freeshrink Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 The grieving process for the dumpee moves through stages (denial, hate, depression, acceptance, etc.) after a breakup but my experience is that loss of sleep is a major roadblock to recovery. Lack of sleep leads to loss of productivity at work and can stifle our motivation which can clearly impede the recovery process. Many links on this site regarding no contact discuss the need for self-improvement during the "no contact" period. I agree. Accelerate your exercise program, adopt new hobbies, rejuvenate old friendships, etc. However, if we are tired, it is difficult for us to get "over the hump" and start fortifying our self-esteem and engage in these new activities. What are some strategies to regain our sleep? I did not use any sleep medications and am not a physician, but in retrospect, maybe I should have investigated this matter. Why? The grieving process some times can last too long, and we must muster the energy to forget about our Ex and our previous relationship. Eventually, we must stop wallowing in our self-pity and move forward. I found that if I woke up at around 3 or 4 A.M. to go to the bathroom (I tried to stop drinking liquids after 8 p.m. and that helped somewhat) it was extremely difficult for me to fall back asleep. Images of my ex would be swirling in my mind like a hurricane and hours would go by with feelings of worry, anxiety, and despair. How to break out of this cycle? Take your ex off of the pedastal. I found that reading the "tough love" approach of several senior posters on Love Shack who do NOT advocate second chances was best. I would focus on a few of their stinging and strong-willed phrases embedded in their posts and link that up with the image of their avatar. It sounds corny but it worked wonders for me to get back asleep. Many posts recommend putting the alarm clock at a very early hour in the morning. This works if you don't get up in the middle of the night. Regaining your self-esteem is essential to the recovery in "no contact." Nobody wants to see us looking miserable, long-term. If anybody else has other suggestions and strategies for sleeping better, please post. Have a Happy New Year! And get some well deserved sleep.
delajoonal Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 The grieving process for the dumpee moves through stages (denial, hate, depression, acceptance, etc.) after a breakup but my experience is that loss of sleep is a major roadblock to recovery. Lack of sleep leads to loss of productivity at work and can stifle our motivation which can clearly impede the recovery process. Many links on this site regarding no contact discuss the need for self-improvement during the "no contact" period. I agree. Accelerate your exercise program, adopt new hobbies, rejuvenate old friendships, etc. However, if we are tired, it is difficult for us to get "over the hump" and start fortifying our self-esteem and engage in these new activities. What are some strategies to regain our sleep? I did not use any sleep medications and am not a physician, but in retrospect, maybe I should have investigated this matter. Why? The grieving process some times can last too long, and we must muster the energy to forget about our Ex and our previous relationship. Eventually, we must stop wallowing in our self-pity and move forward. I found that if I woke up at around 3 or 4 A.M. to go to the bathroom (I tried to stop drinking liquids after 8 p.m. and that helped somewhat) it was extremely difficult for me to fall back asleep. Images of my ex would be swirling in my mind like a hurricane and hours would go by with feelings of worry, anxiety, and despair. How to break out of this cycle? Take your ex off of the pedastal. I found that reading the "tough love" approach of several senior posters on Love Shack who do NOT advocate second chances was best. I would focus on a few of their stinging and strong-willed phrases embedded in their posts and link that up with the image of their avatar. It sounds corny but it worked wonders for me to get back asleep. Many posts recommend putting the alarm clock at a very early hour in the morning. This works if you don't get up in the middle of the night. Regaining your self-esteem is essential to the recovery in "no contact." Nobody wants to see us looking miserable, long-term. If anybody else has other suggestions and strategies for sleeping better, please post. Have a Happy New Year! And get some well deserved sleep. oh yes, EVERYTHING u said...i SO agree... Gawd please, i need some sleep..ugh!
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