manchild Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Hey all its been while well to recap real quick and to get advice now? We broke up in june after four years we were in love i was here first and only intimate partner, we just fought bout her talking to guys i know my jealously pushed her away. Im 30 she is 21, well she met guy from church and he just got out of prison on bond for 2nd degree murder for shaking his baby. He played right into roll of good christian guy etc.. the only type guy would date as i was one very deeply etc.. I wont get into details of chasing etc but i did it all for couple months then in august we started strict Nc until her birthday Oct 12. where i met her and she wouldn't talk because she was on phone with him later that evening he called and left threatening vmail to get away and she texted said we need to talk about this. Well we did for two hours about everything and she didnt know about his court case he keeps telling her its going get dropped since day one i said no. she listening to vmail and couldn't believe he threaten me and cussed like he said he didnt. Neways she told me we just dont need talk anymore its no fair to this new relationship i didn't beg this night or cry or anything but she kept asking what i thought of his case etc.. Well last text i sent was November 9 our anniversary just said what a great day for us huh? thats it but her nothing of course. Well last week my friend saw her and she talked to him about the case and said she was scared and didnt know what to believe because it hasn't been dropped etc and that e was going back to jail because his parents pulled bond on property. My friend asked did she love him and she said yes then he said are you in love with him and she said i dont know im tired of lies and all the crap around this situation I cant tell people about him until after case or put anything on facebook like he does about me he always writes love you, cant wait to marry you thank you jesus etc.. and love my wife to be and she told my friend i hate when he puts this up. she has no pics of them or responds to anything he posts. etc.. this conversation was dec 23. Btw we had secret phones when we dated so we could talk without her mom knowing, and she keeps charging phone and adding money also, she turned it on all day christmas what for? wow? well today he put on facebook im going back today to prison to minister and be ministered too, please GOD give me discernment, courage, and strength, so i guess he trying play it off that it is ok and the reason he going back is God wants him to minister wow, she told my friend she saw his anger lately of situation toward other people but not her. well I was wondering should i Text something just saying hi to open door or now he gone again outta picture could I take advantage and move in. Why keep charging phone and leave it on christmas day like looking for something but not writing anything or calling etc.. weird? she has turned phone on sporadically during this time period. Well please wb anything I know he is trouble.
homebrew Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Before I would do anything... I would go spend a lot of time reading threads here on LS. Couple of Quick Questions for you: Why would you want to be a women that is going to be "hung" up on her EX (The whole prison thing is a story for another day)? Do you have that low of an opinion of yourself that you do not deserve someone that can and is into you completely?
Author manchild Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 no misunderstanding i meant put together 4 2 years like numbers wow
homebrew Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Dude... Until you can answer the questions I asked above... (which is your real problem and what you should be focusing on) I do not think you are going to understand all the other issues that I see with this picture you painted for us.
Author manchild Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 Hey home brew I understand you know it hard answer y I would I love her so much and what we had was not something you get often and not at all do I have low self asteem I just don't want somebody else have her! She is gorgeous like model and everybodys says that n great girl n felon don't deserve her but crap she is screwing up I did tell her in email I will never be second best to guy like this?
homebrew Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 You are telling her that you do not want to be second best... but you are acting like it. ACT First Rate instead... 1. No Contact 2. Get your Self Esteem and Mojo back Note: They way someone looks isn't reason enough alone to want to be with them... For the sounds of it, your friend is VERY, VERY ugly on the inside. The kind that will wreck your world!
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