aimeeg Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I am 17 years old (please don't judge on my age, I'm very mature for my age and know what I want) and me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over a year. At the beginning, I was madly in love with him. We had so much passion, so much love, and so much happiness. We spend SO MUCH time together, which I think is finally catching up to us.. Anyways, at four months into our relationship, we started having sex. That month, I went on birth control. Five months later (eight months into the relationship) I got off of birth control, since I lost all sex drive, had mood swings, and was very topsy turby about how I felt with my boyfriend. Three weeks later, I felt back to normal so I went on another birth control pill (mind you this pill had twice the amount of estrogen in it, bad decision). A week and a half later, I had a panic attack and immediately stopped taking the pills. It's been four months since I've been on birth control and I still feel the same way (no sex drive AT ALL, mood swings, very confused about how I feel about my boyfriend). Let me tell you that my boyfriend is absolutely perfect. He's a gentleman in all aspects and has never done a thing to hurt me. He is seriously the best and perfect. I'm scared that I've fallen out of love with him and don't know how to fix things. I don't want to break up, so please don't tell me that option. PLEASE HELP!!
Karma20 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Take some time away from him. You have to see if being apart for a little bit brings those emotions you once had back. As far as being off the pill, no sex drive thing. Have you talked to your doctor about that? If not maybe you should.
Author aimeeg Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 Yes, I went to the doctor last week because I figure I might have a hormonal imbalance. I am awaiting my test results.
Ajax Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Take some time away from him. You have to see if being apart for a little bit brings those emotions you once had back. As far as being off the pill, no sex drive thing. Have you talked to your doctor about that? If not maybe you should. I don't think this would be very helpful. It sounds too much like "taking a break," which all of us who have been on LS for any amount of time is equal to a break up. All relationships go through periods when the passion dies down. After a year it's natural for the honeymoon phase to end. Combine that with what you said about your non-existant sex drive and I think you have your answer. I'm not a doctor so I can't say if something's physically or even potentially psychologically wrong, but it sounds like that could be the case. And by "psychologically wrong" i'm not implying that you're crazy or anything... we all have issues that crop up from time to time. Sometimes we don't even realize it. And I honestly think everyone can benefit from a little therapy, so you might want to look into that too. You might find that it helps you with other apsects of your life besides the relationship. If you do want your relationship to last though, I think you need to be honest with your boyfriend about what's going on. From personal experience I can tell you that it's absolute hell to have someone you love going through something like this and not having them open up and lean on you for support.
Breakupguy12 Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 I'm interested in hearing how the test results come back. I hope it works out for you guys. Have you communicated all of this to him? I'm glad that you're sharing, but I didn't see you say anywhere in your post that you've spoken to him about all of this.
Breakupguy12 Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 ...because if he doesn't know what's going on, he could be thinking it's something wrong with him.
Author aimeeg Posted December 31, 2010 Author Posted December 31, 2010 ...because if he doesn't know what's going on, he could be thinking it's something wrong with him. Oh no, he's aware of everything. I share everything I feel with him completely. He isn't sure what to do either though.
jenifer1972 Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 Given that you have a good relationship I think your mood lability is unrelated to him. Be aware that lab tests won't tell you much about problems like panic attacks and such problems. Anxiety problems and moodiness is very genetic. Either of your parents have anxiety problems?
Author aimeeg Posted December 31, 2010 Author Posted December 31, 2010 Given that you have a good relationship I think your mood lability is unrelated to him. Be aware that lab tests won't tell you much about problems like panic attacks and such problems. Anxiety problems and moodiness is very genetic. Either of your parents have anxiety problems? No anxiety problems in the family :/
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