Hopeful30 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I broke up with a guy I have been dating for about 3 months. I don't want to get into details, but i'm not upset because I lost HIM, i'm more upset because I feel stupid for ignoring some signs that I shouldn't have, and getting myself into this mess. Long story short, we hit things off amazing. I rejected him a few times at first, he kept pursuing until we were in an established relationship. I found out he wasn't over his ex, so we decided to take things slow. Things were going well until I found out he had been talking to his ex behind my back. I confronted him about it, and told him I don't care who he talks to, but I find it strange that he puts so much effort into hiding it from me. His excuse? "I don't want to hurt you, because I know if I talk to her you will be insecure." Anyways, turns out he continued to hide these things from me, and the last time I confronted him about it, and that I was hurt that he kept lying, he just said we should be friends if I keep getting hurt so much by him. I agreed. Saw him last night at a mutual place we always go to, approached him, said hi and was friendly. He was cold to me. I walked away and thats it. I just feel stupid that I believed he actually gave a crap. I feel even more embarrassed that I stayed with him as long as I did when people told me it's not worth my time. Just looking for some input and cheering up.
january2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I'm sorry you're hurting. You can't trust him and contact with him is causing you pain. I suggest implementing NC to give yourself the time and space to heal.
Author Hopeful30 Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 I'm sorry you're hurting. You can't trust him and contact with him is causing you pain. I suggest implementing NC to give yourself the time and space to heal. That is exactly what I'm doing. Thank you for your reply My self esteem dropped a bit though, because I feel so used. I'm trying to recover from that more than anything else.
january2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I understand. Even though you've only known him for a short time, the betrayal still hurts because you're emotionally invested. One plus point is that you dodged a bullet and found out what he was like sooner rather than later.
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