no_clue Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 I would consider myself a cool smart guy alot of people know who i am and respect me im not worried about them, but im not the most popular party guy either, i dont brag to people to much i just let them observe me and they understand that i am above average. I still seem to have low self esteem about myself because i think i look good in the face to women but i hardly try to be sexually active because im insecure about being a little chubby though you cant really tell looking at me. I smoke herbs though and i cant hardly get motivated im lazy and it only gets worse. i wake up everyday at around noon i dont even think about breakfast i end up eating maybe around 4 or 5 pm not always, and usually before i go to bed at around 4 am ill pig out from being high i need to know what should i do visit a psychiatrist or what i need to get my life on a steady schedule so i can improve my social skills and confidence
Nightsky Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 You’ve just outlined things you’d like to change. Now get motivated.
Yer_Blues Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 I would consider myself a cool smart guy alot of people know who i am and respect me im not worried about them, but im not the most popular party guy either, i dont brag to people to much i just let them observe me and they understand that i am above average. I still seem to have low self esteem about myself because i think i look good in the face to women but i hardly try to be sexually active because im insecure about being a little chubby though you cant really tell looking at me. I smoke herbs though and i cant hardly get motivated im lazy and it only gets worse. i wake up everyday at around noon i dont even think about breakfast i end up eating maybe around 4 or 5 pm not always, and usually before i go to bed at around 4 am ill pig out from being high i need to know what should i do visit a psychiatrist or what i need to get my life on a steady schedule so i can improve my social skills and confidence Don't abuse the bud and don't use it as an excuse. When I started the reefer, I lost over 100 pounds, learned to fast through the munchies to build will, and became more social. I'm not trying to stand on a pedestal or be critical, but a lot of the reason people have such a stigma against those who smoke green is because they see us as a bunch of lazy, stupid, unmotivated, and dependent people. It's the case for some, but definitely not all. What you have to do is take a tolerance break and let it filter out of your system. When you become dependent on it for entertainment, and it dominates your lifestyle, you are no longer in control of your usage, regardless of the fact that it's not physically addicting. Take a break and remember that there are other things in life besides feeling good, sleeping, and eating. People who are introverted, lack confidence or lack social skills can fall into the trap of using nug as a pure escape from life and reality. It's simply easier to get what you feel you need by using a substance than to put in the time and effort to pursue other things. It helps you to tolerate NOT having your needs fulfilled. It makes you content with what you would otherwise not be content with. If you stop and feel, "This is way too boring. I can't do this, I need to smoke or I'm going to go insane", you are abusing, not using. You need to have an independent, functional life outside of the plant. I would recommend setting some priorities and forcing yourself to write down goals every time you wake up for things you want to accomplish for the day. I recommend a tolerance break for about a week or two, and if you want to start again, limit your intake. If this pattern becomes recurring and you keep falling into this state, I'd stop using it all together. Good luck.
Author no_clue Posted December 31, 2010 Author Posted December 31, 2010 thanks for your advice and yes i know that is a common stereotype im not at all trying to blame the weed i know its really just me. Its just that i love reefer and i dont feel like i want to quit or that its really hindering me but at the same time your right im abusing it and becoming a slave to it, to where if i become bored i need weed and i will not be bored even when im doing the same thing i was before. Its a temporary escape from reality and all the green i smoked in my teenage years probably stunted my social skills idk but i think i should rebuild my tolerance im tired of depending on weed to solve my problems
Yer_Blues Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 (edited) thanks for your advice and yes i know that is a common stereotype im not at all trying to blame the weed i know its r%ally just me. Its just that i love reefer and i dont feel like i want to quit or that its really hindering me but at the same 4ime your right im abusing it and becoming a slave to it, to whe2e if i become bored i need weed and i will not be bored eve. when im doing the same thing i was before. Its a temporary escape from reality and all the green i smoked in my teenage years probably stunted my social skills idk but i think i should rebuild my tolerance im tired of depending on weed to solve my problems Ah, I've been at this point before. Something that helps is to take comfort in the fact that weed is not alcohol. You are not physically dependent, there are no potentially harmful withdrawal effects, and most of its current effects on you will disappear with discontinuation. What this means is that you don't have to quit permanently or stop loving it.It is something that CAN BE used in MODERATION/in a controlled manner. An alcoholic may have to face not being able to enjoy even a sip of alcohol due to addictive factors, where as you don't have to swear off bud forever just because you realize it may have become a problem where you are right now. Try to figure out what you are using the weed to cover up. If you could have ANYTHING, or be doing ANYTHING, would it be smoking weed and just sitting around? What is it, in the absence of weed, that is so bad that you need it constantly? It may not be obvious at first, which is why you need a break from the drug to allow some perspective to set in. I will guarantee you one thing, and that is that the happier and less dependent you are on bud, the more enjoyable it actually becomes and the more you end up doing the things you normally enjoy while using it. If it's not an escape, but is rather enjoyed or savored in the way you would enjoy taking the time to watch a movie or a concert, it's really not necessary to stop permanently. Allow yourself to fully feel whatever it is you are going to feel without relying on temporary satisfaction. Hopefully this will make it easier for you to play around with changing your lifestyle. If you find it to be too difficult to just stop completely where you are right now, you can taper off of it a bit and just try to go longer and longer without it. It will NOT be pleasant at first. I used to get really aggressive, self loathing, or just plain devoid of motivation or desire when I would first come off of it. Breaking habits is an unpleasant experience, but if your brain has the ability to habituate to smoking all the time, it has the ability to do the opposite. It just takes time. Edited January 1, 2011 by Yer_Blues
Akumark Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 From personnal experience I can't tell you how much my life changed when I completely stoped using pot (and everything else for that matter). I never been able to work on myself when I used before, but that may be just me. I have a pretty addictive personality and I recently stoped drinking mostly for the main reason. While I use I think I have the control but when I stop I realise how much I was wrong. I was pretty much like how you described yourself before, in 3 years everyting changed. I became active, fit, found a cool job, went from a normal appartment with a old car to a nice loft I own and a nice 2010 car! I'm convinced I got all this luck because I could stop using, BUT I'm still like you with girls. When I drink I become another person, my friends call me superbeast (more like superslut) and sober I'm pretty shy and respectful, so I miss a lot of good opportunity too. When I try to flirt sober I end up thinking to much and just act like a good guy, pretty cool to make friends but suck for hum you know. Anyways I really want to built up my self-esteem right now and I'm pretty sure it will help. I never got myself a girl sober and I'd really like to.
Author no_clue Posted January 1, 2011 Author Posted January 1, 2011 Idk i probably am going to quit weed for awhile til my tolerance is back and its out of my system. i think i need to see a psychiatrist for anxiety i dont think im depressed but i could be wrong. i just know ive been lonely i have people who admire me and respect me people think im a ladys man already just by the way i live and act im sort of a urban legend, they ask me where the females are at and i say idk right now lol. The thing is ive lost alot of my true close friends because ive had bad experiences with thieving friends, that im paranoid and have cut myself off from them thinking they might injure me or double cross me sometimes i feel like i could get robbed or shot at any moment i wish people would want to hang out with me more again but i have become so isolated im almost comfortable with it sometimes.
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