nnahiy Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 or is he just being friends? So he broke up with me about two month ago. It was on good terms and kinda mutual in a way, and we both decided that we want to remain close friends. (We had only dated a few months and I had broken up with him once during this time.) We tried to cool it off for a while but didn't cut off contact, and we see each other once in a while. The recent couple of weeks we seem to be contacting more often. Sometimes he would send me random texts like before and he often suggests we should hang out. When we say goodbye he almost always gives me a very tight hug and often times longer than I feel necessary for a normal friend. For Christmas he gave me a necklace as a gift. Not like an expensive one, but pretty special. He hasn't even given me anything like that when we were together. I don't know if he's just trying to be a good friend or is there more on his mind. I think I'm in the process of getting over him, but it's hard to completely let go. There's always lingering feelings and I can't help thinking about these things.
homebrew Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 If you want this guy back... You are doing EVERYTHING WITHIN YOUR POWER to make sure that CAN NEVER HAPPEN! You need to spend some time and read through the break up, second chance and coping forums if you want to learn more.
Karma20 Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 If he hasn't said he wanted you back then doesn't. He might be testing the waters to see how you respond to him. I'm not saying he might not be thinking about but if he hasn't said then don't egt your hopes up.
Author nnahiy Posted December 30, 2010 Author Posted December 30, 2010 If you want this guy back... You are doing EVERYTHING WITHIN YOUR POWER to make sure that CAN NEVER HAPPEN! You need to spend some time and read through the break up, second chance and coping forums if you want to learn more. i guess one big problem is i'm not even sure if i want him back... i think my "brain" is telling me to move on...since long ago...like the first time i broke up with him... (not that it was a bad relationship or anything, just that i don't feel like he's the one... and also because of age difference...) but my "heart" is not willing to completely let go. it's like i just want to hold on to this special connection (it is my first relationship btw). i'll have to admit that part of it might just be my ego or the fear of being alone.
Author nnahiy Posted December 30, 2010 Author Posted December 30, 2010 If he hasn't said he wanted you back then doesn't. He might be testing the waters to see how you respond to him. I'm not saying he might not be thinking about but if he hasn't said then don't egt your hopes up. yeah... i'm trying not to get my hopes up... this may sound like i'm trying to make myself the exception, but... he's a pretty passive person, like personality-wise, not just in our relationship. I had always been the one to kinda push things a little further, either when we first started dating, or the time we got back together after i first broke up with him. so... but this time i don't feel like i should be the one to take any initiative since technically he was the one breaking up.
homebrew Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 (edited) Is this the kinda man (if you want to call him that) that you want to spend the rest of your life with? Wouldn't you rather have a man that you admire, respect and is a strong leader within the relationship? Go read in the divorce forum about women that married men like this.... Yawwwwwnnnnnn! There will be no passion, no sense of adventure, no energy, no wild crazy sex, no nothing... Yaaaawwwwwwnnnnn! Move along, there is nothing to see here! Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz! One date with a great guy like me... You wouldn't think of going back to such a bore! Edited December 30, 2010 by homebrew
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