Star Gazer Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 I usually say something like : No worries - thanks for letting me know. Best of luck! Take care, OG Does this make me too much of a doormat? Am I better off just not responding? I know it doesn't really matter either way, I just want to handle this in a classy manner. I think your suggested response is perfect and classy. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Just take it from me and don't engage him further if he asks to still stay in contact.
zengirl Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 I just got a rejection e-mail by a guy that I kind of liked and had 1 date with. He seemed really keen after the date - even messaging me 30 minutes after the date ended to make the second one. I ended up having to cancel that one and he said that he will call 2 weeks later as he is busy over the holidays. It's now two weeks later and I couldn't resist so I have sent him a message asking him if he wanted to catch up. He responded (after 2 days) that he has been seeing someone for the last 2 months and that they have just become exlcusive. His story seems to line up with the fact that he has removed his profile from the dating site. It still kind of stings though and makes me feel like I can't ever have the guy I even remotely like How do you respond to rejection messages like that? I usually say something like : No worries - thanks for letting me know. Best of luck! Take care, OG Does this make me too much of a doormat? Am I better off just not responding? I know it doesn't really matter either way, I just want to handle this in a classy manner. Your usual way sounds the best to me. Not responding, if it's been just a few dates, also seems fine, as they're basically saying, "Man, I wish I could NOT hear from you, so you're respecting their wishes, still.
Ariadne Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 I am very close to giving up Ariadne. I just woke up from another nightmare about time running out and me getting older. That's what every rejection does to me. It's not even this guy, it's the accumulation of all guys that have ever rejected me In my "dream" I re-lived all the rejections that I received this year with online dating. There weren't even that many but they were from the guys that mattered most. I saw their faces clearly and I woke up feeling heart broken It's amazing. You've dated so many guys, so many guys have shown interest in you and have gone out of their way to please you... But it had to be those guys that sparked your interest to reject you. I don't know, maybe they had a sense that it was not good for them or you. Not sure how this works, but with your determination it'd be like any other project I think. Best of luck my friend!
Star Gazer Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 That's what every rejection does to me. OG, try to think of this situation differently. This wasn't a rejection. He didn't reject you. He had already chosen someone else. He didn't reject you anymore than any other guy who's physically unavailable because of prior commitments.
Joe Normal Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 Lol Oceangirl, what will you post next? "Hi loveshack, one of my shoelaces came undone this morning. What's the best way to tie it up again?" Come on - all that has happened is this guy was dating, and has decided to get serious with someone he liked. Simply reply politely wishing him good luck, then forget him and move on. You don't need any advice, apart from the advice to stop over-analyzing every little trivial dating detail.
Joe Normal Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 It seems like guys I like do not like me. There is a clear pattern there - maybe I need to lower my standards. Maybe you need to stop thinking so much. Think less, talk less, do more.
Author OceanGirl Posted January 2, 2011 Author Posted January 2, 2011 Maybe you need to stop thinking so much. Think less, talk less, do more. I have been told this before by many people I am on holidays from work now so I think the more time I have, the worse my over-analyzing gets.
Imajerk17 Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 (edited) Well, I give this guy credit for getting back to you. And as much as it sucks or to rail on him for leading you on or for bad luck... you and he had a second date planned, but *you* had to cancel, so what did you expect to happen? He became closer with someone else. A lot can happen with someone in two weeks. "Thanks for letting me know. Good luck!" is fine and sufficient. Edited January 2, 2011 by Imajerk17
dispatch3d Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 I don't respond. My mind is already on different things. Every minute I would have spent on that particular person is a complete waste of my time. I could have chosen to think about anything else. So I choose to think about anything else. Like what should I cook for supper.
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