dave91 Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 (edited) I have been dating this girl for a year now. We've known each other since highschool when she was dating a common friend. They went out for about 3 years and the guy cheated on her. We are both 20 now. Right after her breakup, we started getting close. We would speak more often, meet up once in a while. Seven months after the breakup, we started dating. Initially in the relationship, she would often have anxiety that I would leave her and she would ask me never to leave her. I pretty much didnt know what to say, so I would just nod. She would often tell me how lucky she felt to have me. In the fifth month, we lost our virginity. And she would tell me she could not really think of losing it to anyone else specially not her ex. Our relationship has had its hiccups, some really bad fights. She and I dont really think alike. We have a lot of differences of opinions and have had several fights over these. About year in the relationship now, we have fallen in love with each other. But here's the problem. We both know, that there is noway the relationship can last over another year, as that is when she will go abroad for higher studies. That said, recently I have been hearing a lot from her about how much different people she and I are, but that she still loves me. I have also noticed that she doesnt share a lot of her problems with me. I have tried to ask her why she does so, and she said thats just the way shes become. That she likes to handle her problems herself. But I feel that for a year long relationship, some degree of problem sharing is important for strenghthning that bond. There are times I get the feeling that she's blocking herself from me. As if she unconsciously wants to be emotionally close to me, but is consciously stopping herself from doing so. I really dont know what to do. I really love her. And I know she loves me too. I just wish she would be a little more close to me. I'd really like if you could help me out. Quite frankly, this is my second relationship (my first one was for 2 months) and her fourth. So yeah, I could really you some advice here. Thanks Edited December 31, 2010 by dave91
LifeIsGreat Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 You'll just have to have a nice calm 'heart to heart' chat with her. Sounds like since she knows she's going away to school, she is holding back since your relationship will probably have to end anyway. What are your expectations for this relationship, especially with her going off to school?
Seamless74 Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 let me get this straight she went out with the previous guy for 3 years and they never had sex... jesus no wonder he cheated you kidding me???
Author dave91 Posted January 1, 2011 Author Posted January 1, 2011 Well, I know her going abroad for university studies is imminent. Thats more than a year away. Well, I shall too be moving abroad to continue my studies but again thats still in the distant future. She often tells me that even if do move to seperate countries, we would have a long distance. I'm not expecting a lot from the relationship(marraige or anything) but I do want that the time we have together( which i believe is a lot!), we should make the most of it. She tells me often, that she doesnt think of the future, and she likes to live in the present with me. I have tried to have such a conversation with her. Do you feel I should be reading more into her constantly reminding me that we are so different as individuals?
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