Jannah Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 No, I'm sure she hates it Haha! ---------------
tigressA Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 Thanks, I know that men love the "But you are not my girlfriend" line lol. I will definitely tread lightly. Perhaps it's because of my experience with this, but I feel like something is fishy here. You two are essentially a couple but he is unwilling to slap the label on it. It was the exact same thing with me--I had met his friends too. How has he introduced you to his friends? Have you been affectionate in front of them or has he encouraged a level of secrecy? Have you met any of his family? Definitely, definitely tread lightly.
AverageJoe Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 To add to tigress post. I would not have a fwb meet a member of my family intentionally. By chance perhaps. But not in an intentional way. Take from that what you will.
Author ReadyforLove Posted December 31, 2010 Author Posted December 31, 2010 Perhaps it's because of my experience with this, but I feel like something is fishy here. You two are essentially a couple but he is unwilling to slap the label on it. It was the exact same thing with me--I had met his friends too. How has he introduced you to his friends? Have you been affectionate in front of them or has he encouraged a level of secrecy? Have you met any of his family? Definitely, definitely tread lightly. ?? I can't remember exactly. I think he just said "This is ____". We make out in front of his friends and my friends there is no secrecy at all. All of his family is in another state but he was talking to a sibling on the phone the other day and said "I'm at ____'s house" which gave me the impression that he already told her about me because she didn't answer with "who's house? huh?"
Jannah Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 He doesn't want to date others either. I told him he should to see what is out there and that's when he told me he doesn't want me to date anyone else. Greedy? Perhaps. But a self-absorbed jerk? I don't think so If he doesn't want to date others, he would say "I don't want to date others". Just because HE doesn't want YOU to date others, doesn't mean the same holds true for him... He doesn't want to be in a relationship because of his financial situation. Bogus. ?? I can't remember exactly. I think he just said "This is ____". We make out in front of his friends and my friends there is no secrecy at all. All of his family is in another state but he was talking to a sibling on the phone the other day and said "I'm at ____'s house" which gave me the impression that he already told her about me because she didn't answer with "who's house? huh?" That doesn't necessarily mean anything.
tigressA Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 Thanks for answering my post. Hm...good that you're so open in front of your friends. This situation is just strange. Jannah's last post was spot-on, IMO.
You'reasian Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 Face to face discussion. Tell him what you want. Be honest.
Author ReadyforLove Posted January 5, 2011 Author Posted January 5, 2011 So, Happy New Year everyone So FWB-ish guy told me that he wants to be in a relationship with me, he is just nervous about jumping into something new but is willing to give it a try because of the way he feels about me So, for all of you asking if you can turn a FWB into a real relationship, the answer is YES (depending on the guy of course) I told him I really needed to think about it and we should continue to take our time getting to know each other. And plus, I have a couple of other dates planned for this week/weekend but I don't know how long I can delay this "relationship" issue. Has anyone else gotten into a relationship even though they weren't 100% sure about the other person? Did that person eventually grow on you and you were able to ignore their faults? He is a good guy don't get me wrong, I'm just not sure if he is long term relationship material
dispatch3d Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 So, Happy New Year everyone So FWB-ish guy told me that he wants to be in a relationship with me, he is just nervous about jumping into something new but is willing to give it a try because of the way he feels about me So, for all of you asking if you can turn a FWB into a real relationship, the answer is YES (depending on the guy of course) I told him I really needed to think about it and we should continue to take our time getting to know each other. And plus, I have a couple of other dates planned for this week/weekend but I don't know how long I can delay this "relationship" issue. Has anyone else gotten into a relationship even though they weren't 100% sure about the other person? Did that person eventually grow on you and you were able to ignore their faults? He is a good guy don't get me wrong, I'm just not sure if he is long term relationship material holy god. Stop overanalyzing things. Just date the guy already. You can't spend your whole life pondering if somethings "worth it" or not "worth it". Pretty soon your life will be over and all you'll have to show is long periods of indecision.
elastica Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Has anyone else gotten into a relationship even though they weren't 100% sure about the other person? Yes. How can you ever be 100% sure in the other person? It would be like seeing each other for decades before getting into relationship. Did that person eventually grow on you and you were able to ignore their faults? Yes. But only if you really want to be in a relationship with them, too. I agree with above poster, just start dating him, you are clearly attracted to him, so why not give it a try?
Distant78 Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 holy god. Stop overanalyzing things. Just date the guy already. You can't spend your whole life pondering if somethings "worth it" or not "worth it". Pretty soon your life will be over and all you'll have to show is long periods of indecision. Exactly. They both know they like each other.
Author ReadyforLove Posted January 9, 2011 Author Posted January 9, 2011 Thanks for all of the advice everyone I still need some time to think things through but I appreciate all of the input!
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