I miss him

[tobydog]

I miss him and want to talk to him. I miss our chats....... I still love him....

[2010_Sorry]

I know the feeling!

 

Do you think he's the same person now that he once was? I think it's okay to grieve the loss of the relationship, but I really doubt talking to him would be anything like it used to be.

 

This is going to be a great year tobydog... for all of us. Be strong!!

[vtbrokenhearted]

2010_Sorry, you have asked such great questions! I have felt the same way too, and no one asked me those questions...but I figured it out after I pushed to talk with him. He's a completely different person now. It's so strange.

 

Again, I'm telling myself I want to talk with him. Maybe because I miss him, but more so because not knowing what the heck is happening and not have communication is driving me insane. But a friend today asked, "Why?" and then reminded me that, "every time you talk with him, he is so mean to you, and you spend a week getting back on your feet. Stop beating yourself up. Stop letting him take control of your life."

 

It's taken some time, but I now have very little expectation. He is a completely different person. I think even with all of the great advice, one has to experience it to really understand. Having other people to talk with or to listen to, to relate to is one of the most helpful pieces of being here.

 

Good luck, Tobydog.

[tobydog1]

You are completely right.....He is gone, the man I loved and the good father, altered beyong belief.

vtb- I feel the same way too, not knowing etc

But we have to move on and I am determined to be stronger.

Take care x

 

PS, he deleted my email account so had to re-register as tobydog1! It's still me tho!

Debbie

[worlybear]

Hey Tobydog- how're you doing? I understand totally how you feel- its very hard when the person you thought you knew disappears and is replaced by someone you don't know at all.I still miss my ex although he is not worth it- lets hope for better things in 2011!:bunny: