shayan Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 This post was inspired by the relationship between Leonardo Dicaprio and his imaginary/ dead wife in inception. It is also influenced by my own past experiences and that of many others I have spoken to about lost love. This post is somewhat blunt. Isn't funny how as hard as we try after we break up, the image of that person just doesn't fade. It stays with us, haunts us. In fact, the image isn't just an image it's more it's all the memories, the memories which we long for. The memories which we are ashamed of, guilty for, sorrowful, depressed, the memories which we loved and thrived in, those in which are chest feels lifted and those in which it seers with pain. And that's the catch. Those memories become incredibly difficult to step out of, in fact we begin to live in them. We get trapped in our past life in which we were entranced by love regardless of how good or bad it felt, just trapped. What I say is take an axe to it. Cut it down, break through it with all you got, don't stay there because it's an illusion. If we are a boat, the past is simply the trail of water the boat carves out in the lake, and the trail cannot stir the boat, it cannot lead you forward. The trail only leaves you looking back perpetually stuck in your own self made life drama. So I say take an axe to it cut it down like it's cancerous don't let yourself be taken down by the alluring charm of past tides. Don't let the scents steal you away, the colors take you to sorrow, the names blur your peace. Cut it down, shatter it like a funhouse mirror, so that you will see clearly. So that you can return to peace.
blacksentra Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 This post was inspired by the relationship between Leonardo Dicaprio and his imaginary/ dead wife in inception. It is also influenced by my own past experiences and that of many others I have spoken to about lost love. This post is somewhat blunt. Isn't funny how as hard as we try after we break up, the image of that person just doesn't fade. It stays with us, haunts us. In fact, the image isn't just an image it's more it's all the memories, the memories which we long for. The memories which we are ashamed of, guilty for, sorrowful, depressed, the memories which we loved and thrived in, those in which are chest feels lifted and those in which it seers with pain. And that's the catch. Those memories become incredibly difficult to step out of, in fact we begin to live in them. We get trapped in our past life in which we were entranced by love regardless of how good or bad it felt, just trapped. What I say is take an axe to it. Cut it down, break through it with all you got, don't stay there because it's an illusion. If we are a boat, the past is simply the trail of water the boat carves out in the lake, and the trail cannot stir the boat, it cannot lead you forward. The trail only leaves you looking back perpetually stuck in your own self made life drama. So I say take an axe to it cut it down like it's cancerous don't let yourself be taken down by the alluring charm of past tides. Don't let the scents steal you away, the colors take you to sorrow, the names blur your peace. Cut it down, shatter it like a funhouse mirror, so that you will see clearly. So that you can return to peace. I only wish it were that easy...
dragonwave Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 Well said Shayan. As the saying goes, a man stuck in the past has no future. However, while intellectually we understand this, to break emotionally, is much harder. Thats where the time factor comes in and also the "reality check" to see the "past", in particular the "relationship" and the "ex" in the right light. Who they really were, especially at the end of the relationship and to see the relationship for what it really was. Often times this exercise is a bit easier when a past rleationship lasted for many years cause we have many different memories and moments to disect and get a reality check. When the relationship was short lived, perhaps a few months that were very happy, its alot harder to let go emotionally. In the end, you are right, we all need to break away from our past, to let go, so we can really have a future. Not doing this, only keeps us stuck, an unfulfilled life and we rob ourselves of new people and opportunities to have better experiences.
january2010 Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 I don't know...getting violent with an imaginary bladed weapon has only ever provided me with temporary relief. Over the longer-term, less abrupt/traumatic visualisations and positive affirmations have worked the best for me. To each his/her own.
Author shayan Posted December 31, 2010 Author Posted December 31, 2010 it's metaphorical speech the axe represents insight, you have to look deeper then the words.
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