absentis Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 I’m currently in a LDR. We’ve been together for about a year... but I moved overseas a few months ago to work, and it’s so much more difficult than I had anticipated. We usually chat everyday, or skype when we can... but it’s usually so frustrating for both of us, that it’s never much of a positive experience. He begs me to quit my job and come home early. And while working overseas is something I’ve wanted to do for years, it’s extremely difficult being apart from him. I’m also in a foreign country where the native language is not English, so it’s very difficult to form any sort of social life – half the time I don’t even have the energy or desire to be bubbly enough to make the effort. So I'm alone almost all of the time, except when I'm teaching. My partner has said he’ll come visit me once money and time allows, but that is still months away. I don’t know what to do. I feel like I'm missing out on so much back home. My friends tell me I should end the relationship and throw myself into this overseas experience completely... that if he loved me, he would respect my decision to leave, and patiently wait things out. But, I'm not even sure I'm happy with the decision as it is. My working contract is for another 10 months.... Any advice would be extremely helpful. Thanks so much.
Goldenspoon Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 My working contract is for another 10 months.... Any advice would be extremely helpful. Thanks so much. "Lost in Translations" is a good movie.
folieadeux Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 Whatever your decision, you need to do it for yourself. If you want to return home, so be it, but you shouldn't let anyone dictate your life for you. The good thing here too is that you know you have a definite end in sight to your LDR when your term is up.
TokyoG33kyGal Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 I’m currently in a LDR. We’ve been together for about a year... but I moved overseas a few months ago to work, and it’s so much more difficult than I had anticipated. We usually chat everyday, or skype when we can... but it’s usually so frustrating for both of us, that it’s never much of a positive experience. He begs me to quit my job and come home early. And while working overseas is something I’ve wanted to do for years, it’s extremely difficult being apart from him. I’m also in a foreign country where the native language is not English, so it’s very difficult to form any sort of social life – half the time I don’t even have the energy or desire to be bubbly enough to make the effort. So I'm alone almost all of the time, except when I'm teaching. My partner has said he’ll come visit me once money and time allows, but that is still months away. I don’t know what to do. I feel like I'm missing out on so much back home. My friends tell me I should end the relationship and throw myself into this overseas experience completely... that if he loved me, he would respect my decision to leave, and patiently wait things out. But, I'm not even sure I'm happy with the decision as it is. My working contract is for another 10 months.... Any advice would be extremely helpful. Thanks so much. hey are you somehow in japan? just thought of it cuz of your thread title. if you are i can relate so much with the homesickness. i also don't go out much or mingle a lot but i have other means of distraction. if you still love each other, i don't see the reason for ending your relationship. LDR is not for the faint hearted. it needs determination, patience, trust and commitment from both sides. if you cannot be happy by yourself (even if you are not in an LDR situation), you won't find happiness in your relationships.
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