 50 messages in first 24 hours and most were guys looking for sex. They were also saying things like What's up? or Wanna cum to my place tonite? I never logged in afterwards. I was on Match for a while and met a few men from there. Mostly, I found them to be businessy types that were not creative and kind of dumb. The intelligence level on that site is just I joined EH and filled in their questionare only for them to come back with the personality type that was clearly not me. I never went back. The only problem with OKC is that there are not enough men in my area and most are really just not datable. I have been trying to give them a shot anyway - with no success. I also found that for me, the longer I communicate with someone before the meeting, the better chance that I like them in person. This is mostly due to the fact that I have already invested time/energy into lengthy correspondence so unless a guy is drastically different from his profile/pics - I will like him. It is also that if I keep corresponding with him over a longer period of time, I at least like the way he writes and am not bored by him. If I meet a guy after I exchange few messages only, I have nothing invested. Unless he blows me away on the first date (which pretty much never happens) I am more inclined to just go meh and click on the next profile.
Butterflying Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 But you're on THIS site... which means you DO surf the web! I agree though, it's difficult to find (and actually to write) a realistic profile. I've been using this site for years. I come here for advice "occasionally." It's no different than doing online research. Sometimes I just brows and give other's advice, kinda like a civic duty I'm not here 24 hrs a day. And I never come here hoping to find someone to spend the rest of my "Real Life" with. Loveshack is the total opposite of dating sites because most of us don't even use our real names an photos. We DON'T want anyone to know who we really are.
carhill Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 Male, 51 here. Been using online dating sites since 1996. Some I've used.. Matchmaker Yahoo American Singles Match Lavaplace Dating.ru Jdate Some of the list is reflective of the pre-'modern' era. Only ones I've used lately are Yahoo (now dead), Match and Jdate. I haven't tried most of the ones LS'ers use. I use online dating as a method of contact. I don't chat, do long-winded e-mails, etc., rather contact those I like and, if mutual, meet them in real life. I've met dozens over the last 15 years all over the world. I met my now exW on Matchmaker back in 1999.
Eeyore79 Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 I preferred OKC because it's free. Not only does that mean I don't have to pay, it also avoids the situation (which often happens on paid sites like Match) where you message someone and they can't reply because they don't have a full current subscription paid up to date. Of course, people tend to be more serious about finding a LTR on paid sites like Match, because they're paying for it! Those looking for casual relationships or sex often gravitate towards free sites. I never had any problems with OKC though; I met plenty of decent people who were looking for a LTR, you just have to be selective.
fishtaco Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 Had brief experience with dating sites. Too much investment for too little return, I lost interest. OKC does a good job trying to keep people interested, with nice interface and things to do, multiple ways to get people to talk to each other. If I remember correctly, they even thanked me every time I sent out a message. So they get kudos for trying. POF is superior in the sense that there are more people on there. Online dating is even more about numbers and quantity than real life dating. Haven't tried anything else. I was turned off by the idea that for men, you have to: - Write short messages that are somewhat relevant to the women's profile - Send out these short messages as often as you can... i.e. spam as many profiles as you can - Focus on women that recently signed up Some say pay sites are better, because the women on there are more serious than the free sites. Maybe, maybe not. But I'll stick with real life dating.
OceanGirl Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 Men on Match seem to have more money. Every guy I met on Match thought nothing of taking me to super expensive restaraunt on the first date. Men on OKC are more intelligent. But generally, they choose cheaper places for dates and some didn't even offer to pay for me. I still prefer OKC men.
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