jzsprinter Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 Those words from my gf have resonated in my mind for over 5 months since she suddenly dumped me. I'm new to dating so I have 0 experience in this sort of thing. I spent my high school years as a combination of a nerd and a jock, excelling in academics, athletics, and all my extracurricular activities. I had a graduation party in June and it was the first time we saw each other in several years (her family has been friends with my family for a long time) and we instantly took an interest to each other. We dated for a few weeks and then one night she invited me to hang out with her and dumped me in public. To this day, I've been deeply affected and I haven't been able to live a normal life because she was the only girl to ever come to like and respect me. Also, making me feel even worse is the fact that I did so many great things for her and her family without wanting anything in return besides friendship. I just don't know where to go with this?
SDA Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 You seem like a great guy. One that should be praised. This girl is an ass. You deserve better. You will find another girl if you are what you make your self out to be. This one wasn't for you. Keep on plugging.
PegNosePete Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 one night she invited me to hang out with her and dumped me in public ... she was the only girl to ever come to like and respect me That certainly doesn't sound very respectful to me. You need to take her off the pedestal dude. She is not the only girl in the world. There are over 3 billion of them, and only one of you. Those are good odds!
Author jzsprinter Posted January 1, 2011 Author Posted January 1, 2011 You seem like a great guy. One that should be praised. This girl is an ass. You deserve better. You will find another girl if you are what you make your self out to be. This one wasn't for you. Keep on plugging. Thanks but she's just such a special person to me and I've been living with sadness because that's how much her loss means to me.
Author jzsprinter Posted January 1, 2011 Author Posted January 1, 2011 That certainly doesn't sound very respectful to me. You need to take her off the pedestal dude. She is not the only girl in the world. There are over 3 billion of them, and only one of you. Those are good odds! She just has so much in common with me and I can't imagine finding anyone else like that.
PegNosePete Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 She just has so much in common with me and I can't imagine finding anyone else like that. She may be special to you, but you're clearly not special to her. Sorry dude, time to move on.
Graceful Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 Those words from my gf have resonated in my mind for over 5 months since she suddenly dumped me. I'm new to dating so I have 0 experience in this sort of thing. I spent my high school years as a combination of a nerd and a jock, excelling in academics, athletics, and all my extracurricular activities. I had a graduation party in June and it was the first time we saw each other in several years (her family has been friends with my family for a long time) and we instantly took an interest to each other. We dated for a few weeks and then one night she invited me to hang out with her and dumped me in public. To this day, I've been deeply affected and I haven't been able to live a normal life because she was the only girl to ever come to like and respect me. Also, making me feel even worse is the fact that I did so many great things for her and her family without wanting anything in return besides friendship. I just don't know where to go with this? If there's anything I love, it's a nerd and a jock all rolled into one guy. And I'm not just saying that to make you feel better. Do you know why? Because I'm a geek and a gymrat myself, and most of the time I'd far prefer to be in my yoga practice or at the gym than go on a date. Ok, did you just graduate from high school last June? I'm a little confused b/c you said you hadn't seen this girl in several years and then in June you and she began dating. Either way, this is the first time you really made a connection to a girl you really liked, right? And she hurt you and humiliated you. There's your answer. That must have done a number on you, especially since you did not expect her to treat you like that; you were apparently very happy with her, were treating her well, and that's not exactly the way to reciprocate is it, by dumping you? But I have to disagree with something. She is the first girl, but she will not be the last. I'm sure you wanted more time with her, and wanted to get to know her, but hey, she's your age and not very mature yet, and she did not treat you with sensitivity. That is not your fault!! That's totally on her. Maybe that will help knock her off the pedestal you put her on, so take her down a few notches for starters, and do that right now. You have many miles to sprint and lots of girls to date and have fun with, so don't let this first experience leave you jaded. I can tell you there are lots of nice girls out there who are going to like you, you just haven't met them yet. Heck, I like you, but I'm too old for you. Chin up. I don't want to belittle how you feel because you're young, it's a big blow. But I also don't want you to let this one experience define how you feel about yourself. She was insensitive to you. She's not the kind of girl you want for a GF, I don't care what else she has going for her, she treated you poorly and she dumped you in a very cruel way. That is NOT classy. You're classy. So it's her loss in my book, not your's.
isitme1 Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 After your reading your post I can someone relate to your story..I am older myself and I felt like i have lost the one...I thought I was doing everything right...I thought I was treating someone tat I thought wanted to be treated...I feel lost and really confused on what went wrong...I miss her dearly..she is already seeing someone else...I feel like to her I am a distant memory now...that is a horrible feeling..but I want whats best for her ad I want to her be happy...it will be along time before I even consider dating again..I just dont like dealing w/this kind of stuff...My prayers are with you..
Author jzsprinter Posted January 2, 2011 Author Posted January 2, 2011 If there's anything I love, it's a nerd and a jock all rolled into one guy. And I'm not just saying that to make you feel better. Do you know why? Because I'm a geek and a gymrat myself, and most of the time I'd far prefer to be in my yoga practice or at the gym than go on a date. Ok, did you just graduate from high school last June? I'm a little confused b/c you said you hadn't seen this girl in several years and then in June you and she began dating. Either way, this is the first time you really made a connection to a girl you really liked, right? And she hurt you and humiliated you. There's your answer. That must have done a number on you, especially since you did not expect her to treat you like that; you were apparently very happy with her, were treating her well, and that's not exactly the way to reciprocate is it, by dumping you? But I have to disagree with something. She is the first girl, but she will not be the last. I'm sure you wanted more time with her, and wanted to get to know her, but hey, she's your age and not very mature yet, and she did not treat you with sensitivity. That is not your fault!! That's totally on her. Maybe that will help knock her off the pedestal you put her on, so take her down a few notches for starters, and do that right now. You have many miles to sprint and lots of girls to date and have fun with, so don't let this first experience leave you jaded. I can tell you there are lots of nice girls out there who are going to like you, you just haven't met them yet. Heck, I like you, but I'm too old for you. Chin up. I don't want to belittle how you feel because you're young, it's a big blow. But I also don't want you to let this one experience define how you feel about yourself. She was insensitive to you. She's not the kind of girl you want for a GF, I don't care what else she has going for her, she treated you poorly and she dumped you in a very cruel way. That is NOT classy. You're classy. So it's her loss in my book, not your's. To clear things up, yes I graduated from high school in June 2010. I'm currently a freshmen in college and she's one year younger (almost exactly to the day) so she's currently a senior in high school (not the same high school I went to). Her family has been friends with my family for about 25 years and her aunt is my mom's best friend (my parents bought our house from her aunt and her aunt bought my parents old house). I've known her from when I was very young but we weren't really friends, we'd just see each other every once in a while. In June, I had a graduation party and my mom invited her and her family. We took an instant attraction to each other and a few weeks later we started dating. She was my first gf and the ONLY girl to have ever liked and respected me. Thank you very much for your wise and wonderful words of wisdom. That shows me how great people can be and the compassion they have for others.
Author jzsprinter Posted January 2, 2011 Author Posted January 2, 2011 After your reading your post I can someone relate to your story..I am older myself and I felt like i have lost the one...I thought I was doing everything right...I thought I was treating someone tat I thought wanted to be treated...I feel lost and really confused on what went wrong...I miss her dearly..she is already seeing someone else...I feel like to her I am a distant memory now...that is a horrible feeling..but I want whats best for her ad I want to her be happy...it will be along time before I even consider dating again..I just dont like dealing w/this kind of stuff...My prayers are with you.. Thank you very much. At least I'm not alone and I'm looking forward to the day when I can start feeling better again.
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