OceanGirl Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 This guy: ------------------ Well, here I am again, giving this net-dating jazz another go. Now, rather than give you some long-winded sermon on my past internet experiences and how they’ve jaded my poor little soul, I’ll just keep things relative to my current frame of mind and tell you this: No matter the cons, no matter the letdowns, no matter the drama and uncertainty, I can't deny the allure of meeting people this way. I mean, really, playing the field every given weekend at some inner city pub or club in a frenzy of alcohol-imbued desire whilst vying for supreme attention from the opposite sex has never been my thing. Yeah, I may of loved the vibe back in the day; the highs of the crowded environment and the bitter sweet ringing in my ears hours later, but I never once thought it to be the arena of courtship. That's why I'm on here instead of out there. Anyway, the kinda person I am can be best described as a creative soul. I love drawing, painting and sculpting just as much as I love writing short stories. Music is also a passion of mine, though I've done very little of creating such as of late. But still, I often get to humming a tune and getting down the base work of a song. Hell, it might never reach a complete work, but I'm a constant thinker of new things to inspire me, so I'm apt to use the idea as a bridge to another. Yep, I may sound like a scatter brain, but there's order to that chaos. Simply put, I thrive on free thinking, and while I'm not looking for a clone of myself for a partner, I do admire a woman who thinks outside the box. I also find most attractive in a woman a warped sense of humour. Now, by warped I don't mean psychotic, I just mean quirky and out of left field, if that makes any sense. --------------------------- Unfortunetely, he has put that he does drugs "sometimes". I couldn't resist sending him a message though. We will see what happens.
xpaperxcutx Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 O_G sounds like he'd put a little thought into his email rather than the occasional " Hey what's up? " thing commonly found on OKC. So what's the problem? The drugs thing, you might want him to elaborate a little on just in case.
Author OceanGirl Posted January 1, 2011 Author Posted January 1, 2011 Heh paper that was his profile. I decided to message him first. He just responded and said that I look like Mila Jovovich and that he is very interested:bunny:
murah989 Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 This dude sounds pretty awesome. Hopefully the drugs thing isn't too much of a deal breaker. Do some more investigating and be blunt with him. I don't really know your story when it comes to drugs, but personally; If it's Occasionally weed, I have no problems. Anything else I kinda get nervous. Ask him what his top 5 albums are of all time! You can usually gauge a lot about person on what type of music they like.
Star Gazer Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 Unfortunetely, he has put that he does drugs "sometimes". I couldn't resist sending him a message though. We will see what happens. This is definitely a violation of your resolutions. The cycle never ends.
xpaperxcutx Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 This is definitely a violation of your resolutions. The cycle never ends. Oh see I did not know this. Supposedly he only smokes marijuana, would that be a grey area since weed isn't as severe as say, cocaine?
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 It's in violation of both Resolution #1 and Resolution #2: 1) I will NOT chase anyone. I will not initiate contact by texting, e-mail, dating sites et al. I will not make sexual moves on any of my dates. 2) I will not go on even a single date with men that are showing red flags before the first date. I will stop dating them as soon as sure red flag shows up to make them not viable for a LTR. Hey, anybody can change their mind, and most New Year's resolutions are broken. On the other hand, wasn't the point of posting these publicly to get support in keeping them? Bearing that in mind, I hope you don't deem me a disturbing mean sadist () for this reminder! In all sincerity, I believe that it's giant step on the way to personal accountability to acknowledge what one says, to own it, and to acknowledge if it's contradicted by one's actions. Have you changed your mind? Or is this a "slip"?
pandagirl Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 Wasn't one of your resolutions to take a break from dating? Now you are mildly obsessing over a guy's online dating profile who you already suspect would not be compatible with you because of his drug usage.
TaurusTerp Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 Women...sigh. Read the profile again. It actually doesn't say one meaningful thing about him. Just tired cliches you find on many profiles, just with more articulation and flowery prose.
Yer_Blues Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 "I'm a constant thinker of new things to inspire me, so I'm apt to use the idea as a bridge to another." This sentence make anyone else a bit skeptical?
sb129 Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 What ever happened with Polish guy? He sounded great.
tinktronik Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 Women...sigh. Read the profile again. It actually doesn't say one meaningful thing about him. Just tired cliches you find on many profiles, just with more articulation and flowery prose. I actually agree with you. We know this guy likes to be creative and makes music, does not like clubs anymore and apparently he does some drugs. What is he doing with his life? What are some of his values? What is he looking for? If I were on the dating scene I would want to know what someone wants to accomplish in the next year, 5 years, 10 years, what there realistic goals are, who they are, how they actually spend their time, how they dream about spending their time, what values they hold....I guess you could eventually get down to this but the opening profile seems mostly just fluff.
johan Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 Read the profile again. It actually doesn't say one meaningful thing about him. I disagree. What he's saying without actually saying it is that he's pretty full of himself. He'll be more than happy to give you a long, wordy answer to any question you ask, if it's about him. It doesn't seem likely that he'll want to listen to anyone else too much. "Simply put", he strikes me as a bit of a wanker.
tinktronik Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 I disagree. What he's saying without actually saying it is that he's pretty full of himself. He'll be more than happy to give you a long, wordy answer to any question you ask, if it's about him. It doesn't seem likely that he'll want to listen to anyone else too much. "Simply put", he strikes me as a bit of a wanker. He's a fluffy wanker, Johan. Sorry I could not resist. OP what are you looking for in a date or even a mate? It might help if you made yourself a list of things you want to know about a guy and what are realistic optimal answers and the answers break the deal. It always helps to sit priorities firm for yourself. What is it that you find appealing about this profile?
Star Gazer Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 This sentence make anyone else a bit skeptical? Yes. That sentence, "I'm a constant thinker of new things to inspire me, so I'm apt to use the idea as a bridge to another" could easily be transcribed to read: "I'm constantly looking for something better than what's before me, and that includes women, so I'm apt to bounce from one woman to the next, you know...free love to feed my creative soul."
Raderick Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 Yes. That sentence, "I'm a constant thinker of new things to inspire me, so I'm apt to use the idea as a bridge to another" could easily be transcribed to read: "I'm constantly looking for something better than what's before me, and that includes women, so I'm apt to bounce from one woman to the next, you know...free love to feed my creative soul." This is one of those times in which people should really stop trying to read between the lines.
johan Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 This is one of those times in which people should really stop trying to read between the lines. Is it your profile?
Surrealist Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 Women...sigh. Read the profile again. It actually doesn't say one meaningful thing about him. Just tired cliches you find on many profiles, just with more articulation and flowery prose. Oh buggar, and here I was thinking of cutting and pasting his profile to put on my blank profile cos I can't be bothered talking about myself, and much easier when someone else has done all the work and I only need to plagiarise to the fullest!!
Raderick Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 (edited) Is it your profile? No. But that doesn't mean that the guy is a total douche. Take what he says for face value, if the guy tickles your fancy, go after him and find out what he's really like in real life. Dating profiles are only supposed to give you an appetizer. The entree is actually meeting and getting to know him/her on a date. Edited January 1, 2011 by Raderick
northern_sky Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 (edited) I'll be honest, OG. I don't like the feel I get from this guy's profile at all. He seems very self-absorbed and not all that bright. Edited January 1, 2011 by northern_sky
johan Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 I'll be honest, OG. I don't like the feel I get from this guy's profile at all. He seems very self-absorbed and not all that bright. Bingo. . . . .
joeLove Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 If he rocks her boat ... that's all that matters ... Everyone gets their boat rocked differently ... Just go for it, if you find him inspiring ... but, as some people mentioned ... plenty of red flags ...
alexlakeman Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 Oh see I did not know this. Supposedly he only smokes marijuana, would that be a grey area since weed isn't as severe as say, cocaine? Not as severe? It's black and white, drugs.. Would your job suspend you vs fire you if they caught you with dope vs coke? LOL, of course not, drugs are drugs...
Author OceanGirl Posted January 2, 2011 Author Posted January 2, 2011 I'll be honest, OG. I don't like the feel I get from this guy's profile at all. He seems very self-absorbed and not all that bright. Well I disagree with everyone. He DOES sound self absorbed but I can't tell how bright he is from what he writes. Basically, he sounds different. I really go for interesting/quirky rather than cookie-cutter personalities even if it comes at a price of some intelligence. The fact that he chaotic/free thinker appeals to me. His picture is also very cute
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