jjborderline Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 (edited) i'm a female and had a gay relationship with a women for almost four years. we were wonderful together spend a really good bonding. we had survived a lot of challenges within the relationship but we cant mantain a long distance relationship. she keeps on leaving and whenever she leaves, she had serious flings or boyfriends. after 4 months of break up and still being friends with her, i realized she already fell in love with a turkish guy at work. i got angry and we argued. i thought i already moved on with the break up but i realized i wasnt move on at all. she was angry with me and she never want to talk with me again, now its been 1 week of NC. Should I keep the NC going to move on completely? Edited January 1, 2011 by jjborderline
Keridan Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 From the information you have here ... yes! Keep NC going. She has a history of hurting you and you don't still have to be dating to get hurt. Just take some time to get yourself together. It will take time. I've had some very long recovery times in the past. NC always helped more than it hurt. Just see what happens with time and healing. You may even find someone else who is more sure of what they want, but even if you don't, you are still better off with a healing heart than one that keeps breaking.
Author jjborderline Posted January 2, 2011 Author Posted January 2, 2011 From the information you have here ... yes! Keep NC going. She has a history of hurting you and you don't still have to be dating to get hurt. Just take some time to get yourself together. It will take time. I've had some very long recovery times in the past. NC always helped more than it hurt. Just see what happens with time and healing. You may even find someone else who is more sure of what they want, but even if you don't, you are still better off with a healing heart than one that keeps breaking. Thank you very much. This is a really good advice. Now I know that keeping the NC going is the best decision. I realized that I really need to get myself back and heal. I know I'm going to enjoy the time I'm going to spend for myself. And your right, I will find someone else who is more sure of what they want. I know she wasn't really sure of me, for she wanted to have a family someday. Thank you your advice is surely a big help.
LifeIsGreat Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 Your case is text book for NOT trying to be friends with an ex. If you try to stay friends right after a b/u you continue to stay emotionally involved. NC right out of the gate would have been best for you.
Keridan Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 I'm glad you found my advice helpful. You seem to be on the right track and that's good to see! You seem a strong and intelligent person and I hope you realize you deserve someone who is sure of what they want. Good luck! I hope things go great for you in the new year!
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