Being the OW

[Bruck_up]

I engaged with a girl who was in a relationship. Our "affair" lasted about 2 months.

 

Its been a week of NC. The guilt caught up to her. I got some heavy emails to which I had nothing to say. Aside from some Christmas wishes, we have gone from daily contact to silence.

 

At times, it seems to be more then I can bear.

 

Ill post the full version sometime. I just needed to get this off my chest as I miss her so and this thread is what prevents me from contacting her.

[whichwayisup]

You haven't invested too much time into her as it's only been 2 months. Imagine if it was a year or two from now, it would be alot harder.

 

Try to keep busy, focus on your grieving and letting go, surround yourself with good friends and family, take up hobbies, join a gym to let out frustration..

 

Keep posting here and also write as much as you want to her, as venting and it being theraputic, but don't ever send them to her! Keep going with the NC, you can do this!!

[Fieldsofgold]

I engaged with a girl who was in a relationship. Our "affair" lasted about 2 months.

 

Its been a week of NC. The guilt caught up to her. I got some heavy emails to which I had nothing to say. Aside from some Christmas wishes, we have gone from daily contact to silence.

 

At times, it seems to be more then I can bear.

 

Ill post the full version sometime. I just needed to get this off my chest as I miss her so and this thread is what prevents me from contacting her.

 

And read here. Read, read, read. Read everything East7 has posted about his A with a MW. Read everything everyone has posted. It will occupy your time AND give you some great insights.

 

And just be glad it's 2 months, not 2 years, or 10. I personally know a woman who invested 10 years as the OW, to a MM. When she left, she left with nothing but 10 years older, and her memories. I'm not at all sure she found those to be at all fond, at the end.

Edited December 30, 2010 by Fieldsofgold