fucila Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 So, the whole thing is not really about my ex-boyfriend, because we have -officially - never been together, but he was my... "almost-boyfriend". We've been knowing each other for like 6 years (he goes to the same school as i do) and in march this year he told me, that he fell in love with me. I didn't really know what to do, because actually he was just a friend to me and - sorry for my superficiality ! - not my type. Well, but then things developed different from what i expected, i kind of began to like him. (at least i thought i would) In the following months, we spent loads of time together, but still as friends. But I knew he was trying hard to get out of the friends zone. One day me and a friend of mine, visited him, and the whole time he was gently stroking my leg. (for my friend not to notice of course), a few days later i was lying in his bed, he was on the computer and then suddenly he scrambled on it too and layed down next to me. We cuddled for a while and that was it. well, it went on like this for a few months we made out, but never had sex or something with each other. I think it wa sin august, when I wanted to clear things up. I told him, that I was, from the beginning on, not sure about this and that it would maybe be better if we'd stay friends. At first he was really upset, but a few weeks later everything seemed to be okay, we were still friends and everything was fine. He also said he would be over it and that it wouldn't hurt him that much anymore. But now the trouble started. He and his 2 best boyfriends became friends with 2 girls, and since then they only spent time together with them. It seems that he doesn't even remember me. I asked him if he was still hurt and whether that would be the reason that he ONLY spends time with them. But he told me he was totally okay with me, and that we could still spend time together. But he never approaches me of his own accord. And actually it was not my intention to run after him. The problem is i feel really bad now, I kind of miss him, even though i know that I'm the one who dumped him. I always ask myself how he can have stopped loving me within such a short time... I really miss him. his silence is killing me, but everytime i tell him he just says that everything is fine Do you think there's any chance of getting him back - at least as a friend?
Breakupguy12 Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 I'm sure some would disagree, but from my experience, it's nearly impossible for a man to be true friends with a woman without eventually wanting something out of it. He showed you time and time again that he wanted more. In your mind it was just a friendship, but in his mind he was putting in time and work to hopefully take things to another level. Once you officially made it clear that it wasn't going to happen, he searched for a chance at love somewhere else, and he apparently may have found it. You can't provide for him what he really wanted with you, so it appears he's moved on. I don't think he viewed the friendship in the same light as yourself.
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