Silver Arrow Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 There's this girl that i like who is in my university. We live on the same floor of our halls of residence and i have a massive crush on her. I told her about it as i just had to get it out and she said that we were just friends. We were in a club and both pretty drunk so i guess that it was VERY stupid of me to tell her then because maybe she thought that i was joking with her and maybe that influenced her response Anyway I was more than ok with her saying no and she gave me her number. Two days later we bumped into each other in another club and we danced together and she proceeded to grinding on me, which was good but a little bit confusing considering she said she wasn't interested but i danced with her anyway. Anyway i must have danced with her for about 20 seconds and i went to the bar to get some water because i was dehydrated. She probably thought that i was rejecting her or something but i wasn't too bothered about her because i was upset about something else completely unrelated that night and i went to find my friend. My question is does she like me or not because she's all i think about 24/7 and it's driving me nuts. We're both pretty comfortable with each other which is weird because i'm usually somewhat nervous around other girls. I feel really great and really happy when i'm around her. She doesn't mind me touching her at all or getting in her personal space. We're both from completely different backgrounds and maybe that's why she's a bit scared. She's always happy whenever she sees me and we always make eye contact with each other. I think about her all the time and i haven't been able to do any work because of that. Should i just forget about her or is there still hope? Thank you
DuskCrush Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 Well---just ask her out. Don't declare any feelings or anything. If she is interested --she'll say Yes. At the end of the day you'll be sure and can either move forward or put it behind you. However--it doesn't sound like she's interested. She clearly told you she just saw you as a friend. Still---she could have surprised or something at the time. Seeing that you're still in doubt and admittedly obsessed-- you definitely need to do something.
joeLove Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 Don't worry too much about what she said. She is simply trying to keep expectations low. Her actions so far speak louder than the words that came out of her mouth. She gave you her number, she is comfortable around you, she doesn't mind when you touching her... that's an excellent basis to find out more. Continue feeling your way more and more into her and notice her reaction ... That will tell you how to proceed.
Author Silver Arrow Posted December 31, 2010 Author Posted December 31, 2010 Hi what do you mean by "Continue feeling your way more and more into her and notice her reaction" I'd like to ask her to go see a movie but i don't know how i'd put it into words.
joeLove Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 ahh ... simple ... Do you like movies in general? Does she? Do you both ever talk about movies? Do you ever relate some of your conversation to some scene in a movie? Do you ever relate to some scene in a movie during your conversation? (like Houston, i think we have a problem type dialog) ... Simply make the transition from there to movies ... Just ask her what her favorite movie is and why ... then tell her about a great movie that just came out and that your friends (or brother, sister, co-worker, ...) say good things about it ...And sell it well to her ..until she is impressed and then ask if she wants to go see it with you ... You can also bypass all of that and simply ask her to go see a movie with you ... Tons of ways ... just feel natural, when asking. Hi what do you mean by "Continue feeling your way more and more into her and notice her reaction" I'd like to ask her to go see a movie but i don't know how i'd put it into words.
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