m2s Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 So I havent had contact with my ex for three days as he has been away (and it was BLISS!!!!) We HAVE to have contact for our child. Anyways, to day he texts to see if he can have him on thrusday, I say no cos we have plans already. He gets into a huff and says i am using him to get back at him. I then get this text from him " Why is it since i have been gone, you can do yourself up and go out all the time but before it never happened? And you said you didnt change". Well of course i changed after you left your complete moron. What do you think that text meant????? Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 I think it meant he is trying to make you feel as ****ty as he does. Whether it is justified or not. He sees you are making a positive change in your life and moving past him and it pisses him off. Expect more of the same. Link to post Share on other sites
Author m2s Posted December 29, 2010 Author Share Posted December 29, 2010 I dont get that, he was the one that dumped me. HE WANTED TO GO!! So why would he be feeling ****ty, he got the life that he wanted. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 I dont get that, he was the one that dumped me. HE WANTED TO GO!! So why would he be feeling ****ty, he got the life that he wanted. He probably thought that you were the cause of his unhappiness. He didn't realize that he was an unhappy person. People who guilt and lash out like that typically are. So when he left and the temporary relief goes, he is still unhappy and now he is alone, so why not drag you back into his misery so he can blame you still for his unhappiness? Link to post Share on other sites
homebrew Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 He probably thought that you were the cause of his unhappiness. He didn't realize that he was an unhappy person. People who guilt and lash out like that typically are. So when he left and the temporary relief goes, he is still unhappy and now he is alone, so why not drag you back into his misery so he can blame you still for his unhappiness? Ding, Ding, Ding... We have a WINNER! She nailed your EX to a tee! Seven Years and a Child later... Your EX never asked you to marry him because of this reason and this reason alone! I feel for the next person... They get to share in the joy that you experienced! Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 So what's my prize on the LS Sweepstakes? Link to post Share on other sites
Author m2s Posted December 29, 2010 Author Share Posted December 29, 2010 But hes NOT alone, he has a girlfriend. So why is he treating me like this. He has moved on with his life. so why not let me Link to post Share on other sites
tobydog Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 Same situation here......I think they are angry cuz they maybe are realising that they are still unhappy.....I get similar albeit insulting texts from my stbx. He gets in a huff if we have plans then when he says he will pick Matt up, like today, does not show? Well he chose to run off with AW so let him be happy...it is obvious tho that he is not. I only wish I knew all the answers! Link to post Share on other sites
Author m2s Posted December 29, 2010 Author Share Posted December 29, 2010 Tobydog, i KNOW what your saying - i get those nasty texts too. mine says he will come to see our son, then says hes working, and then a mutual friend was at his house for drinks (when he should have been here!) I just wish I could go NO CONTACT on his a$$ - i would love that. Link to post Share on other sites
tobydog Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 me too, that would suit me just fine! He's hardly seen his son in 5 weeks now, nor given us a penny! Let's hope our situations get better in the New Year! x Link to post Share on other sites
tobydog Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 15 weeks I meant Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 Still unhappy either alone or with gf, needs someone to pin it on. Feels shame for being a douchebag but isn't about to apologize because as far as he's concerned you "made" it that way. Link to post Share on other sites
homebrew Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 Dreaming... You had to have been with an a55hole like the ones in this thread before! You know way to much! Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 Dreaming... You had to have been with an a55hole like the ones in this thread before! You know way to much! Well actually I watched it play out with my mom and dad for 30 years. Plus he constantly blamed me for losing his temper and being depressed. He nearly lost the house once and blew up at me a ton. Nothing was ever his fault. If he took down a number or address wrong it was because someone in the other room was talking. As much as my husband has been Hell to deal with, my father was The Prince of Moron. I can spot guys like him 2 miles away. Link to post Share on other sites
homebrew Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 Sorry you had to experience all of that... but through that... You can help a lot of the other women that run into "morons" like these. Spot them 2 miles away.... Hahahahahaha! From my experience, I have learned how to spot "Daddy Issues" from 2 miles away! Can't say that I loved learning through experience though! Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 LOL I married my husband partially because he was the guy guy I dated that didn't have serious mommy issues. It turned out that he had the worst mommy-abandonment issues of them all. Actually I did have one ex who literally lived his life based on what his mother would have chosen for him. Not kidding. Link to post Share on other sites
homebrew Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 Actually I did have one ex who literally lived his life based on what his mother would have chosen for him. Not kidding. And you do not find that to be an attractive quality? Hahahahaha! Just hearing about a guy like that makes me feel like I need to go and take a shower! Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 I know! When I found out that that was what his philosophy was, it really grossed me out. The funny part is that he told his mother too and she was really put off by it. He came from a very odd background, his father being controlling with his moods and his mother being very reactive to it. Apparently they never had a fight. She made all of his decisions for him until he turned 18, then she flipped it like a switch and made none of them anymore. The only template for choice he had was what she wanted. Sometimes he would have his sister determine his choices for him. Messed up. Link to post Share on other sites
homebrew Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 Not always the case but... Bad Parenting = Bad / Screwed up People Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted December 30, 2010 Share Posted December 30, 2010 LOL, I am still working on getting through my parent's abuse to live an average life. Link to post Share on other sites
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