Author Distant78 Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 She doesn't get a free pass just because she is a woman. Did I not say the exact same thing to you, if the roles had been reversed? You said you didn't buy it. But you in turn, said something along the lines of, that it would be no big deal if that had happened to you. I know I said that. I said IN MY CASE. But OTHER males get stalked too. It's not just women because they put on makeup and wear $700 blue-tip high-heels. Women are just as predatory and cunning as men if not more.
Girlygirl1977 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I thought I should add some more details - he actually worked there and while I was looking for a my sales associate, he was close to the dressing rooms. I asked him if he knew where the person helping me went and that's why I talked to him. His accent gave me the hint as to where he was from so I asked him and was correct. That's how it started and since he recently moved here and had a kind look, I mistakenly gave him my card when I was leaving. He seemed to be conscious of not talking too much bc he said his boss was nearby. So while he was very careful at his workplace, it is ironic that he is trying to show up at mine uninvited. . . so just some more details if it matters.
Eddie Edirol Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I thought I should add some more details - he actually worked there and while I was looking for a my sales associate, he was close to the dressing rooms. I asked him if he knew where the person helping me went and that's why I talked to him. His accent gave me the hint as to where he was from so I asked him and was correct. That's how it started and since he recently moved here and had a kind look, I mistakenly gave him my card when I was leaving. He seemed to be conscious of not talking too much bc he said his boss was nearby. So while he was very careful at his workplace, it is ironic that he is trying to show up at mine uninvited. . . so just some more details if it matters. Im not excusing this guys over aggressiveness, but you DID give him your card saying that you thought you'd make a new friend. And I call BS on you giving him your card by mistake. You gave it to him on purpose, although I question what that purpose really was. A networking deal?
Author Distant78 Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 I thought I should add some more details - he actually worked there and while I was looking for a my sales associate, he was close to the dressing rooms. I asked him if he knew where the person helping me went and that's why I talked to him. His accent gave me the hint as to where he was from so I asked him and was correct. That's how it started and since he recently moved here and had a kind look, I mistakenly gave him my card when I was leaving. He seemed to be conscious of not talking too much bc he said his boss was nearby. So while he was very careful at his workplace, it is ironic that he is trying to show up at mine uninvited. . . so just some more details if it matters. "I MISTAKENLY GAVE HIM MY CARD.":lmao::lmao: C'mon girl, just admit and say you liked the way he checked you out, but got scared and bailed on em'.:lmao: I think you just added this in to make him the scapegoat.
Girlygirl1977 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I gave him the card on purpose because he said he moved here 6 months ago. I mentioned that there is an expat group, but given he didn't want to look like he wasn't working - I said ok I'll give you my card and I can send the info to you. So I gave him the card to be helpful as he is new here and we are from the same country. I used the word mistakenly now more bc now I know it was a mistake.
Author Distant78 Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 I gave him the card on purpose because he said he moved here 6 months ago. I mentioned that there is an expat group, but given he didn't want to look like he wasn't working - I said ok I'll give you my card and I can send the info to you. So I gave him the card to be helpful as he is new here and we are from the same country. I used the word mistakenly now more bc now I know it was a mistake. Oh jesus. Really? The guy has a job so it's obvious he at least knows where he's at. I'm sure in 6 months he could find his way around just fine before you popped up. You know that's just a cop-out. And if this was really about you "trying to get him settled down in the new field," why did you post this in the Date Forum?
Feelin Frisky Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I gave him the card on purpose because he said he moved here 6 months ago. I mentioned that there is an expat group, but given he didn't want to look like he wasn't working - I said ok I'll give you my card and I can send the info to you. So I gave him the card to be helpful as he is new here and we are from the same country. I used the word mistakenly now more bc now I know it was a mistake. Give it up.
Author Distant78 Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 Im not excusing this guys over aggressiveness, but you DID give him your card saying that you thought you'd make a new friend. And I call BS on you giving him your card by mistake. You gave it to him on purpose, although I question what that purpose really was. A networking deal? Agreed 100%.
Art_Critic Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I do agree I take some blame for giving him my card. He had a kind, young look to him. That is my greatest mistake. But to give you the facts: -my coworker can see my calls and counted 9 missed calls from him (yesterday and today) -she found the fax today -he also sent a facebook request today (obviously I won't accept it) -He showed up at 11am on Monday after sending an email at 9pm on Sunday which I viewed at 830am which said a few things (at end mentioned he would stop by the address on the card). I hadn't responded to any emails by then really bc it took me a while to get to work with the transportation delays - arrived at 10am and he showed up at 11am. Anyway - I did send him an email now and also responded again to his idea he would stop by tomorrow. I told him I see no reason to meet again and that no I would also not give him my cell. I wished him well. I think I have treated him decently. I also think he is one sandwich shy of a picnic. LOL. Agreed 100%. See the above post.. She accepts that giving him her card was a mistake but you have to admit that giving someone a card or phone number doesn't mean they should call and do the number of things just to contact someone.. The guy is a nut..plain and simple Look at her list.. Her called 9 times.. 9 times.. 9 times.. 9 times.. 9 times..9 times.. 9 times..9 times.. 9 times... He faxed her once He FB friended her once. He showed up at her work during a blizzard once. He has emailed her numerous times.. He has emailed her numerous times.. He has emailed her numerous times.. I count at least 14+ contacts.. all from giving a guy her number Is that really all that cool ?? by the way.. I posted 9 times.. 9 times for those who are missing the shear over compensation the guy laid on her
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Even if she HAD been "interested" in him when she handed him her card (and she says she wasn't, so why not believe her? People are capable of reaching out in a friendly gesture, regardless of the genders involved. Sheesh), the guys reaction was OVER THE TOP and would have aborted any "interest" she'd had. He acted like a loon.
mr.dream merchant Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I think the guy was a bit of a creep though man...no need to contact someone several times to no avail.
Author Distant78 Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 But she keeps making excuses as if she never tried to spit game to him. "Oh he was just some poor kid and I wanted to help him out and show him the way.":lmao: C'mon.
Feelin Frisky Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 But she keeps making excuses as if she never tried to spit game to him. "Oh he was just some poor kid and I wanted to help him out and show him the way.":lmao: C'mon. Right? The lengths some people will go not to just fess up and take it like a man/woman. The jig is so up.
GooseChaser Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 He turned her off by coming on too strong. What, she's obligated to date him, just because she gave him a business card? It's not like she signed a contract.
Feelin Frisky Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 He turned her off by coming on too strong. What, she's obligated to date him, just because she gave him a business card? It's not like she signed a contract. What, you didn't check out anything anyone else said here about what's wrong with the picture? It's all here. I'd repeat it but it's been flogged to death already. No one is saying she should have dated him. She just had some responsibility in creating the situation, exacerbated it and she had been doing everything to not accept that responsibility--including starting a thread here which portrayed her as the "victim". She has been owned.
GooseChaser Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 (edited) What, you didn't check out anything anyone else said here about what's wrong with the picture? It's all here. I'd repeat it but it's been flogged to death already. No one is saying she should have dated him. She just had some responsibility in creating the situation, exacerbated it and she had been doing everything to not accept that responsibility--including starting a thread here which portrayed her as the "victim". She has been owned. She's working on resolving the situation. We've seen that from her other thread too. From the other thread: I did make a mistake - I can see that now. Also, I meant kid/sister type relation - meaning he is kid brother. Again - def I goofed and can see how he viewed it differently. Still I haven't seen someone act like this and show up at my work. This isn't accepting responsibility? Would you be okay with a woman that you just met showing up uninvited to your school, work, or home, with the intent of finding you? Edit: I'm not saying that I don't support accepting responsibility when I make a mistake. I do think that that is important too. Edited December 29, 2010 by GooseChaser
Feelin Frisky Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 She's working on resolving the situation. We've seen that from her other thread too. From the other thread: This isn't accepting responsibility? Would you be okay with a woman that you just met showing up uninvited to your school, work, or home, with the intent of finding you? Edit: I'm not saying that I don't support accepting responsibility when I make a mistake. I do think that that is important too. Well, if you were up on all of this then your post which I quoted seems incongruent. You said "What, she's obligated to date him, just because she gave him a business card?" So much has been said here about all there other issues. So, thus, my response was "what, you didn't check out anything anyone else said..?" Now you respond that you know about her contrition. So, what would be the point of asking "What, she's obligated to date him, just because she gave him a business card?" when you already know better? What, you wanna add a few more pages to this dead-horse-flogging thread? What? Huh? C'mon what?
GooseChaser Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Well, if you were up on all of this then your post which I quoted seems incongruent. You said "What, she's obligated to date him, just because she gave him a business card?" So much has been said here about all there other issues. So, thus, my response was "what, you didn't check out anything anyone else said..?" Now you respond that you know about her contrition. So, what would be the point of asking "What, she's obligated to date him, just because she gave him a business card?" when you already know better? What, you wanna add a few more pages to this dead-horse-flogging thread? What? Huh? C'mon what? My implied point with that was that she does not have obligations to him just because she gave him her contact info. That's all. I've said what I wanted to say. I see your point too. I'm sure everything will work out before too long.
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