ALittleWorried Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 And I honestly don't know why so I'm curious as to whether anyone else (male/female) has gone through the same thing. I've been dating this girl for the last 18 months or so now, neither of us thought it was going to ever get this serious. She's loving, caring, sweet, genuine - everything you could ask of in a woman. I get along great with the family which is a plus in her eyes. As of late, she's been telling me how much she wants a baby, and how she can see herself spending the rest of her life with me, etc etc - she's extremely affectionate. However, when I'm not with her, I can't really explain it. It's as if I think that she has another side to her when I know that's not the case. It's as if I have the devil / angel on each side of my head whispering different things into my ear. I'm a fairly confident guy and always have been. I'm very sociable and easy to get along with. I don't have a problem attracting the opposite sex and I'd like to "think" that I'm fairly secure about myself. If that's the case, then why these thoughts? I had a bad run with an ex girlfriend who was full of lies. She got flicked right before this one came into the picture. I don't really think that's it though. I know this girl wouldn't do anything to hurt me, but at times, can't help to think the worst of her. I swear, I'm screwed in the head!
Ayla Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Hmmm - I am kinda having the same problem...except on a shorter/smaller scale. I think it is the ex factor...although it might not seem massive, it is something that will have a impact on your psyche. My ex, let me down so badly - he cheated, he lied, he would not reply to my messages or phone calls if he was out drinking...and then I dated someone who only texted me and wanted to see me when it suited him and stood me up numerous times. Now I am seeing a new person (who I like so much, but has so much baggage) - and I keep thinking that he is not interested, or that he won't turn up when he says he wil etc etc - he has not yet let me know down...but I keep expecting it. He has even told my brother (who is his friend that he would bever disrespect me). This is why I think that it is the past that is affecting how you feel now....even though you know she wouldn't do anything to hurt you. What I am trying to do is stay positive...and eventually, subconsciously she will "prove" to you that she won't let you down.
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