NeNinja Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Next time you have a 'great idea' put it in this thread. Give yourself an hour or two and come back and read it. See how it sounds when the new wears off. If you can't tell it's a bad idea I bet you'll find your friends on these forums more than willing to shoot it full of holes! We broke up initially in February when I decided I needed some space. At the time she lived two hours away and I had been 'cheating' (emotionally, not physically) with my previous ex. I realized that things had gotten out of hand and wanted to figure out how to resolve all of the feelings I was having. She cried and cried but agreed to 'take a break.' That night she sent me a really sweet email 'The Long Morrow' about an episode of the Gilmore Girls. As lame as it sounds the way she told the story of the episode related perfectly to what I was going through. I wanted to go away for awhile and figure out what I wanted but she was willing to wait. It removed any doubt in my mind that I wanted to be with her...but I still wanted time. Four nights later she showed up at my house after work with a bag of all my favorite little things and gave it to me to get me through the hard time. She also brought every trick from that months Cosmo and ended staying the night. That was pretty much the end of the breakup If I would have taken more time for both of us to deal with the 'cheating' things might have been different. It was one of the major issues in the latest breakup. Today I was thinking maybe that's what she wants. Maybe she just wants to be pursued. Maybe she wants that grand gesture...and I had a stroke of genius: The story in her email was stolen from the Twilight Zone via the Gilmore Girls. I'm not going to get into plot details or go into depth but the boy leaves and gives the girl a model rocket...that's the whole point. To her in that email the rocket represented love finding a way no matter how long it took or what she had to do. I fully intended to find a toy rocket, wrap it in a gold box with a red ribbon, and give it to her. It was something just between the two of us. It would show her that this time I believed that love would find a way and this time I would do whatever it takes. For an hour or so it seemed like the perfect gesture. It would remind her of our relationship! It would remind her of something just between us! It would show her I was willing to give her space and time but I wasn't willing to give up! It was soooo romantic! I'm glad I thought about it. I'm glad I didn't do it. Things like that only work on tv and in the movies. Romance is for strengthening relationships not saving them. Reading it now it sounds weak and doesn't make me look good in her eyes.
january2010 Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 A link to your latest thread: Fix this email
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