Fern Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 Well there you go. I have a date on Sunday. Start 2011 as you mean to continue, I say. Any advice? I'm not going to tell him about my Ex - the date guy lives in Dublin and is just home for Xmas to see his family. It's not like anything serious is likely to come of it. So I'm just intending to keep it light and fun. Breeze over it if he asks. He's not gonna ask. Who asks about your previous relationships on a date? Sheesh. I'm utterly terrified. In a good way.
D78 Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 You sound like you don't need advice . I think your idea about breezing over the ex is good. Have fun and happy new year!
Graceful Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 Fern, You do sound excited! I agree, go and have fun. You're right, no one should talk about an ex (no matter what the circumstances) on a first date! But you know that. I'll bet your will put each other at ease right away. It's going to be nice to just go out and enjoy yourself with a nice guy. Good luck. ps let us know how it goes. would love an update. Happy New Year!!
cerridwen Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 Oh Fern, I'm excited for you! Your early posts on LS were so anguished, it's great to hear you in much better spirits. Did I miss it? Did you ever post on how you've made progress?
Author Fern Posted January 4, 2011 Author Posted January 4, 2011 It went REALLY well and I'm in great spirits! It was so strange...he showed up with a really, really thoughtful gift for me and we didn't stop chatting all night and he seems really SMITTEN with me! Hahaha! Apparently he's liked me for years but I was always unavailable. *blushes* I'm not sure how I feel about him. I promised him I'd come visit him in February. He's going away for a few weeks at the end of January and I'm not interested in seeing him again any sooner. I did 'make out' (as you say in the States, hahaha) with him in the bar we went to. It was embarrassing, I was acting like a teenager! Hahaha! Only to realise shortly after we came up for air that my Ex and his new GF had turned up. They must have been greeted by that sight as soon as they showed up. Hahaha! Apparently he (my Ex) was STARING away at the two of us. A friend of mine said he looked really put out by it. I honestly didn't give him too much thought that night. And I felt FABULOUS today - no pining, no depression. The date was just the ego boost I needed. He couldn't keep his hands off me. After my Ex acting like I had leprosy for so long, it was WONDERFUL to remember how attractive I actually am. Hee hee! It's so NICE to feel like I'm actually moving on and to know that the Ex actually witnessed that. I hope it gave him some food for thought. I don't imagine he'll be jealous or anything, but I hope it puts paid to any notions that I'm pining over him. He (the Ex) made sure to get my attention at one point on his way past to the toilet. He tapped me on the shoulder and gave me a wave and a little wan smile. I don't know why he bothered. I'd been pointedly ignoring him and avoiding his gaze all night. I suppose he wanted to show he wasn't upset. Like I should care how he feels. Five months he's been rubbing his chippy under my nose. So - in conclusion - date was EXCELLENT as a tool for moving on and getting an ego boost. Not sure if there's any future in the relationship, but I'll see him again. We live far enough apart that taking it really slow won't be an issue. I'm back on the horse and loving it!
melenkurion Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 That's awesome Fern. I am glad you had some fun. It is a great ego boost, a great start to your year. You are looking to the future!
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