sayitasitis Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 (edited) Somewhat inspired by the other thread on whether platonic friendships are possible. I knew this guy through work (not in the same company). We get along like a ball of fire during meetings and offsites. He asked me out. I was thrilled. But I really can't tell whether he wanted to hang out as friends because he enjoys my company, humor and wittiness or he likes me a little more than that. I'm not inclined to ask at this stage because we're still working on projects together and I don't want to "scare" him. We had a good time during the hangout. It was casual but nonetheless a great one. No kiss, no fighting for the check at the end of the evening. Should I bet on the friendship card or expect that it could progress? Edited December 30, 2010 by sayitasitis
Author sayitasitis Posted December 30, 2010 Author Posted December 30, 2010 Anyone has an opinion on this?
Author sayitasitis Posted December 30, 2010 Author Posted December 30, 2010 Are you both single? Yup, both single. Though I'm not sure whether he's sure about my status since we never talked about it. I heard it from his colleagues about his.
frenchgirl Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 Yup, both single. Though I'm not sure whether he's sure about my status since we never talked about it. I heard it from his colleagues about his. Generally speaking, a guy never hangs out with a girl unless there is some kind of interest. However you were there with him and you would be able to tell if he was strictly friendly with you. He could be testing the waters, he could be not interested at all but thinks you're a cool and available friend, etc.
Author sayitasitis Posted December 30, 2010 Author Posted December 30, 2010 Generally speaking, a guy never hangs out with a girl unless there is some kind of interest. However you were there with him and you would be able to tell if he was strictly friendly with you. He could be testing the waters, he could be not interested at all but thinks you're a cool and available friend, etc. Your answer covered all ground. I know it's difficult to call so I'm so confused. What I could tell was that he really enjoyed my company and we're so comfortable with each other it's scary. Anyone else can shed a light, especially if you've gone through such an experience yourself?
joeLove Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 What would you like to see happened to this? Would you like to see it progress to more than just friendship?
Author sayitasitis Posted December 30, 2010 Author Posted December 30, 2010 What would you like to see happened to this? Would you like to see it progress to more than just friendship? Sure, but I tend to like to be able to gauge more from the other side before expressing my interest, if you know what I mean. It could be seen as a coward's way but I don't really want to hit a brick. What's your view on the OP?
DuskCrush Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 Did he pay for the meal? Just relax and enjoy the hanging out. Get to know him better. I figure by third-hangout he'll try to swing it towards a romantic relationship if he is interested.
Author sayitasitis Posted December 30, 2010 Author Posted December 30, 2010 Did he pay for the meal? Just relax and enjoy the hanging out. Get to know him better. I figure by third-hangout he'll try to swing it towards a romantic relationship if he is interested. We went dutch. While it didn't bother me, is that bad?
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