BlackZeppelin Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 So about a week prior to Christmas my ex cheated on me and ultimately downgraded to another guy. She told me that she had fallen in love with another guy, that I need to stay out of her business, and for me to get over her. A few hours later she calls and apologizes, and I forgave but I told her that this was a good-bye and she was going on NC. All week there was no contact as expected and I had started to feel a little better about everything, until about 12:30 Christmas morning when I got a call from an unregistered number. Curiously I answered and heard a "Hope you have a Merry Christmas!" Me: "Uhh, whose this?" Her: "It's ******!" Me: *click* About 5 minutes later her sister (whom I've had open communication with) texts me Merry Christmas. And I replied Merry Christmas back. She later replied saying that my ex (her sister) was mad that I wished her a happy birthday and not my ex. She said she was trying to be friendly and bitch free. And then I became enraged. How could she have the nerve to not only call me on on Christmas but to get mad when I didn't want to wish it back? She also called on the house phone meaning she still has my number in her memory and that she prolly didn't mass call people. (She got her phone taken away) What does it all mean? I've been told that This could mean several thing: (a) maybe her relationship isn't/didn't work out and she wants you back. (b) she's kinda upset that you were able to stop talking to her so easily and wants to make it out like your playing tough and really need her. © maybe she is trying to be friends and hurt that you don't care enough to want to. (d) she wants to play mind games What do you think?
krymej Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 what a big kick in the teeth, i am sorry to hear you have had to go through this It could be a possibility of all of the points your friends have mentioned to you. she sounds to me like she is being very immature what does she expect from you after putting you through all of this.... christmas wishes?... please. i think you can learn so much more about someone by the way they behave during a breakup compared to the relationship as a whole. i would not bother trying to question anything now really what her motives or intentions are she made her bed man now leave her to it.if it doesn't work out between her and this other guy she so claims to be in love with then that is her own fault. As much as you may forgive her and that i would just try your best to move on and eventually you will find someone that truly deserves your affections and love all the best my friend
Author BlackZeppelin Posted December 30, 2010 Author Posted December 30, 2010 what a big kick in the teeth, i am sorry to hear you have had to go through this It could be a possibility of all of the points your friends have mentioned to you. she sounds to me like she is being very immature what does she expect from you after putting you through all of this.... christmas wishes?... please. i think you can learn so much more about someone by the way they behave during a breakup compared to the relationship as a whole. i would not bother trying to question anything now really what her motives or intentions are she made her bed man now leave her to it.if it doesn't work out between her and this other guy she so claims to be in love with then that is her own fault. As much as you may forgive her and that i would just try your best to move on and eventually you will find someone that truly deserves your affections and love all the best my friend Yeah thanks man She knew what the hell she was getting into, and I've heard from her sister that her new relationship sucks! haha But I've been receiving a lot of girl attention since that breakup and it's helped me move on so thanks for the support:)
Breakupguy12 Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 Honestly, it sounds like you were pretty pissed off that she cheated. I think before you put too much work into trying to figure out the meaning behind her actions, you should ponder on whether what she did is something you can see yourself forgiving her for. If so, call her and talk, if not, continue the NC so that you can heal and move on with your life.
Author BlackZeppelin Posted December 30, 2010 Author Posted December 30, 2010 Honestly, it sounds like you were pretty pissed off that she cheated. I think before you put too much work into trying to figure out the meaning behind her actions, you should ponder on whether what she did is something you can see yourself forgiving her for. If so, call her and talk, if not, continue the NC so that you can heal and move on with your life. Well her cheating was all through text But it's that I found out she had a whole nother bf that pissed me off
krymej Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 Yeah thanks man She knew what the hell she was getting into, and I've heard from her sister that her new relationship sucks! haha But I've been receiving a lot of girl attention since that breakup and it's helped me move on so thanks for the support:) Thats fantastic to hear well for her call it Karma and for you put it down to experience. call it a filter for the ones that where never worthy of you. yeah i remember from one of my last breakups i just got out there and played the field for a while it helped me A LOT and builds your self esteem and confidence back up, have a toast to yourself this new year man i am sure great things will come your way kindest regards
Breakupguy12 Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 Well her cheating was all through text But it's that I found out she had a whole nother bf that pissed me off Oh, so she didn't actually have sex with someone else?
Author BlackZeppelin Posted December 30, 2010 Author Posted December 30, 2010 Thats fantastic to hear well for her call it Karma and for you put it down to experience. call it a filter for the ones that where never worthy of you. yeah i remember from one of my last breakups i just got out there and played the field for a while it helped me A LOT and builds your self esteem and confidence back up, have a toast to yourself this new year man i am sure great things will come your way kindest regards Ahh yes I miss the fields It's been too long haha
Author BlackZeppelin Posted December 30, 2010 Author Posted December 30, 2010 Oh, so she didn't actually have sex with someone else? Well I wasn't there idk but from what her and her sister said it wasn't physical Which is why I forgave her
Feelin Frisky Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 The bottom line is that her feelings aren't sitting well with her and he wants something new to think about that ease her mind. Apparently either you aren't having it or you want her to suffer a little. That;s OK if you do. If you dumped her for cheating then you need to accept what you chose. This is it. If you can tough it out then do so. Unless you feel pity for her.
Author BlackZeppelin Posted December 30, 2010 Author Posted December 30, 2010 The bottom line is that her feelings aren't sitting well with her and he wants something new to think about that ease her mind. Apparently either you aren't having it or you want her to suffer a little. That;s OK if you do. If you dumped her for cheating then you need to accept what you chose. This is it. If you can tough it out then do so. Unless you feel pity for her. I guess I didn't make it clear, but I didn't dump her, she left when I found out
Author BlackZeppelin Posted December 31, 2010 Author Posted December 31, 2010 Requesting more feedback?
Feelin Frisky Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 Requesting more feedback? Ah, but it's still the same. She's has recriminations and issues that are making her uncomfortable. The question is do you want to resue her by doing something that gives her a chance to knock the others into the past, or do you say tough tooties, live with whatever it is and go your merry way. That seems to be the long and short of it. You have to choose.
Author BlackZeppelin Posted December 31, 2010 Author Posted December 31, 2010 Ah, but it's still the same. She's has recriminations and issues that are making her uncomfortable. The question is do you want to resue her by doing something that gives her a chance to knock the others into the past, or do you say tough tooties, live with whatever it is and go your merry way. That seems to be the long and short of it. You have to choose. I'm not really looking for options though I'm just curious as to what others think of it
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