coop525 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Hello, I am new to this forum & need some help trying to figure out how to handle my boyfriends obsessive sister. All advise is greatly appreciated!! Thank you. So, I met my boyfriend through his sister, that I met at school. My boyfriend has major insecurities, and trust issues. He has come to tell his family that he is in love with me, and that I am the only women he has been able to trust. Through his previous relationships he has had women steal from him, cheat on him...etc.. including his own sister who has stolen money, jewelry, and his rx meds from him. She is also a sociopath, clepto and is addicted to rx pain medication. My boyfriend & I recently broke up, I told his sister that I was out with my ex-boyfriend and that I overdosed whiles with him, I did overdose however I was not with my ex I was with my cousin. I told her I was with my ex as I knew it would get back to my boyfriend & it would piss him off, immature to do, but I do justify it by saying that he did break my poor little heart! My boyfriend & I are now back together, he knew I said what I said to piss him off and he does believe me. I had invited his sister over to his house, I didnt get a text back, but he did she stated that she lost respect for me as I was with my ex & that I overdosed with him" she stated she was mad at me for lieing to her. My boyfriend went to text her saying: "she will never be my wife, I know I have a lot of changes to be made, fake it towards her (meaning me) to make it through school". Instead of the text going to her it mistakenly went to me. My boyfriend said that he said that to manipulate her and to "keep the peace" as she has "problems". I do believe him. And, suggested that he should have said to her "I am sorry that you feel that way, however she is someone I love & someone I choose to be with, at least be civil with her". Am I wrong for thinking now that he may talk "****" behind my back?? Should I continue to trust him & see that he made a mistake & believe that he really was just trying to "keep the peace"?? I am already working on being more secure in the relationship, then this happens. What should I do, in regards to the sister?? I am thinking I should just continue to be nice to her, and act like he never told me that she was upset with me. Also, I am 25, the boyfriend is 36 & his sister is 39,,considering the age, this is very petty & immature, something a "normal" 39 yr old women should not be doing!!! Is the sister just jealous that her brother is happily involved with someone?!? I am confused & dont know how to deal with this, especially as my boyfriend has told me in the past he wants to be with someone who is going to get along with his sister, however it doesnt appear that she is well liked by anyone...
Vesna Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 It sounds like you need to get the hell out of this entanglement and grow up.
Joe Normal Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 After reading your post, the jealousy of his sister is the last of your troubles. I'd recommend trying to sort your life out first.
Author coop525 Posted January 16, 2011 Author Posted January 16, 2011 I was asking for an opinion in regards to the relationship between the brother and the sister. I had to explain the "story" for whom ever is reading this to understand fully. I was NOT asking for an opinion on my life and my dysfunctions. I thought by joining a forum I would not be judged or "thrown under the bus" I have therapists and self worth and enough of that to know what my own faults are. I think anyone that is calling me "nuts" or "dysfunctional" should take a look into the mirror. Again, I guess this was the wrong site to join to try to get an opinion as to whether or not this was me looking into her too much, or if this is a bizarre relationship between a brother & a sister. I will not recommend this site to anyone.
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