goldenrainbow Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 here is what I have been going through lately: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t259024/ well yesterday ex called, asking for another chance, I told him no, it obviously didn't work between us and I didn't want to risk him punching me in the face or something. Well he lost control and started yelling at me! I told me I wouldn't put up with his screaming and said "goodbye", he amswered back "you f****** w****!" I hung up the phone. He tried to call 10 times, I didn't answer. He then texted me saying "just wanted to tell you that your worst nightmare has just started. Beware.". I texted him back just saying "No worries, I have saved this text." So I have blocked his number and goodbye to someone who turned me into half of the woman I was. Welcome 2011!!
Leandro Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 Listen. This is very serious and scary. You need to get a restraining order against him. YES!!! And tell family right away too!!
Author goldenrainbow Posted January 1, 2011 Author Posted January 1, 2011 I have told my brother and my father. I think that he is more a barker than a biter, but we never know I just hope he finds someone soon, I know he's already on online dating sites, so I'm hopeful he'll move on soon I can't say I'm not a bit scared though, but at the same time relieved
Graceful Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 golden, So glad that you have found the strength and resolve to flush this guy out of your life. He is a sick SOB and you know you have been in a seriously abusive relationship. His response to what you said is a text book reaction. The bullying he has been doing all along may escalate, though. So please be careful. Is there a hotline you can call or know of, or a domestic violence shelter or hotline you can get some advice from or use as a resource? That might be a good idea. Otherwise, yes, document anything he does (and retain anything he is stupid enough to text electronically) and take the advice of people who have expertise. Good luck, I am very happy to see you have finally taken control of your life. Now hold onto it.
LifeIsGreat Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 here is what I have been going through lately: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t259024/ well yesterday ex called, asking for another chance, I told him no, it obviously didn't work between us and I didn't want to risk him punching me in the face or something. Well he lost control and started yelling at me! I told me I wouldn't put up with his screaming and said "goodbye", he amswered back "you f****** w****!" I hung up the phone. He tried to call 10 times, I didn't answer. He then texted me saying "just wanted to tell you that your worst nightmare has just started. Beware.". I texted him back just saying "No worries, I have saved this text." So I have blocked his number and goodbye to someone who turned me into half of the woman I was. Welcome 2011!! Do you live in the U.S.??? That txt he sent you is serious. I would call the police right now and have them file a report based on this text. They may be able to do something since this is a pretty direct threat. If nothing else, it will show you ex you're not will to take his crap. Be sure to keep any other threatening txts, emails, etc. In fact, go back and collect whatever you can from the past. Let me tell you-- if you were my daughter/sister/friend I would pay this guy a visit. And trust me, he would NEVER threaten you or see you again.
Graceful Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 You may have done this in the past, but you really need to look at the domestic violence informational websites. There are hotline numbers that you can start with, hopefully they can help you find and identify local resources. You really cannot take anything for granted with this man. He's capable of anything right now. Here is one example that I think is very good. There is also a hotline number (national), if you want to get advice asap. http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/domestic-violence/WO00044
Author goldenrainbow Posted January 1, 2011 Author Posted January 1, 2011 Thank you so much for all your input. Lifeisgreat, I live in Europe. I have called my brother and he has his phonenumber, he advised me to report a file just to be safe and he was so mad that this guy is doing this to his little sister that he says if needed be he'll pay him a visit (my brother's a rugby player, fearless guy). I really don't want things to reach that far, my brother is very emotional and I don't want my brother to get in trouble. I want my ex to get in trouble if he dares bothering me again. once again thank you all so much. Graceful, you said "You really cannot take anything for granted with this man. He's capable of anything right now." Yes, that is true.
paleblue Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 Holy smokes goldenrainbow, From what you have wrote here alone, it sounds like you just did yourself the biggest favor. Good call. Onto bigger and better things.
Recommended Posts