m2s Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 We had some "mutual" friends (who are no longer MY friends after last night) They told my ex a whole heap of stuff about what i was doing. About how i was going to sell my car, how my house looks like a brothel, and god knows what else I am scared to think...... Why do people get involved like that? It was not their business to say. I have been up all night thinking about what I said to them, and what they could have told my ex. Do I confront these people? Or do i just write them off and move on. I feel sick thinking about what they could have told him (ie custody stuff, lawyers, property stuff).
Karma20 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Move on, if you saying something they could twist what you say and run back to your ex. Write them off and move on. Act like they never existed in your life. Silence can be deadly.
homebrew Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 We had some "mutual" friends (who are no longer MY friends after last night) They told my ex a whole heap of stuff about what i was doing. About how i was going to sell my car, how my house looks like a brothel, and god knows what else I am scared to think...... Why do people get involved like that? It was not their business to say. I have been up all night thinking about what I said to them, and what they could have told my ex. Do I confront these people? Or do i just write them off and move on. I feel sick thinking about what they could have told him (ie custody stuff, lawyers, property stuff). You should do what everyone else seems to do and POST it all on Facebook... Air out all the dirty laundry for all to see... That is what Facebook is for... right?
Author m2s Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 oh no i deleted them from my facebook account. I dont want them to know ANYTHING I do from now on. No longer friends of mine. Sad as the man was my sons godfather. I just dont get why people would interfer like that!
homebrew Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Sorry to hear that... I was kidding in my post above... Making fun of people and how they use Facebook. To be honest M2s... You should be talking it up with DreamingofTigers... She is a Professional when it comes to men like the one you were with. I'd listen to her!
Breakupguy12 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I say confront them, but do it in a nice way. There's nothing wrong with letting a person know how you feel, especially when you feel you've been wronged. Resentment will build up in you and eat you alive. Just let them know that your ex knows some things that had to have came from them, and that you don't appreciate it. Something that simple will get the message across that you know what they said. And you said it in a way that a person can't get mad in return, so they'll probably end up kissing your azz in return. If they don't, chances are they aren't real friends anyways, which it appears you already know.
dreamingoftigers Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 I say confront them, but do it in a nice way. There's nothing wrong with letting a person know how you feel, especially when you feel you've been wronged. Resentment will build up in you and eat you alive. Just let them know that your ex knows some things that had to have came from them, and that you don't appreciate it. Something that simple will get the message across that you know what they said. And you said it in a way that a person can't get mad in return, so they'll probably end up kissing your azz in return. If they don't, chances are they aren't real friends anyways, which it appears you already know. I second this, chances are, anything they had to say was questioned, twisted back and thrown out. Your ex is mad and manipulating. You probably moved on a little too well.
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