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my ex left me for someone else and i want her back tell me what to do?

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ok first thing is first, i came on here to get supourt on getting her back not, on how to not worry and get over her, so please dont post anything against my wishes i have made up my mind already.

 

also sry for my grammar(its long and im in a hurry since its almost new years!!!! lol)

 

 

so heres my story(probably tired of reading these by now lol sry)

 

 

we dated for 2 years(ill try and make it short) she is 19 im 20, just before we had our 2 years maybe a couple of days or so she left me saying she didnt love me anymore and i(like every guy out there when they get dumppend) cried my eyes out, and i found out that she had a "friend" in her car when she went to dump me, she said it was an old friend from 9th grade and i trusted her enough to believe her, so w/e then a day or 2 she says she is dating him(i was soooooo upset, but that she wanted to be friends)she also told me she cheated on me 2 time before she left me for him(had sex with him), so i was like ok lets be friends, but i needed my alone time, so i stop talking to her for 2 weeks then i starting to her asking her for some advice to just start talking to her(which was kind of dumb cuz it wasnt even a month since we broke up) she then says that i cheated on her and that she had proof, ill skip most of the drama but what ended happening was that i begged her to believe me i didnt and what not(she was pissed) so then i got the point where i said **** this and i said (nicely) look i didnt cheat on you, you can take my word for it or not, and that im going to stop talking to her cuz i didnt want to talk to her, and i said if she ever wanted to talk to me she could but that i didnt expect her to, then a day later she is like i want my **** so i said i wasnt home (didnt want to see her) and that i wouldnt be home till the 2nd, she ended up coming over anyways no one opened she got more pissed then i told her fine id be there at 830 even though i was there the hole time, so she comes over(and bare in mind she was so pissed at me during this hole break up she made racial slurs towards me cussed at me called me names, even though i didnt deserve it cuz i was just trying to be friends, the worst thing i ever said to her was i didnt want to talk to her so if she please could stop talking) she comes over to get her stuff and then i try to act all cool and im fine about it and what not i even seemed happy, i say hi to her new bf said hi to her give her her stuff, but she wasnt mad? i didnt get it she, didnt yell at me, she didnt look at me all funny, so then she's like where is my guitar cover and i said i didnt know and that i would give it to her when i found it, then im like o i almost forgot, i run in come back had 2 pics of her (she gave to me) and give them to her i said ill talk to u guys later locked the door turned off the light went into my house and praised my self on how good i did lol, then couple of mins later my step mom comes in and says here are these pics of ur ex on the floor of the entrance of our house....and i was like wtf? i thought she took them, they where folded and laying on the floor so i was like wtf, and she didnt seem mad durring all this time i talked to her when she was out there(also this happened in like 2 3 mins in tottal)

 

so what im going to do is stop talking to her for 2-3 months let her fly through her honeymoon stage with her new bf then start lc and try to get her back, her new bf is leaving for the air force training in a couple of months btw, durring this time i wont talk to her im going to work on my self, get a job, go to my college,move out if i can, work out.... a lot lol build some muscle so shes like damn look at him now lol, then after a month of lc ask her out for an "outing" not a date obviously

 

 

 

 

 

but does anyone else find it wired that she was super pissed, then she talked to me/saw me(cuz she really didnt talk that much) didnt seem pissed, left the photos on the floor and just left? i dont get it, all this durring her bf standing right accross from her? im confused is she over me or is trying to get over me, idk what is she doing?

 

ITS DRIVING ME INSANE some one help...

 

what should i do to get her back and what do you think of my situation, specially what just happened a couple of hours ago?:confused:

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So she thought you cheated on her, went of and cheated on you twice with him?

 

She left the pics of her at your door?

 

I wouldn't do anything. Just stay with NC. You deserve better than to be cheated on.

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So she thought you cheated on her, went of and cheated on you twice with him?

 

She left the pics of her at your door?

 

I wouldn't do anything. Just stay with NC. You deserve better than to be cheated on.

 

 

 

why do u think she left the pics there though? i dont get it is it a good thing or bad or does it even matter? plus like i said she has being really bitchy and when she saw me was completely fine idk i cant explain it....it confuses me, im trying to move on and not listen to what she says but the way she acts and she really confused me by what she did last night she says she likes him but then did all that last night...? can you interpret?

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**** cheaters... my wife left me but im sure she never cheated on me.. so far as i know.. she had sex with a guy when we were seperated but idk beyond that.. i honestly couldnt handle a girl cheating on me i couldnt look at her the same

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"but does anyone else find it wired that she was super pissed, then she talked to me/saw me(cuz she really didnt talk that much) didnt seem pissed, left the photos on the floor and just left? i dont get it, all this durring her bf standing right accross from her? im confused is she over me or is trying to get over me, idk what is she doing?"

 

First, about her being all pissed and angry: if she didn't care a whit about you, there would be no emotion. What's the opposite of love? Hate. If she won't let herself love you, she's gonna do her best to hate you. Indifference would mean she's moved on.

 

Why was she calm in front of her bf? Simple, she doesn't want him to think she has any feelings for you.

 

Why did she leave the pics? Well, if she took them that would signal closure. For some reason (hmmmmm) she still wants you to have them.

 

Yeah, good plan you have there. Cause when the rebound guy goes long distance, you have the perfect opportunity to make your move.

 

But you HAVE to clear the air about this cheating thing.

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why do u think she left the pics there though? i dont get it is it a good thing or bad or does it even matter? plus like i said she has being really bitchy and when she saw me was completely fine idk i cant explain it....it confuses me, im trying to move on and not listen to what she says but the way she acts and she really confused me by what she did last night she says she likes him but then did all that last night...? can you interpret?

 

 

She left the pictures behind as a symbolic way to leave all remnants of you behind. She was cool and together because she finally decide it was over between the two of you, no more inner conflict AND she had her new BF there and didn't want a scene or a fight to break out. Personally, I would have took the fact that she brought the dude she was cheating on you with to your place as a big slap in the face. Actually, to me, a slap in the face would have felt better than that. Sorry, that was soooo disrespectful to you. You have to have seen that.

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"but does anyone else find it wired that she was super pissed, then she talked to me/saw me(cuz she really didnt talk that much) didnt seem pissed, left the photos on the floor and just left? i dont get it, all this durring her bf standing right accross from her? im confused is she over me or is trying to get over me, idk what is she doing?"

 

First, about her being all pissed and angry: if she didn't care a whit about you, there would be no emotion. What's the opposite of love? Hate. If she won't let herself love you, she's gonna do her best to hate you. Indifference would mean she's moved on.

 

Why was she calm in front of her bf? Simple, she doesn't want him to think she has any feelings for you.

 

Why did she leave the pics? Well, if she took them that would signal closure. For some reason (hmmmmm) she still wants you to have them.

 

Yeah, good plan you have there. Cause when the rebound guy goes long distance, you have the perfect opportunity to make your move.

 

But you HAVE to clear the air about this cheating thing.

 

 

yea she might have not bein mad at the time but she just messaged me on facebook sounding all pissy, idk shes confusing as ****....and the pic thing just blew my mind i dont know she did that, i figured she wouldve atleast ripped them left there but she didnt she folded it in half left in in my front door and left with her bf....

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She left the pictures behind as a symbolic way to leave all remnants of you behind. She was cool and together because she finally decide it was over between the two of you, no more inner conflict AND she had her new BF there and didn't want a scene or a fight to break out. Personally, I would have took the fact that she brought the dude she was cheating on you with to your place as a big slap in the face. Actually, to me, a slap in the face would have felt better than that. Sorry, that was soooo disrespectful to you. You have to have seen that.

 

well the thing is she didnt bring him as a slap on my face (i know she didnt) it was more cuz she didnt want to be alone when i saw her which is kind of wired too, she seemed calm but she sent me a message on facebook sounding all pissy now, and i know it was disrispectful that she did that but i understand why she did it, and im actually cool with the dude, i mean i want to punch his face in but if i ever have a chance of getting her back, i have to act like i dont care.

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