SDA Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 My thread is in the breaking up section of the forum under "My Story" for those who would like to read it or just click my name for my situation. Anyway's two hours marks the time that I told her that I can't talk or see her anymore and if I do it would be just a hello and that's all. I'm very hurt. I know that with time this will get better. Life works in devastating ways and I can't help but ask myself why I met someone when in the end I would feel so empty inside. I know many people have it worse off than me and I wish no one but happiness. I just wish I can fast forward a month and be the person I was before the breakup. In the words of the Eagles, "Love will keep us alive"
homebrew Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I just wish I can fast forward a month and be the person I was before the breakup. [/Quote] Congratulations! You just took the first step in making that become a reality! Lean on your Friends and Family and LS to help you make that wish come true... Being a GHOST is what is best at the present time and for the foreseeable future!
PowerOfOne Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Stay stong SDA. It's going to be rough for a while but beleive it will get better. And it will! Checkout the links in homebrew's sig, they are great the first time and excellent to go over again when you're having a bad day. Keep this thread updated as you go. There are some really good people here that you can bounce your feelings and ideas off. It helps.
Author SDA Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 I will. I do care about her and vise versa but I need to do this to get over her and move on. What do I do if she asks why I blocked her on facebook and such? Will she think I am a maniac?
homebrew Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Print out what you posted in the first post of this thread and re-read it.... over and over when you think about her contacting you or if she does. Follow your own advice! See... you already "forgot" what you told her what you were going to do and not do. No she will not think you are a maniac... In fact, her respect for you, for how you were in the relationship will only grow! More than you know... She wants you to also heal, get over her and get "YOU" back... Because she cares and wants what is best for you.
ohno89 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 SDA - well done for cutting her off. Literally, as we speak, I'm nearing saying the same thing to my ex but I'm still a little hesitant...it makes me really sad to have to cut someone out of my life completely, someone who I once cared deeply about and thought would awlways remain in my life but hey, at least I tried being friends with him....I don't want nor need him in my life..so I can't figure out why I'm so scared to say it... maybe in case I regret it? I dunno... you did a brave thing. I hope it works out for you, I'm sure it will
Karma20 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I will. I do care about her and vise versa but I need to do this to get over her and move on. What do I do if she asks why I blocked her on facebook and such? Will she think I am a maniac? You don't have to answer to her. You need to do what's best for you and what will help you heal. You heart is fragile now, protect it in anyway you feel you have to. It doesn't matter what she thinks anymore you two are no longer together. Good luck and stay strong.
Author SDA Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 Woke up this morning having that feeling in my stomach. Please go away.
homebrew Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Be STRONG! Leverage LS (read and post) to help you to make it through today! We will deal with tomorrow... tomorrow!
Author SDA Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 Homebrew, I would really appreciate if you read my story and would you say my ex has GIGS?
J0N Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I can tell you from experience, that doing what you did is the fastest way to move on (& the only way). I must be honest that you are in for quite a roller coaster ride, but with time you will begin to notice that are becoming yourself again. I would also HIGHLY that you both stay clear of bars or other places you might run into her & also box up gifts, pictures, etc. And put them somewhere out of sight for a while. And no matter what, never give in. Contacting her or looking at her FB will bring you back to square one. This forum is a great place to let out your thoughts. Best of luck
homebrew Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Homebrew, I would really appreciate if you read my story and would you say my ex has GIGS? I read your story... Most of the relationships here on LS are ended due to G.I.G.S. Yours is no different! You both are kids and what she did / you are going through is part of the whole growing up process / experience that we call life. Not every person you date or are in a long term relationship is that "forever" person. You are going to do what she did to you to other people yourself. In the very far off future (5 years or more when both of you are ready to settle down) can the two of you reunite and it work? Sure! You have no idea where you will be, how much you (and her) will change, etc. Way to many unknowns... You will get better in time... you have to trust me on this one! First Loves are NEVER forgotten!
Author SDA Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 I understand. I have no hatred towards her and I care for her deeply. I understand the distance ruins relationships and our need to be apart at this time. Not many people in her school like her for some reason. I have found out that she is nothing short of beautiful in every single way. When she realizes and notices that I hope to be there for her because right now I feel like she is the world to me. I am transferring closer to home next fall not because of her but because of my own future. She will be close at her school as well. Cutting off all contact feels like i have a knife in my chest but I know that if she needs to be alone I can't be around. And without me around she will miss me won't she? I've cut off contact to a girl I previously was really into but she didn't feel the same and she missed me very much. Time is a bitch.
Akumark Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 Hurt so damn much in the morning!!! When you just woke up from one of those dreams.
ByMyselfForNow Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 I felt the same way this morning, it seems to get better when I try to focus on myself, when I make plans for the day. It also helps when you realize that when you think about her your just putting her on a pedestal. What's even sadder is that usually she isn't thinking about you, she's just moving on. Is is worth the pain?
Author SDA Posted December 30, 2010 Author Posted December 30, 2010 She's absolutely not. I've just got so many mixed signals over the past week. it really is a roller coaster of emotions
Author SDA Posted January 1, 2011 Author Posted January 1, 2011 Why are you texting me this late. If you don't wanna be with me leave me alone. Please stop. It hurts to much.
BlindRage Posted January 1, 2011 Posted January 1, 2011 Why are you texting me this late. If you don't wanna be with me leave me alone. Please stop. It hurts to much. At least she cares about you enough to text you.
Author SDA Posted January 1, 2011 Author Posted January 1, 2011 At least she cares about you enough to text you. It's true i guess but she is ****ing with my head. She said she wants to be with me then she doesn't. I can't do this anymore.
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