broke NC to tell him merry christmas/happy birthday- BIG MISTAKE

[Wrenne]

wow. so, i broke no contact to tell my ex merry christmas and happy birthday. he has been with a new girl for 6 months (we broke up 8 months ago). he responded to say thank you, and also ask if i could do a favor for him and another exgirlfriend of his. his, i thought, inappropriately close relationship with this same exgirlfriend caused a lot of problems that led us to fight in the months leading up to the breakup (telling her he loves her, sending her poetry, etc.). wow. never. again. i am SO done.

[homebrew]

Ouch!

 

Sorry you had to experience that...

 

This guy has no brains... What person in their right mind would ask you to do him a favor for another girl you had issues with after 6 months of NC?

 

He sounds like a real gem...

[AbsoluteSucker]

My ex has a birthday coming up in a few weeks and I'm already thinking about what I'm going to do...such a waste of my thoughts, it's so dumb I can't even believe it...I don't know what my problem is!!

[homebrew]

My ex has a birthday coming up in a few weeks and I'm already thinking about what I'm going to do...such a waste of my thoughts, it's so dumb I can't even believe it...I don't know what my problem is!!

 

Be Absolute about your NC...

 

Don't be a SUCKER!

 

My true story concerning me with my current EX and her Birthday...

 

We broke up and March... Have been in No Contact since March

 

Her Birthday is July... I did not call her on her birthday... I am not kidding about this... At 12:01am (1 minute past the day of her birthday)... She called me...(I did not answer) and left me a voice mail that said she was hurt and couldn't believe that I didn't call her on her birthday.

 

So she was thinking about me all day wondering if I was going to call her... Looking at her phone to turn 12:01am to call me and share her thoughts on it.

 

I would have much rather that happen... then me call her and not hear anything at all back... That would have SUCKED!

 

She thinks I broke up with her at this point... Even though we had a mutual break up after we figured out she had G.I.G.S.

 

Absolute... You want to try it my way? or you want to have the same result like the other dumpees that got no response from their EX on a holiday / birthday message?

 

Choose Wisely!

[GreenPolicy]

I figure I have three last hurdles before I can really put being dumped behind me.

 

NYE for obvious reasons.

 

My birthday is February 3rd. I do not expect to hear from her on that date and her silence will say it all.

 

Then Valentine's Day of course.

[I have no title]

My bf didnt call me for my Birthday which was 2 days ago aswell...we are already for 2 weeks in NC , and honestly I felt like he was such a complete ******* if he didnt even bother to send me one message...I mean, is he so over me? we broke up 3 weeks ago only, and he KNOWS it was my b-day, but it was probably too hard to write something....

Btw he left me because of the GIGS, and he currently is with this girl on a winter holliday - how lovely, isnt it? he is probably so in love that he forgot to congratulate me...there you go....

[Leandro]

My bf didnt call me for my Birthday which was 2 days ago aswell...we are already for 2 weeks in NC , and honestly I felt like he was such a complete ******* if he didnt even bother to send me one message...I mean, is he so over me?

Same thing happen to me. She dumped me 2 weeks before my birthday. Everyone told me happy birthday but her on facebook. A email or simple text would have been better. Oh well. You'll be fine.

[homebrew]

I know you are not going to believe me when I say this... *Zips up Flame Suit*

 

But your EX did you a favor by not wishing you a Happy Birthday... Had they done so, it would have screwed you up more than them not doing it at all.

[Leandro]

Had they done so, it would have screwed you up more than them not doing it at all.

*puts flamethrower down*

 

LOL, that's true. Either way, it would have screwed us up. Getting a message would leave us thinking and not getting it would do the same.

[homebrew]

*puts flamethrower down*

 

LOL, that's true. Either way, it would have screwed us up. Getting a message would leave us thinking and not getting it would do the same.

 

Thanks... I was worried for a second...

[Ajax]

I was hoping to hear from my ex on Christmas too, but didn't get anything. We've been NC since September 2nd, and if I was ever to hear from her it would have been Christmas.

 

On the other hand, I don't suppose they celebrate Christmas in Hell.

 

I think that once a relationship breaks up we can't expect birthday or holiday contacts from exes. And while we might be able to pin some blame on them for hurting us, once it's over they have no responsability to wish us any sort of holiday cheer. And as far as those of us who were dumped... why on earth would we go out of our way and risk more pain by contacting them first?

[9Lives]

I think it. Is signifiact to count up the cost of contacting a ex if u still have feelings. Bottom line, if u are over them u would just send it and not have ant attachment to the outcome so imo you was wrong to send a text.

 

If your ex didn't contact u, it doesn't mean they didn't think about u but probably was best. Again, until you are over them or they come asking for another chance. Other than that, stop playing and try to move on. I'm no saint here but I have been on LS for a while and I have learned u are only hurting yourself when u mess with a dumper. Chill out