My Personal Resolutions for a Happier Me in 2011

[USMCHokie]

As I sit here on New Years Eve and think about the year that has come to pass, I have learned a great deal about myself from both my experiences and from others. I figured a New Years "resolution" would be a convenient time for me to put it all out on the table for all of LS to see and to hold myself accountable for what I need to do to be a happier person.

 

For a while now, I've hidden from the truth and avoided the root of my problems. I know it's cliche to go the "resolution route," but now's as good a time as any to pull my head from out of my ass.

 

 

(1) I need to recognize the simple fact that I am insecure - No one wants to be labeled as an insecure person. I didn't want to believe that I was insecure because I thought I had it all figured out. But I know I am good enough. I am good enough for that job. I am good enough for that girl. I am good enough to be anything I want to be, and I choose to be awesome. There is no more room for self-doubt. People see you the way you see yourself.

 

(2) I have to stop seeking sympathy from myself - I have absolutely nothing to feel sorry for myself about. There are lots of people worse off than me, and every day, the only thing they say to themselves is how they'll make the best out of today and how they'll make tomorrow better.

 

(3) I have to stop seeking sympathy from others - Everyone has a bad day. Sh*t happens. Throughout my life, I've made it a habit to bitch and moan to others, whether in real life or on LS. I need to stop relying on others' sympathy to make me feel better. As a leader of Marines, I need to be the one that others can rely on when they're having a tough time. I need to be strong enough to be able to pull my head out of my own ass when things get sh*tty, if not for myself, but for those who look up to me.

 

(4) I need to let go of the past - In the past, I was insecure. In the past, I was a loner with no social life. In the past, I had difficulty with dating and relationships. But that is all in the past, and I need to stop looking back to the past wondering if that's who I "really" am; because it's not who I am, and it's not someone I ever will be again.

 

(5) I have to control my emotions - I have a bad habit of lashing out at others when they target my insecurities. I did it with women I had once dated and even with some of my friends. Perhaps it's just the way I argue, but I just have to control the sh*t that comes out of my mouth sometimes.

 

(6) I can't let myself be defined by superficial things - Ok, so I have a decent body, but I am so much more than that. I want people to see my personality, my intelligence, my loyalty, and my integrity first. I want my inner qualities to define who I am, not what I look like without a shirt.

 

(7) I need to start reading more - Chicks dig brains. Chicks will be surprised to meet a meathead with brains. I can't go wrong. I just have to get over my hatred for reading. It's boring.

 

(8) I finally know and accept my true personality - I'm finally ready to commit to the person I really am. I'm happy, cheerful, and funny. I like to make others laugh and smile. Heck, I like to laugh and smile. I don't want to be that grouchy loner brooding in the corner and feeling sorry for himself. For the longest time, I flip flopped between the two, never knowing who I really was. I finally know now.

 

 

I'm sure some of you out there will find yourself in a similar situation as I, whether it's dealing with insecurity or trying to figure out your own identity. I hope this list helps you focus on areas to improve your own life.

 

I also decided not to include anything specific that is related to dating or relationships, because I've come to learn from my time on LS that happy relationships are a direct result of being happy with yourself. By becoming a better person, better relationships will come naturally. People are drawn to happy people.

 

I hope everyone has a great New Years Eve, and here's to a better 2011 for us all!

 

 

And lastly, thank you so much...you know who you are...

Edited January 1, 2011 by USMCHokie

[Star Gazer]

You're welcome.

[johan]

No need to thank me, Hokie. All in a day's work. But I honestly think you should shoot some of that gratitude Star's way.

[shayan]

"I also decided not to include anything specific that is related to dating or relationships, because I've come to learn from my time on LS that happy relationships are a direct result of being happy with yourself. By becoming a better person, better relationships will come naturally. People are drawn to happy people."

 

Yesss. you're on the right path. I've read a lot of your posts throughout time but I think it's important that you are so focused on your relationship with yourself. good luck!