northern_sky Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 It was just sort of a feeling. He didn't say it, and I'm not sure if that was increasing his stress, or if his stress was just increasing. But it does seem to be getting higher in general. Really, in the end, there is probably not TOO much I can do about it. He's going to be stressed, and that's understandable, and I can accept it. I'm just trying to take extra care to be a help and not a hindrance, because he deserves all the support he can get. I guess I feel especially bad because others -- especially his partners at work -- are not supporting him the way they "should" be. It sucks. I hate whenever I see vampires like that preying on good people, like my BF. In the end, he'll get a division in the next company, and it isn't likely that his success will be as tied to them farther in the future, which will be good, and part of why he agreed to this deal that's turned so stressful. Not that I can do anything about all that. I am just doing what I can to be a supportive partner. He has great roommates and family as well, who are hopefully helping. If your gut is that it was increasing his stress, then you're probably right that there isn't much you can do. Maybe even doing nothing will be comforting to him, because it will show him that his stress isn't contagious and that you're consistent. I know it's hard to sit back and watch when a loved one is under stress and try not to intervene in some way. I struggle with this myself; I find it hard to let go of the need to control at times.
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