Lemontang Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 Just wondering if anyones had a bad experience with a friend and having them move in as a housemate and how they gauged it. I recently took in a friend who'd been traveling for 6 months so as to help him get back on his feet before he goes away on his next adventure in the next few months. It's only been a week and I'm already regretting it. He's moved into the backyard bungalow (guest house) and twice almost burned my house down. The 2nd time I came home just by chance and noticed hours later that the stove was still left on when I went to get something from the kitchen...needless to say what ever he was cooking wasn't recognisable anymore. His excuse was he'd gone back to the bungalow to have a short lay down as he was tired. The guys a freak'n chef he should know never to leave a stove unattended. Hell the 1st time he left the pot boiling on the stove and had once again gone down to the bungalow for a lay down, it was just lucky I was home at the time and noticed it had come to the boil and after 5 minutes of that thought I'd better let him know I'd like to keep my house in one piece. Now I'm fiercely defensive when it comes to my house since I grew up in it and ended up buying it from my folks, so it should be understandable that I like my house non crispy when it comes to cooking. I'm going away soon and I'm not confident now that it will still be standing when I return. Any suggestions? I've already had it out with him this evening regarding the fact I've had to bring this to his attention twice now, should I even risk a third? I totally get that he's still adjusting from his last adventure but I find this type of absentmindedness unacceptable at this level. Thoughts?
denise_xo Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 That's not absent minded, it's dangerous. He needs to be somewhere else when you're away. He clearly can't be left alone. You do that once - OK, you made a bad mistake. But twice in one week? That's above the quota.
Vesna Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 A few months ago I put someone up for as long as it took for them to find more permanent accomodation. I laid the ground rules on the first day, such as using the fan and keeping the windows open when cooking meat. I also insisted he don't smoke in the house and to make sure the doors were locked while he was asleep since we kept opposite working hours. He didn't adhere to any of these things so by the end of the week I simply asked him to leave. He quietly co-operated which led me to believe he didn't last very long in the last place he stayed at either, probably for the same reason. Give him his marching orders. Your safety and sanity are precious.
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