GoingInsane Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 You may have seen my other thread with all the gory details of my split with my ex 3.5 months ago and my discovery of her affair and now new relationship with the same person! I should be furious, I should hate her, want nothing more to do with her, stop thinking about her. But I just can't. I've wiped all her texts from my phone and won't be replying if she does try to contact me again (I don't think she will anyway now). I'm quite strong on that. But I just can't seem to bring myself to delete her from Facebook. She doesn't even write on there very much - but I am almost obsessively checking it just in case she does. When someone writes on her wall I feel better knowing where she is, or who she's with. But I know this won't help me move on. I'm also ashamed to say that I have her login details on the computer (we shared my comp when we were together), so whenever I go to login, it brings up mine and her email addresses to chose who to log in as. So I've logged in as her before and I'm continuing to do so. Again I don't know why - the only thing it can bring me is pain if I see her talking of her new relationship. I know I've got to stop this - its wrong and is invading her privacy - I just wish I could delete her log in details so I'm not tempted. It flashes up and I think "oh I'll just have a look". I even told myself today I can remove her as a friend because if I really want to look at what she's been doing, I can easy log in as her. Doesn't that defeat the object?
PowerOfOne Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 If you physically can't delete her login details get someone else to. Get a friend to do it for you. You know it's for the best. You're not going to be able to move on if you're still holding on to this. I've got to tell ya, you're far stronger then I am. I physically can't look at her FB and the idea of being able to get into her emails or such... well lets just say just the idea of finding something makes me feel ill. For you to be able to do it everyday - you've got more courage then I do. Believe me, if you can go a couple of days without checking it out you'll feel so much better. After a week or two you'll even see light at the end of the tunnel! It completly defeats the purpose of NC if you go checking out what she's up do. It's absolutly no different from picking up the phone and asking her about her life. You don't want to know! It'll only bring back the hurt. You need to distance yourself from that as much as possible.
Author GoingInsane Posted January 1, 2011 Author Posted January 1, 2011 Its not that I can't face deleting her details. Its that the computer won't let me!! So every time I go to log in as myself, her details pop up and I'm reminded of her (and that I have her log in!). Just seen something I didn't want to - why do I keep punishing myself?
PowerOfOne Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 Delete the history, delete the cache, delete the cookies. Hell, delete the damn browser! Do it right now!
J0N Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 Dude, I'm not trying to sound like an @$$ but you need to delete that. Delete it now. Don't be psycho. Go into your settings and select clear saved names and passwords. Your only hurting yourself, and if your ex finds out it will be bad news bears.
Author GoingInsane Posted January 1, 2011 Author Posted January 1, 2011 Cheers. Like I say, I didn't know how to actually do it! Going to delete saved passwords now - settings on My Computer is it?
Author GoingInsane Posted January 1, 2011 Author Posted January 1, 2011 Done. Can't log on as her now, without having to search for her email address which would mean making a conscious decision. I won't do that. I've also deleted her from my friends list and have taken off her friends as well. Full NC starts now.
Keridan Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 In most browsers, there is a tools menu at the top, inside is settings or preferences and then something about deleting browser history or form data or cookies or all of them. Just wipe all of them. (Some hide the tools menu. Press and release alt and you should see it)
SimonSerenade Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 Delete everything on the browser and start fresh, Facebook is evil, You'd be much better off vanishing from it all together and keeping close with people on msn or here's a better idea, Remember what a phone looks like? lol You really should hate her for all she's done but I know how you feel, I find it hard to go complete 100% no contact with my ex as we have a kid together and when I look back we had so much but it just didn't mean that much to her and until I'm ready to talk to her she ain't so much going to hear a peep out of me, You've done all you can do dude, Accept that and be proud of yourself for it, New year is here, Make the most of it and make some changes. The way I see it, If she wanted to be a part of your life she'd damn well make an attempt and give you something sincere to take away from the relationship but she hasn't so she isn't worth the time of day, She had a chance and the door was wide open for her, Ain't it time you slammed that door shut for good?
Username37 Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 block her. You can without looking at her profile. Just do it. Smartest move I made.
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