I left him.. Now i cant forget about him??

[JadenMia]

I had a one year relationship with a man where everything was good. It wasnt a realistic relationship.. I think it may have been more lust than love.. But nontheless, i was crazy about him, i know he was too.

 

Things got out of hand, jealousy controlled our whole relatonship and i couldnt stand it anymore.. And i left.

I *know* deep down, it was the right thing to do.. We were both miserable.. We just were stuck on each other.. When i left.. we would still stupidly meet up and be intimate And it felt amazing.. Until it came time to commit to one another again, things would just crash. We argued, there was no trust.. Just a sham.

 

I tried just ignoring his apologies and promises.. And i felt so strong.. Now its been 2 days since i left and not spoken to him.. And im dying inside.

I cant eat, i feel like im on the verge of tears every second..

I didnt turn into work today.. couldnt bring myself to serve b*tchy customers.. Couldnt bring myself to call in even.

 

I feel like im drowning.. And he just doesnt seem to care at all..

It just hurts so much.. I cant stand going on my facebook anymore and seeing him writing to other girls, even though i already deleted him as a friend. Its just killing me!! And ruining my life..

 

How long will this last!?

I have been through a beakup before.. But it was mutual, and didnt feel anything like this..

 

Any advice or opinions are welcome. Thanks

[Rose T]

The first week is incredibly hard. Everyone will tell you to take it one day at a time and that is really all you can do. When you get up tomorrow morning, try telling yourself that you will be kind to yourself today and not try and sort out all your problems, that you will concentrate on your own happiness, and try not to contact him - at least for 24 hours. You just have to get through that day and then face Friday. See if you can spend New Year's Eve with some friends - doesn't have to be a big crowd, just people that care about you.

 

No contact really is the only way to break the sort of cycle you're talking about and is the only thing that gives you perspective. I know how you feel - I'm four weeks out of a bad break-up and I'm only now starting to see the sun come through the clouds. It does get better.

[homebrew]

I imagine he!! is going to hurt a lot less than what we all experience the first week after a break up.

 

Worst Experience / Feeling / Times that I have ever gone through was after a break up... This coming from someone who's had A LOT of "life experiences"... Worse than my own mother passing away from cancer at the age of 14. So that is saying something...

 

Sorry that you are going through so much pain at the moment! You are not alone...

[delajoonal]

I had a one year relationship with a man where everything was good. It wasnt a realistic relationship.. I think it may have been more lust than love.. But nontheless, i was crazy about him, i know he was too.

 

Things got out of hand, jealousy controlled our whole relatonship and i couldnt stand it anymore.. And i left.

I *know* deep down, it was the right thing to do.. We were both miserable.. We just were stuck on each other.. When i left.. we would still stupidly meet up and be intimate And it felt amazing.. Until it came time to commit to one another again, things would just crash. We argued, there was no trust.. Just a sham.

 

I tried just ignoring his apologies and promises.. And i felt so strong.. Now its been 2 days since i left and not spoken to him.. And im dying inside.

I cant eat, i feel like im on the verge of tears every second..

I didnt turn into work today.. couldnt bring myself to serve b*tchy customers.. Couldnt bring myself to call in even.

 

I feel like im drowning.. And he just doesnt seem to care at all..

It just hurts so much.. I cant stand going on my facebook anymore and seeing him writing to other girls, even though i already deleted him as a friend. Its just killing me!! And ruining my life..

 

How long will this last!?

I have been through a beakup before.. But it was mutual, and didnt feel anything like this..

 

Any advice or opinions are welcome. Thanks

 

 

ok, the first part of your post sounds exactly like MY story...

weird how much we all have so much in common...on LS.

 

anyway, i do not have any advice, like i said in a previous post, i am a mess ..i can't keep the NC for more than 2 days at a time...he keeps emailing me or calling, although i have not spoken to him via phone, i do answer the emails..

HUGE MISTAKE!

 

i poured my effing heart out in the last one...ARGH! RIPPING MY HAIR OUT!

 

but, in the end, i am glad he KNOWS how i feel and NOW i can start the NC...

 

so, gosh ok i rambled on about me..but hoping u can take something from the above, since we r in the same boat, so to speak..

 

homebrew and tojaz and a few others have FABULOUS advice on NC..

 

now, if i can only do IT!

 

good luck to u tho...

 

keep posting and reading..believe it or not..LS is amazing and the people are wonderful and even if u can't do NC in the beginning..well, we have all been there or are all there...

[dmncoldworldgrl87]

I had a one year relationship with a man where everything was good. It wasnt a realistic relationship.. I think it may have been more lust than love.. But nontheless, i was crazy about him, i know he was too.

 

Things got out of hand, jealousy controlled our whole relatonship and i couldnt stand it anymore.. And i left.

I *know* deep down, it was the right thing to do.. We were both miserable.. We just were stuck on each other.. When i left.. we would still stupidly meet up and be intimate And it felt amazing.. Until it came time to commit to one another again, things would just crash. We argued, there was no trust.. Just a sham.

 

I tried just ignoring his apologies and promises.. And i felt so strong.. Now its been 2 days since i left and not spoken to him.. And im dying inside.

I cant eat, i feel like im on the verge of tears every second..

I didnt turn into work today.. couldnt bring myself to serve b*tchy customers.. Couldnt bring myself to call in even.

 

I feel like im drowning.. And he just doesnt seem to care at all..

It just hurts so much.. I cant stand going on my facebook anymore and seeing him writing to other girls, even though i already deleted him as a friend. Its just killing me!! And ruining my life..

 

How long will this last!?

I have been through a beakup before.. But it was mutual, and didnt feel anything like this..

 

Any advice or opinions are welcome. Thanks

 

 

Word of advice...DO NOT i repeat DO NOT look at his facebook again!!! Omg its pure torture and u will just feel the pain over and over again...My ex told me he deleted his FB but i come to find out that he didn't, he just deleted me and everyone that knew me so i go to look...big mistake!!! Will never look at it again...i just cant bring myself to do it...u should just block him like i did cause if i ever get the temptation in the future i cant do it anyway. U will heal much faster if u do this because its better to not know what hes doing...facebook is hell for ppl who are broken up cause u can end up watching ur every exes move and u will never get over them that way...just keep up with the no contact, its the best way to go!

[JadenMia]

Ah! Its nice to know im not alone at least!! Even though i wouldnt wish this upon my worst enemy.. (maybe him)

 

I know exactly what i need to do, I know I will be OK on my own. Im an attractive, outgoing girl and as soon as people knew i wasnt with him anymore.. The men came flocking! Hehe..

Its just actually doing it.. Breaking the habit of texting him.. or even just replying.

When he wants to talk to me and discuss things, nothing bothers me..Its when i dont hear from him it really gets me and i can only take it for so long Then i end up texting him angry why he hasnt bothered to see how i am.. Just to talk, its annoying that he just probably doesnt give a flying f*ck..

 

Today i spent all day thinking i might hear from him.. but nothing... Then i got angry, upset.. Didnt eat again today.. Its like a disease.

 

I just desperately want to be with him and be good. But i KNOW that ship has sailed sadly..

 

I just need to be strong and believe in myself. My friends and family think im NUTS for wanting to talk to him after everything hes said to me and about me.. Just the *harshest* things. And i dont even know why either.

 

And OMG yess!! I looked at his facebook profile.. And it made me sick to my stomach. Seriously sick, his status is 'feeling a million bucks' his birthday is coming up and hes making plans with girls to celebrate. Its just horrible

 

So if i delete him, will i not be able to look if i ever get tempted again?

I just dont want to ever be able to see anything he writes on facebook again. I almost wanted to ask him to block me today, but i dont even want to give him the satisfaction of knowing im a complete mess.

 

Thanks guys

[kalena9488]

I broke up with my BF of 2 years and made him move out. I know he's not what I want in my life. Look at my posts if you'd like to see my situation. But, I still feel like you do now and then as well. I think like the others have said if we just go NC completely for awhile it will get better with every day. Atleast you're still young...I'm 44 and hate the fact of trying to find someone decent to spend my life with. Happy New Year to you and my resolution will be to get this man out of my life once and for all.