Distant78 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Don't hand out business cards to a young male while shopping. We're guys and if we see you're cute we're going to contact you to see what's up. Stop playing around with us and giving us mixed signals. Tell us your intentions when you give us any digits of your ownership. :laugh:
Stonewall Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I can think of things much worse, see my threads! Sorry I'm a little down right now. Nice parody
Yamaha Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Don't hand out business cards to a young male while shopping. We're guys and if we see you're cute we're going to contact you to see what's up. Stop playing around with us and giving us mixed signals. Tell us your intentions when you give us any digits of your ownership. :laugh: ^^^^Word......
Author Distant78 Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 Haha. I'm happily engaged. Off the dating scene. Just wanted to give a tip to all the inexperienced folks out there.
Jannah Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Well in all fairness (in response to the other thread), the man was a complete stranger and his approach immediately following giving him her contact information was very aggressive. Personally, I would have been more concerned for my safety at that point, versus anything else. Nonetheless, I agree with the points that she did volunteer/offer her contact information, so a simple reply would have sufficed.
Author Distant78 Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 Well in all fairness (in response to the other thread), the man was a complete stranger and his approach immediately following giving him her contact information was very aggressive. Personally, I would have been more concerned for my safety at that point, versus anything else. Nonetheless, I agree with the points that she did volunteer/offer her contact information, so a simple reply would have sufficed. She was a complete stranger also. A man isn't the only human species that are strangers. I'm sure if the thread starter was a man, he'd still be looked upon as a stalker for walking up to "a lady." She just randomly walked up to someone because she thought he looked cute and gave him "the business card.":lmao: Now he calls to see about the contract and she closes "the deal" on him.
Jannah Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 She was a complete stranger also. A man isn't the only human species that are strangers. I'm sure if the thread starter was a man, he'd still be looked upon as a stalker for walking up to "a lady." She just randomly walked up to someone because she thought he looked cute and gave him "the business card.":lmao: Now he calls to see about the contract and she closes "the deal" on him. You mean to tell me - that if you met a random woman while out and gave her your business card, she called you that night, left a message saying she she was going to show up at your job, actually showed up at your job in a blizzard first thing in the morning - then emailed you that she showed up at your job, left several other modes of messages, including a freggin fax, that you wouldn't be a wee bit concerned for your safety. I don't buy it.
Author Distant78 Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 You mean to tell me - that if you met a random woman while out and gave her your business card, she called you that night, left a message saying she she was going to show up at your job, actually showed up at your job in a blizzard first thing in the morning - then emailed you that she showed up at your job, left several other modes of messages, including a freggin fax, that you wouldn't be a wee bit concerned for your safety. I don't buy it. Seriously no. If I wasn't with someone now, and she was strikingly beautiful, I gave her my business card and she was on my tip like that, I would NOT be concerned. I would've been returned her calls and we would've been having a boat load of hot sex in my office as the snow piled up outside.:lmao: You're so funny.
Jannah Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Okay, that would never happen. Phoebe Cates fantasy-like, sure, righto.
Art_Critic Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 (edited) Seriously no. If I wasn't with someone now, and she was strikingly beautiful, I gave her my business card and she was on my tip like that, I would NOT be concerned. I would've been returned her calls and we would've been having a boat load of hot sex in my office as the snow piled up outside.:lmao: You're so funny. Dream on dude..... that isn't real life.. If some girl did it to me.. I'd eff'ng think she was fricking nutso... I've been with mental before and would not a repeat performance... While handing someone a card is no difference than giving someone a phone number the next steps made were the guys.. and he eff'd up.. How is how he acted her fault ? You do realize that he faxed her too.. friended her on FB and called her a half a dozen times, showed up at her work as well.. all becuase she gave him a business card.. hahahaha 10-1 she will have to get a TPO on the guy if he doesn't get the message soon. By the way.. the OP of that other thread did error as well in the fact she didn't tell him to not show up at her work but she didn't think she had too since it was snowing with blizzard conditions. that error on her part doesn't give him the right to essentially harass her.. Edited December 29, 2010 by Art_Critic
Art_Critic Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 If any girl did this to a guy he would run like the wind... I've been in close to the same position where you give someone an inch, expect them to take a foot and they take a freakin mile instead and it knocks you off your feet and you don't know how to react.. so you do nothing and that makes it worse till you have to go all out and just tell them to go away.
Seamless74 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 seriously the guy in the thread that the O.P. is referencing was outside of having the balls to actually approach was a total douchebag in his follow through.. People defending his action are idiots.. if I was a girl I would have thought he was being creepy too.. Then if you really wanna follow the line of thinking that she was wrong for giving him her card than you careening even further off the cliff than you already are..
Feelin Frisky Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Well in all fairness (in response to the other thread), the man was a complete stranger and his approach immediately following giving him her contact information was very aggressive. Personally, I would have been more concerned for my safety at that point, versus anything else. Nonetheless, I agree with the points that she did volunteer/offer her contact information, so a simple reply would have sufficed. Not to pick on you Jannah or anything but I feel that everyone who chose to center on that guy's apparent over-zealousness on that other thread were unknowingly cosigning that chick's mistake and poor behavior subsequent to it. We have a chance to help others here and blaming him for his shortfalls and walking away (not that you did that) is missing an opportunity to give the prime offender a wake up call to what SHE did to cause all this. The fact that Distant'78 started this thread indicates that perhaps some of us are still gob-smacked with how little flack she got and how much "what's the problem, he was an @sshole" he got. I thank Mr. Distant for taking the initiative. Maybe on this thread we can tilt the scales to where the problem began--she was not at home upstairs at all. There are consequences to actions and non-actions and there are implications in which people get hurt. She gave him her card which told him he's welcome. He notified her before he went that he would be going to her job and she chose to apply some ditzy rationale to tell herself he won't be there. This guy came through the snow like the intrepid postman and she sent co-workers out to lie to him that she wasn't there. He invested a lot of effort to get there in the heavy snow-storm and stuff like that sometimes makes a determined guy WANT to get some measure of reward out of it--thus, perhaps his persistence. This guy may be a nut but this is the offender's words painting him. She has a vested interest in painting herself the innocent so I give him some likely grace points for being just a lonely guy who got a connection one day from a good-looking girl. I fussed her out and wouldn't let it go on that thread. Now it's time to just ask ladies in general to--fer chrissake--wake up and consider that everything is not just about them. Have a heart for the dumb bastard who takes you at your words.
Art_Critic Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 So you blame his actions on her ?.. hahaha When does personal responsibility for ones own actions kick in ?
Jannah Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 (edited) Not to pick on you Jannah or anything but I feel that everyone who chose to center on that guy's apparent over-zealousness on that other thread were unknowingly cosigning that chick's mistake and poor behavior subsequent to it. We have a chance to help others here and blaming him for his shortfalls and walking away (not that you did that) is missing an opportunity to give the prime offender a wake up call to what SHE did to cause all this. The fact that Distant'78 started this thread indicates that perhaps some of us are still gob-smacked with how little flack she got and how much "what's the problem, he was an @sshole" he got. I thank Mr. Distant for taking the initiative. Maybe on this thread we can tilt the scales to where the problem began--she was not at home upstairs at all. There are consequences to actions and non-actions and there are implications in which people get hurt. She gave him her card which told him he's welcome. He notified her before he went that he would be going to her job and she chose to apply some ditzy rationale to tell herself he won't be there. This guy came through the snow like the intrepid postman and she sent co-workers out to lie to him that she wasn't there. He invested a lot of effort to get there in the heavy snow-storm and stuff like that sometimes makes a determined guy WANT to get some measure of reward out of it--thus, perhaps his persistence. This guy may be a nut but this is the offender's words painting him. She has a vested interest in painting herself the innocent so I give him some likely grace points for being just a lonely guy who got a connection one day from a good-looking girl. I fussed her out and wouldn't let it go on that thread. Now it's time to just ask ladies in general to--fer chrissake--wake up and consider that everything is not just about them. Have a heart for the dumb bastard who takes you at your words. I really do not know all of the semantics and I'm not mocking the guy from that thread, so please do not think that my response was suggestive of such... Edited December 29, 2010 by Jannah
Girlygirl1977 Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I do agree I take some blame for giving him my card. He had a kind, young look to him. That is my greatest mistake. But to give you the facts: -my coworker can see my calls and counted 9 missed calls from him (yesterday and today) -she found the fax today -he also sent a facebook request today (obviously I won't accept it) -He showed up at 11am on Monday after sending an email at 9pm on Sunday which I viewed at 830am which said a few things (at end mentioned he would stop by the address on the card). I hadn't responded to any emails by then really bc it took me a while to get to work with the transportation delays - arrived at 10am and he showed up at 11am. Anyway - I did send him an email now and also responded again to his idea he would stop by tomorrow. I told him I see no reason to meet again and that no I would also not give him my cell. I wished him well. I think I have treated him decently. I also think he is one sandwich shy of a picnic. LOL.
Author Distant78 Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 This is so funny. I can't stop laughing. But Girlygirl1977, just make sure next time you find someone around your age and for godsakes, don't lead him on unless you're absolutely sure about it.
Author Distant78 Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 Dream on dude..... that isn't real life.. If some girl did it to me.. I'd eff'ng think she was fricking nutso... I've been with mental before and would not a repeat performance... While handing someone a card is no difference than giving someone a phone number the next steps made were the guys.. and he eff'd up.. How is how he acted her fault ? You do realize that he faxed her too.. friended her on FB and called her a half a dozen times, showed up at her work as well.. all becuase she gave him a business card.. hahahaha 10-1 she will have to get a TPO on the guy if he doesn't get the message soon. By the way.. the OP of that other thread did error as well in the fact she didn't tell him to not show up at her work but she didn't think she had too since it was snowing with blizzard conditions. that error on her part doesn't give him the right to essentially harass her.. I know, I'm just half-joking but seriously this should be a lesson to not go up to a random young dude and give him her "business number" as if she was trying to promote a product she was selling. Women play the push-pull game all the time.
Feelin Frisky Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I really do not know all of the semantics and I'm not mocking the guy from that thread, so please do not think that my response was suggestive of such... Sorry Jannah. I didn't mean to sound like I was picking on you. Although I tried to soften myself by saying that in my post it was not enough for it to not sound that you were being targeted. I should not have quoted you and found another generic way to say what I did. No way did I imply that you were mocking the guy--it's just that your post was there repeating what I and some others have found a bit baffling. I think what happened is that a lot of people just bought that girl's story as she painted it to make herself look guilt free and him a jerk. She was good at it. But she couldn't pull the wool over the eyes of ol' Frisky. Sorry again for being a bull in a China shop. OK?
Author Distant78 Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 Not to pick on you Jannah or anything but I feel that everyone who chose to center on that guy's apparent over-zealousness on that other thread were unknowingly cosigning that chick's mistake and poor behavior subsequent to it. We have a chance to help others here and blaming him for his shortfalls and walking away (not that you did that) is missing an opportunity to give the prime offender a wake up call to what SHE did to cause all this. The fact that Distant'78 started this thread indicates that perhaps some of us are still gob-smacked with how little flack she got and how much "what's the problem, he was an @sshole" he got. I thank Mr. Distant for taking the initiative. Maybe on this thread we can tilt the scales to where the problem began--she was not at home upstairs at all. There are consequences to actions and non-actions and there are implications in which people get hurt. She gave him her card which told him he's welcome. He notified her before he went that he would be going to her job and she chose to apply some ditzy rationale to tell herself he won't be there. This guy came through the snow like the intrepid postman and she sent co-workers out to lie to him that she wasn't there. He invested a lot of effort to get there in the heavy snow-storm and stuff like that sometimes makes a determined guy WANT to get some measure of reward out of it--thus, perhaps his persistence. Yea. The guy should at least be rewarded for his courage and bravery. Oh well, guess he'll just have to apply that to a girl who will really want him. Her loss.
Jannah Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 This: I know, I'm just half-joking but seriously this should be a lesson to not go up to a random young dude and give him her "business number" as if she was trying to promote a product she was selling. Women play the push-pull game all the time. Does not remotely resemble this: I was shopping at a high end dept store yesterday and met a guy. He seemed very mild-mannered and kind and I spoke a little bit to him. I was a bit nicer as it turns out he just moved recently from where I was born (which is outside the country). I gave him my card bc he seemed to me like a young, decent kid. It turns out he is 25. And furthermore, what right does ANYONE have (let alone a complete stranger) for showing up at someone's place of employment, uninvited? So, how does this equate to her leading him on?
Jannah Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Sorry Jannah. I didn't mean to sound like I was picking on you. Although I tried to soften myself by saying that in my post it was not enough for it to not sound that you were being targeted. I should not have quoted you and found another generic way to say what I did. No way did I imply that you were mocking the guy--it's just that your post was there repeating what I and some others have found a bit baffling. I think what happened is that a lot of people just bought that girl's story as she painted it to make herself look guilt free and him a jerk. She was good at it. But she couldn't pull the wool over the eyes of ol' Frisky. Sorry again for being a bull in a China shop. OK? Fair enough Frisky, no worries.
Author Distant78 Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 This: Does not remotely resemble this: Uhh it does. I was speaking figuratively. Gosh. And furthermore, what right does ANYONE have (let alone a complete stranger) for showing up at someone's place of employment, uninvited? Wait, hold on babe. Why does she get a free pass because she's a female. Some males get stalked too. And why did she have to walk up to HIM in the first place, giving him her "business number" only to run in the opposite direction? WTF? So, how does this equate to her leading him on? She did lead him on! She made the first move!LOL!!!
Jannah Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 Wait, hold on babe. Why does she get a free pass because she's a female. Some males get stalked too. And why did she have to walk up to HIM in the first place, giving him her "business number" only to run in the opposite direction? WTF? She doesn't get a free pass just because she is a woman. Did I not say the exact same thing to you, if the roles had been reversed? But you in turn, said something along the lines of, that it would be no big deal if that had happened to you.
Author Distant78 Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 It's obvious she wanted him, but when the poor guy took the clue, the fish slipped from his fingers and swam away.
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