google_girl Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 This is my first post here... So hello everyone! I am watching this community and posts here silently for many months but never posted anything before.I was not just comfortable posting my personal issues here.I am still not but need to vent strongly and would like to hear some kind words,suggestions ..so trying to open up myself. So here is the story.I meet this guy 3 years ago.He was charming,intelligent and everything else a women desires.After being in contact with him for one year i broke it off myself.There were some very strong reasons why i broke it off.So its not like i regret breaking up with him.I knew there was no other option. Now fast forward 3 years latter...I have meet n number of guys and sort of dated with them.More i date and see other guys more i get depressed.Because there is no other guy for whom i have felt that kind of feeling..you know that jolt of attraction and joy of meeting "the one". You strongly feel that connection,attraction on all level ,mental,physical ,spiritual level.I have never experienced that kind of feeling in last three years. I am scared i am not going to feel that ever.Today on 31 December i am very alone.I had temptation to see my ex's profile and on facebook and i just couldn't stop myself.I was in more pain seeing his status committed. I dont know why it was painful..probably because my decision to break our relationship was "Logical" and i still do have feelings for him? I dont know .Just confuse...
homebrew Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 If you don't mind... Will you click on the link below in my signature and let us know if you broke up with him due to G.I.G.S.?
SimonSerenade Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 Hello and welcome to the forums I know how you feel, No matter how many great people I know show an interest in me there just not her and it just don't compare, That make's it hard to move on but I think you got to be happy with yourself before you'll have any luck of finding somebody like him again, I'm sure somebody will come along again, When I don't know but if it happened once it'll happen again. You should never snoop at his facebook unless your 100% sure your ready for what your about to see, Personally I think the world would be better off without the likes of facebook but thats just me, It's hard to give you advice without more information on your story so if you feel you can open up some more please do and don't be insecure about it, Were all good people here looking to help eachother, Your right to doubt your decision but your decision has been made now so it's best not to think back at it, If you wish to sort it out, Contact him and see how he feels but if not then your better off going no contact all together and not bothering with him.
Author google_girl Posted January 6, 2011 Author Posted January 6, 2011 It's hard to give you advice without more information on your story so if you feel you can open up some more please do and don't be insecure about it, Were all good people here looking to help eachother, Your right to doubt your decision but your decision has been made now so it's best not to think back at it, If you wish to sort it out, Contact him and see how he feels but if not then your better off going no contact all together and not bothering with him. I am feeling normal again after venting here.Thanks for reply btw You want more story.Well he has anger problem.He was good when he was good when there was some argument, for little reason he used to react too much.I had doubt relationship would have turn abusive if i continued it. So no i am not regretting it. But you know when it was good it was like i was with my dream man.We had great chemistry and attraction was amazing.I want to experience it again with with other man with no anger problem.
Author google_girl Posted January 6, 2011 Author Posted January 6, 2011 If you don't mind... Will you click on the link below in my signature and let us know if you broke up with him due to G.I.G.S.? No it was not grass is green other side syndrome.There was none in my life when i dump him.
AC06 Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 I have the feeling what you've been going through is what I'm facing. I've met alot of girls, been ain a handful of relationships, but nobody in my life has ever struck me immediately the way my ex did. She was, from the very beginning, "the one". I just... had this feeling I'd never felt before, and after a couple of months it did nothing but get stronger. I really don't know how situations like this are meant to be handled.
Colorless Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 I really don't know how situations like this are meant to be handled. There's only one way they CAN be handled - one day at a time. No human's words or insight can save and heal anyone immediately. There is only one force strong enough to heal you: time. My best advice is to tell the person you want to be with them, and to contact you if they want to give it one last and best shot. Then go no contact 100%.
AC06 Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 There's only one way they CAN be handled - one day at a time. No human's words or insight can save and heal anyone immediately. There is only one force strong enough to heal you: time. My best advice is to tell the person you want to be with them, and to contact you if they want to give it one last and best shot. Then go no contact 100%. Very wise words.
poorguy Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 You broke up 3 years ago? How long were you together? When was the last time you spoke?
LifeIsGreat Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 If it's been 3 years AND you know he is in a realtionship, I don't think it respectful to contact him. It seems you don't really want to get back with him anyway due to his anger.
Author google_girl Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 I have the feeling what you've been going through is what I'm facing. I've met alot of girls, been ain a handful of relationships, but nobody in my life has ever struck me immediately the way my ex did. She was, from the very beginning, "the one". I just... had this feeling I'd never felt before, and after a couple of months it did nothing but get stronger. I really don't know how situations like this are meant to be handled. yes looks like we ae in same boat.But i really dont want to get back with my Ex.But i want to be in relationship where i fee that kind of powerful relationship once again.
Author google_girl Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 There's only one way they CAN be handled - one day at a time. No human's words or insight can save and heal anyone immediately. There is only one force strong enough to heal you: time. My best advice is to tell the person you want to be with them, and to contact you if they want to give it one last and best shot. Then go no contact 100%. But i do not want to with guy who has anger problem.
Author google_girl Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 You broke up 3 years ago? How long were you together? When was the last time you spoke? I cut contacts with him 3 years ago approx.Since then i am seeing other guys but i am not feeling any attraction for any one.
Author google_girl Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 If it's been 3 years AND you know he is in a realtionship, I don't think it respectful to contact him. It seems you don't really want to get back with him anyway due to his anger. you are right.But i want to meet other guy who is equally confident,funny,witty,loves traveling,reading,movies.Basically i want feel strong attraction ,feeling of love,excitement once again.In last 3 years i have not any one like that.
2themoon&back Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 google_girl, I have not read all your posts but your title caught my eye and every woman that has been in love has felt that way... Sometimes this can be a good thing and sometimes not so good!! But the words "There is no one like him...." are soooo true and there never will be!!!! As you grow and change so will "HIM" ---there may be better and I am sure there will be worse. Just go with what you got from him and use it to decide what is best for you … like a gauge …..Not the man. I love your title and I feel it is the beginning of a wonderful quote to use one day as your signature. I am right there with you on this one !!! Best to you !!!
Chi townD Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 I'm gonna tell you right now. YOU WILL NEVER HAVE THAT ATTRACTION TO ANOTHER MAN! Peroid.....until you let go! Easier said than done, right? You have to find closure within yourself and the decision you made in the past. Remind yourself of why you had to end the relationship and where the relationship would have probably would have end if it continued. Until you do that, you're not being fair to yourself and especially to the men that you date.
Author google_girl Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 I'm gonna tell you right now. YOU WILL NEVER HAVE THAT ATTRACTION TO ANOTHER MAN! Peroid.....until you let go! Easier said than done, right? You have to find closure within yourself and the decision you made in the past. Remind yourself of why you had to end the relationship and where the relationship would have probably would have end if it continued. Until you do that, you're not being fair to yourself and especially to the men that you date. You put my problem in right words.I am not bale to understand last three years if its me or these men are boring.I am not feeling attraction because i have still feeling for ex or these guys dont understand how to treat women.
Author google_girl Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 google_girl, I have not read all your posts but your title caught my eye and every woman that has been in love has felt that way... Sometimes this can be a good thing and sometimes not so good!! But the words "There is no one like him...." are soooo true and there never will be!!!! As you grow and change so will "HIM" ---there may be better and I am sure there will be worse. Just go with what you got from him and use it to decide what is best for you … like a gauge …..Not the man. I love your title and I feel it is the beginning of a wonderful quote to use one day as your signature. I am right there with you on this one !!! Best to you !!! "There is no one like him...." are soooo true and there never will be!!!! Ohh no.Please dont say that.I want similar guy minus his anger problem. Your signature is wonderful as well and my ex used to use it all time on orkut profile.It was not just quote it was true for him.He was great businessman.
Chi townD Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 A lot of times we tend to be gravitate to a person that reminds us of our Ex's if we haven't fully let go. But, what we fail to see is that each person is different and one person will never be the doppelganger of our Ex. You also get out of a relationship what we put into it. You may be giving off the vibes that you're really not that into them; therefore, they're not gonna take you or the relationship seriously. Sometimes you have to take a leap of faith and let go to see where you both land.
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