HeartMender Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I just want to say for the record that I've been in that hell of sadness and despair that you're all currently experiencing. It took me a full ten months to get over my girlfriend of five years. It was the darkest time of my life. Not only was she my girlfriend, but she was also the greatest friend I ever had as well, so it was a double loss for me. I had nowhere to turn to, no one that would understand that omnipresent sorrow and emptiness that I just couldn't seem to shake. Any way, I just want to say that the people on here and elsewhere helped me take the steps to move on, and helped me to discover myself again. I'd like to do the same for you. If any of you yearn for someone to listen, to vent to, or someone to just be there. Just PM me any time or PM me your messenger.
homebrew Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 You went from "MendingHeart" to "HeartMender"... That is AWESOME! Thanks for offering your support and help!
LoveBug1989 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Thank you Heartmender...the holidays have been excruciating.
Movingthrough Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Thank you Heartmender...the holidays have been excruciating. Tell me about it. I cant honestly as a man that i never thought any of this crap would hurt so much, and the holidays are like a double wammy. To add on to it my work has had me working on all the holidays so i constantly think about what everyone is doing while im working. I will say on the positive side though, is you see how stupid this all is, people get way too lovey dovey during the holidays and it seems really fake to me. If i knew all of this would effect me so much i would have went NC months ago just so i didnt have to deal with the holiday stuff. If there is one thing i would tell any new dumpee its go NC early as possible...
LoveBug1989 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I will say on the positive side though, is you see how stupid this all is, people get way too lovey dovey during the holidays and it seems really fake to me. If i knew all of this would effect me so much i would have went NC months ago just so i didnt have to deal with the holiday stuff. Yup, Christmas used to be my favorite holiday until a few years ago, and I think my breakup this month really was the final nail in the coffin, now I absolutely hate it. Blurg....
dmncoldworldgrl87 Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 I just want to say for the record that I've been in that hell of sadness and despair that you're all currently experiencing. It took me a full ten months to get over my girlfriend of five years. It was the darkest time of my life. Not only was she my girlfriend, but she was also the greatest friend I ever had as well, so it was a double loss for me. I had nowhere to turn to, no one that would understand that omnipresent sorrow and emptiness that I just couldn't seem to shake. Any way, I just want to say that the people on here and elsewhere helped me take the steps to move on, and helped me to discover myself again. I'd like to do the same for you. If any of you yearn for someone to listen, to vent to, or someone to just be there. Just PM me any time or PM me your messenger. Thanks for the hug i really needed one!! Yea the holidays have been tough....i thought i was fine i wasn't crying anymore and i thought i was good but BAM Christmas hit me like a ton of bricks, and I've been crying every night ever since...LS has helped a lot because i can write how i feel and get out all of my emotions... id probably be even more depressed than i already am...just trying to stay strong and take it day by day...
Author HeartMender Posted December 30, 2010 Author Posted December 30, 2010 Thanks for the hug i really needed one!! Yea the holidays have been tough....i thought i was fine i wasn't crying anymore and i thought i was good but BAM Christmas hit me like a ton of bricks, and I've been crying every night ever since...LS has helped a lot because i can write how i feel and get out all of my emotions... id probably be even more depressed than i already am...just trying to stay strong and take it day by day... You're welcome! Here's another virtual, but spiritual hug to soothe your broken heart Here's something that worked for me.... since it's winter and for when you're at home, try to invest in a TV series that piques your interest that you've never seen before, and lose yourself in it. It helped me so much and it gave me a much needed escape. Far better than moping around the house burdening your mind with thoughts of your SO. I used to make myself sick just looking at my phone waiting for a text from her or excessively "looking" at her FB page lol - while listening to the most depressing music you could think of i.e. Death Cab, The Smiths, etc.
delajoonal Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 You're welcome! Here's another virtual, but spiritual hug to soothe your broken heart Here's something that worked for me.... since it's winter and for when you're at home, try to invest in a TV series that piques your interest that you've never seen before, and lose yourself in it. It helped me so much and it gave me a much needed escape. Far better than moping around the house burdening your mind with thoughts of your SO. I used to make myself sick just looking at my phone waiting for a text from her or excessively "looking" at her FB page lol - while listening to the most depressing music you could think of i.e. Death Cab, The Smiths, etc. OMG! yes, THIS is so true! what got me thru my D 2 yrs ago, was Sex and the City... i never watched it while it was actually on TV/HBO..but my xh had bougth me the series on DVD... come to find 5 years later it would be my salvation... and NOW, to this day, whenever ANYTHING is going wrong and i can't focus on ANYTHING, ..i pop in those dvd's, the series, SATC! i lose myself in the girls lives and well, it just get's me thru... currently, my recent break up with my xbf....i have watched nothing but SATC...seriously...and read the paper (which is something i have NEVER done in my life before.) also, i would like to add, to Heartmender, in your OP, the part about breaking it off with your gf AND best friend...so NOW... who do u talk to about the horrific pain in your life?..right? I SO got that...after 15yrs with my XH...after all had done to me, an EA on fb and then left me for her, etc..... omg, who was i going to talk too...? HE, my xh WAS the ONLY person that was able to get me thru that kind of upheaval, trauma, devastation, etc.... YET, he couldn't, cause he/xh CAUSED ALL that pain and trauma..he was no where to be found...no best friend anymore...like a horrific death. anyway, i still am amazed every SINGLE day how there are so many people in this world hurting all of us, at the same time...over the VERY same issues...and it just breaks my heart to see so much sadness.. i tell u, LS should be a 'dating site' if not for the grief we are all going thru... cause there sure are some Incredibly Amazing kind, loving, generous, warm people on LS...it makes one wonder how so many wonderful people can be in so much pain?.. and who are the idiots that dumped all these wonderful people???? Great OP Heartmender...THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH!!! XO
dmncoldworldgrl87 Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 You're welcome! Here's another virtual, but spiritual hug to soothe your broken heart Here's something that worked for me.... since it's winter and for when you're at home, try to invest in a TV series that piques your interest that you've never seen before, and lose yourself in it. It helped me so much and it gave me a much needed escape. Far better than moping around the house burdening your mind with thoughts of your SO. I used to make myself sick just looking at my phone waiting for a text from her or excessively "looking" at her FB page lol - while listening to the most depressing music you could think of i.e. Death Cab, The Smiths, etc. Yeaa I've been doing that and I find that it has been helping alot! A couple of days ago my cousin was like you should watch Pretty little liars its really good.....I looked it up on hulu and I watched the first season in three days! Good thing the new season starts soon can't wait! And I will probably start watching sex and the city...I watched the second movie I loved it and now I'm interested in watching the whole series from the beginning!
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