Capthxc Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 First off, happy New Years to all. Hope everyone around here had a wonderful holiday. I wont get into the major details with my situation. But a few weeks ago I posted a thread here about how my ex told me she still cares about me after 3 months of very limited contact. Well, since then we didn't talk until Christmas hit. I sent her the typical Merry Christmas message and things started to unravel from there... We talked for a while that night. Nothing serious or emotional. Just did some catching up and had a pretty good conversation from there. Since then, its turned into an every day thing. We're talking to each other like we used to when we were a couple, minus the I love yous and other honeymoon phase lines. I try to cut the conversations short when i can, sometimes its successful and other times i just tell myself screw it. Well, the other night she busted out some serious talk on me. Straight up asked me if my friends and family hate her for the things that happened. I was honest with her and told her they didn't, because I never made her out to be the bad guy. She then told me that the break up was pretty hard for her, probably just as rough for her as it was for me and how she didn't really want to go into details with it, which i respected. I told her I thought she hated me because of my selfish behavior and she told me i couldn't be any farther from the truth, and she said she was avoiding me because she thought I was angry with her, which was also pretty far from the truth. She was telling me how I seem like i'm a much more confident and different person now, and how she cant explain how happy she is to see me make these changes. We left it off at that, even though i was about ready to burst open with my emotions towards her about reconciling and the such. But I just felt like it wasn't the right thing to do since we have only been talking for 3 or 4 days at that point. We broke up because I started pushing things onto her, and I dont want to start pushing again. We didn't really talk yesterday for New Years, but i assume that's because she was busy doing stuff with her family. She told me she wasn't gonna go out because she had to work in the morning and what not. Anyways, I'm a little uncertain on how to approach this situation. I've never reconciled with an ex before, but that's because all of the other ones i've dated prior to her were terrible people and i had no interest in working things out with them and had no issues moving on. It's a different ball game with this one. And the few months we have spent apart plus the long conversations we have been indulging on lately have only proven to me that shes the one person I want to fight for.
Duckduckgoose Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 I've got my fingers crossed for you, I really hope this leads where you want it to. Just take it slow. Don't do the things you did the first time that pushed her away.
Author Capthxc Posted January 1, 2011 Author Posted January 1, 2011 She's starting to post random, some what cryptic messages on her AIM status now too. For the 4 months we have been split, she hasnt updated it once until we started talking again. I'm taking it slow and for the moment i wont be bringing up any emotional issues or reconciliation issues. I'll let her approach me with them unless i feel like the opportunity has arisen. Thanks by the way. Really hope it does work out for the better. The fact that i'm able to hold my emotions in this long is proof enough that i'm ready to work things out with her again.
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