shamone222 Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 i dont know what category this should be in but i now feel a tone of hatred towards my ex, have i moved on? still it doesnt feel like i have but its the first time iv come to hate her. she dumped me 2 months ago and have been trying NC ever since. she's now emailing me, giving out to me for absolute lies someone has been spreading, thinking im trying to make her jelous? truth is, im trying my hardest to move on and for the first time at xmas, have realised that i DONT want to get back with this girl. i do miss being with her and was hurt from the breakup but have come to terms that she is not the girl for me. but she's hounding me with emails, telling me how much she is enjoying life without me and that she has fully moved on and is over me completely. im happy for her but really, does she have to say the cruelest things?? we had a pretty healthy relationship and we always the best of friends. but i hate her now for who she is, i think she is very rude and is a much changed person from the girl i fell in love with. is this normal or has this happened to anyone else? basically we spent the whole day mocking eachother, telling eachother how much we hate eachother, the more we emailed, the worse it got. some things wer said that cant be taken back on both our behalfs. it was ugly! we share mutual friends and always have but now some of them feel like they have to choose sides. its uncomfortable for some friends. so if anyone has experience from this, what was the outcome? does it get better or worse?i know this is a situation to cut contact completely, which we now have starting today, but deep down inside i really dont want to hate her, but i do now! im being honest when i say that in future i do want to be friends with her. has anybody else got changed feelings and then got back together in time? even after hte 2 have just said the most horrible things to eachother that cannot be taken back??
Karma20 Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 Sadness, anger. Hate are all stages of healing a broken heart. If you want to be friends in the future then stick to NC. If you speak to her while you have these feelings of hate you could say things you'll regret and make it so you can't be friends. Just keep healing and stick to NC
PowerOfOne Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 She sounds like a real piece of work. Contrary to what she's saying i doubt very much if she is actually happy, moved on or over it. If she was she'd have no need to send emails like that. Looking back you should have probably just ignored and deleted the first email. But what's been done has been done. Delete the emails and block her. There is absolutly no need to be bringing that kind of stuff up months after the breakup. Go back to NC and leave her to dwell in her own bitterness.
Author shamone222 Posted December 30, 2010 Author Posted December 30, 2010 so i did the right thing i supose before i left work, i sent her an email just to opoligise sincerely for anything i said that offended her, and told her she wont be hearing from me ever again and that il be completely out of her way. she replied and said she was sorry too for the things she said to me, and apreciates the opology and accepted it. but then said we need to cut contact right now and i agreed. so my new years resolution is - ignore the ex!! i feel so much better now and i really think things will look up from here onwards heading into a new year, im happy we ended on a good note
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