justaname Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 i'm a serial monogamist. i can count the number of women i've been with on two hands, and i've been in relationships with all but one. and of those relationships, all but one got way past the "i love you" stage. still, i've only *really* been in love with a few women. one of those is someone i can't be with. we're incredibly close in every other way. in an effort to save our friendship and my sanity, i started dating. i met a girl recently, we got along well, and although i wasn't feeling strong chemistry, i decided to just go along with things. she's great and i feel super-comfortable around her, but the chemistry and connection just don't seem to be there. it doesn't seem fair if my heart's not in it, for whatever reason that may be.
kdark Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 I think you should listen to the wisdom offered in The Clash song of the same name as your thread title. "If you go there will be trouble. But if you stay there will be double." You aren't attracted to her, so you should stop leading her on. And thanks for getting such a good song stuck in my head!
AverageJoe Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 So, you really have no idea who you are. Everything you know is based on being a relationship junkie, allowing others to fill that vacuum.
welikeincrowds Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 And thanks for getting such a good song stuck in my head! Same bro, same. You were smart to see it to its end, but you have to listen to yourself when you feel the end. I wouldn't look at it as leading her on, but leading yourself on. welikeincrowds's musing time: You know, no one wants an ending. I don't think there is a such thing as a pleasant ending. At least, the closest thing to a pleasant ending is being at peace with the end of things being the only valid expectation for life. "My only friend, the end". It behooves us to become close friends with him, the End, because we can depend on him to be there for us, until the end.
oliviahopkins Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 Hi, I think you should date as many women as you can. Now, i'm certainly not saying go out and shag every women you get your hands on, just spend time and enjoy each other's company. Trust me when i say, you will find more than one you're comfortable with. Just a matter of numbers. The more you date, the closer you'll get to the next one you're comfortable with. Happy Dating.
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