Nathaniel1994 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Ok well im 16 and i dated my love for 7months before we finally broke up.. but it was my fault it was because before i didnt tell her i use to like a girl before i actually met her and she was upset about that because that girl was my best friend while i was going out with her. and she forgave me for that but then when I was boxing with my friends they all saw one of my neighbors and judged her like shes hot and all that but i didnt say anything and she got mad cuz i didnt mention that part of my day because i forgot and after the first incident i told her id tell her everything that happens in my day but i forgot about that one detail and its probably because I didn't really care for what my friends were thinking or even looked at my neighbor.. Ok and now after we've been broken up she tells me tat i dont make her happy like i use to and that i dont listen, but honestly i listen to everything she says and some interest in what happen in her day, but she says that i dont look at her the same anymore.. I just don't understand what she means I haven't changed, but recently she met a guy and she likes him and she called me today crying saying she doesn't know if she should let me go and i wanna spend time with her to show her that i can make her happy.. I miss her.. i just dont know what to do can someone help me?
Breakupguy12 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Ask her flat out if she's willing to put in the work to make things work between you guys. If she says no, move on. If she says she doesn't know, offer to give her some space and come to an agreeance on a reasonable time in the future where she tells you the answer. The reasoning is that you don't want to waste time chasing someone who's trying to move on. You can't beg your way back into a relationship, at least not a healthy one. It takes two to make a relationship work, one party can't force it to happen.
Breakupguy12 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 ...not to mention that you're only 16. Live life. I only know of two couples that were dating at that age that ended up marrying. You're going to change and so is she. Perhaps you guys just aren't compatible anymore. We change alot over the course of our teenage years.
homebrew Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 ...not to mention that you're only 16. Live life. I only know of two couples that were dating at that age that ended up marrying. You're going to change and so is she. Perhaps you guys just aren't compatible anymore. We change alot over the course of our teenage years. I am still changing a lot and I am 38... Is there something wrong with me? Should I go see a Doctor?
Breakupguy12 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I'm 31 and I'm changing a bit too. But 16? C'mon man, I didn't know what love was back then, I was trying to have sex with as many girls as possible, as fast as possible. Of course I'm a different man, now, though. *straightens tie*
homebrew Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 hahahaha! I was trying same as you but I was a complete dork! Didn't hit my stride till my early twenties... Maybe now I better understand why I have never been married at the age of 38... That's it!!!! It's all because of the girls that dissed me when I was in my teenage years! Wow! I just saved $10,000 in therapy! Since you helped me out... I will split the total with you... Where do I send the check?
Author Nathaniel1994 Posted December 30, 2010 Author Posted December 30, 2010 But she is my first love its hard to forget i want her back... but ill ask what u said
Author Nathaniel1994 Posted December 30, 2010 Author Posted December 30, 2010 Well, I followed you guys advice and I let her go. I didn't want to and still don't, but I feel it is the best thing to do and it has only been 3 days and i'm still kinda down, but there is a new girl that I met and she saw how down I was and now we are friends as of today. She makes me happy, but i'm not trying to get into a relationship right now I hope that she isn't either.
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